14 Years Old Son and His 13 Years Old Girlfriend

No way! 1. What kind of mom would let her 13 year old daughter have a boy over alone? And 2. what is a 13 year old doing "dating" anybody? Way too young in my opinion.

No. Not unless you want grandchildren in 9-10 months. Kids have sex much much much younger now. They don't do birth control because it's not cool. They get pregnant as young as 10-12 years old now. So no, not in a million years, no.

I would not allow him to go over there. I have a feeling that the girl is being a little deceitful, and I would not trust her word. I would definitely be calling that girls mom! My oldest is almost 13yrs old and there is no way I would allow her to have a boy over without us being home!

No. Not unless you want to be a grandma.

Talk to the other mom. Chances are she has no clue that her daughter is saying this.

I know what a couple of my friends were doing at this age when their parents weren't home... I sure wouldn't want my kids doing it!

It doesn't matter if they are 13 or 18, don't let them be alone unless you want to become a granny.

NO NO NO NO NO, of course not.
And NO no matter what that girl's mom says.
She is not your son's parent.
YOU are.

Some girls are also very manipulative.
Did the Mom actually tell you this herself? If not it could just be the girl's idea.

But even if the girl is allowed, DO NOT send your son there, alone with the girl.
NO way.
That is asking for TONS of trouble.
Kids that age, can get pregnant.
Does your son know about sex and diseases and preganancy?
If not, now is the time to educate, him.
So he is not so naive.

And yes, kids this age, experiment.
KNOW that.

And... since they are "dating" and are "boyfriend/girlfriend"... you NEED to, also know that girl's parent or parents.
I mean, whatever activity or outing they are doing, don't you all communicate or double check on things/plans with that other parent?
I would.
I mean, the kids could be saying anything. Not that it is parent approved or that the parent knows or said it.
Kids this age, are not naive.
If some girl told my son "you can come over when I am alone, my Mom said you can..." I would not just say "duh, okay" and send my son over.
I would CALL THAT MOM of the girlfriend, and CONFIRM that fact or not. And even if the girl was allowed to, I would NOT send my son over there alone with a girl who is alone. AND I would TELL that Mom, what MY RULES are.
No way....would I just send my son over based on what some 13 year old is saying.
Liability.
And other things.

You have a son.
But do you know... that girls, can start having their period at 9 years old???? That means, they can get pregnant.
They could have had other partners too. They can also have sexually transmitted diseases. They are not all virgins or virtuous.
And your son, needs to know RULES, which YOU put into place.
It is not up to him. He is only a kid.

They don't even know, what girlfriend/boyfriends are, fully. At this age.
And they don't even have fully developed logic or rationality at this age either.

Seriously? NO!!

I hope you've had the pregnancy and STD talk with him...

In my opinion, 13 and 14 is too young to be dating.. I guess I am old fashion.. In which case.. NO NO NO.... I question the girl's mom allowing her to have boys over when no one is around... IF you do decide to let him go, I would talk to the mom first.. just make sure ALL parties are VERY aware of what's going on.... and that you are all on the same page......

I would have your son invite her over if they will be alone at her place. I know a lot of kids that were sexually experimenting at that age.

I wouldn't. As far as I'm concerned, no kids over unless I'm there, especially a boyfriend/girlfriend. Even if you trust your kid, that's just too much temptation.

I wouldn't condone this, but the time is fast approaching where you will not be able control where your son is 24/7, nor what he's doing. If you haven't already, this is the time to have a very frank talk with him about his sexuality and about whatever your feelings are about teenagers having sex and intercourse outside of marriage, in general. You also need to talk to him about the importance of birth control and the risks of sexually transmitted diseases: syphilis (which is on the rise), gonorrhea, HIV, HPV, HBV, and HCV. If you don't feel comfortable about talking to him about these things, take him to see his pediatrician for this discussion.

I do not think it is a good idea. Instead she should be invited to your home while you are there with them.

He will probably be relieved to have you intervene and invite her over to your home.

My mother was very clear about these situations. I was not to have ANYONE at our home if she was not there. It was a safety issue in general.

Um, well why don't you talk to the mom first and get the REAL story? I wouldn't base my parenting decisions on the word of a 13 year old girl.
If it's true and you don't want him over there alone with her, then invite her over to your place. I find the best way to keep tabs on my kids is to have their friends over as much as possible.

Call the girl's mother, just to get a handle on the situation.

And do have a "birds and bees" talk with your son, in case something comes up (no pun intended) next time he is with his girlfriend.

Grandma Mary. It has a nice ring... :)

Nope. No way no how. First, like I'm going to take the word of a 13 year old. Even if her mother said "sure honey, have your 14 year old horny boyfriend over while I'm not home, doesn't mean I am going to allow it. My answer to my son would be "if there is no parental supervisor, you are not going". If he says "but her mom said it was okay", my answer is "your mom says its NOT okay". End of discussion.

Our rule was no friends over if I'm not home. PERIOD. Personally, I think 13/14 is too young to be dating. It should be with a group. Both our kids were not allowed to "car date" until they were 16.

My youngest is 14 and has his very first girlfriend. They would never be allowed in the house alone. My 18 year old was never allowed alone in the house with anyone she dated. I wouldn't send my 14 to his girlfriend's house when her family was not home. It's fine for them to go on dates to the movies and the ice cream place, or to come along with us on outings but I would never leave them unsupervised.

How well do you know his girlfriend and/or her family? Regardless, it would be a big "no way" from me. Too young, and too many red flags. Good luck, Mom.

He is YOUR son. What do YOU allow? How you parent shouldn't depend on what her mother has to say about anything.

I've learned as a mom of a 14 year old myself, that when it comes to teens, communication is the key. communication with the teens as well as the other parents. I feel you should talk to the girls mother and discuss what is and isn't acceptable to her. After that you can make an informed decision based on your child.

I agree with Roma that it's time for the talk about sexuality.

To add to the crowd: No.

Teach your son to respect women, even in the absence of authority. Is it respectful of this young lady to go to her parent's home with her and do God knows what while they're not home?

Even if SHE isn't willing to respect herself, he needs to.

Tell them they can hang out at your house if they want to see each other.

I went to visit my sister in the hospital when she had her first child. I over heard the nurses talking about 2 different 12 year olds that just gave birth😱.

Nope. Invite them over to your house instead.

No, no and again no!!!

Hormones raging...starts out a little kissing and some necking then petting and wham bam...you have sexually active teens (an a whole other kettle of fish to deal with).

If you don't think that will happen at 13 and 14...it will...they need adult supervision. They need the thought in the back of their minds that you mom or dad or a sibling might just walk in on them doing something.

Do I have a problem with a little kissing at that age...no...BUT not total unsupervised time together! I do believe 13, and 14 is way too young for sex.

Yes, and do call and talk with her mother...she may have no problem with it and even tell you that she provides condoms. OR she may have no idea her daughter is inviting boys over when she isn't at home. But find out one way or the other and visit with her.
Good luck!!

No, no, no. You want to be an early grandma? No.

Talk about birth control now!

NO. My 14 year old daughter has a 14 year old boyfriend. They are not allowed to go out on an "official date." During the summer he's visited here twice. A group of them went to a movie and she attended a big family party at his house. They are not left alone.

My daughter and I have an excellent relationship. She tells me almost everything about her life and soon after it happens. She also discusses her feelings (about boys, school, friends, etc.) with me. We've discussed why she isn't allowed to be alone (and I'm under no illusions that they can't find places to be alone when they want to) because she may find "making out/kissing" will lead to other things that she may think she won't do but will want to do.

Keep talking to your son (my 17 year old son tells me everything too so it's not just a girl thing). Talk to him about sex, respect, feelings, dating, and birth control. Hopefully you've been discussing these things all along because it will be harder to start at age 14. Discuss your values and talk about his reactions in different situations as well as the consequences.

My daughter recently said to me "I know you don't want me to get pregnant." I told her I just want her to have enough knowledge to make good decisions because she is the one who has to live with the consequences, not me. I don't phrase it as if I'm forbidding something and give her something to rebel about (I remember my teen years all too well). I put it to her that it is her decision after we have (continually) discussed options, reasons, values, consequences, her future plans, and responsibility. I've given them a good moral and informational foundation and help them to think for themselves. We've had our ups and downs but they are doing well.

No way. Way too risky. They should be hanging out with other kids.