Alright, I need some major help.
Long story short, I went to India for one week, when my daughter was 9.5 months, this was the first time I left her (other than going to work). When I left, my husband sleep trained her and she was sleeping through the night. I came back and she was sleeping fine. THEN, all of a sudden, she started to wake up at night, crawl over to me and then pass out on ME. If I tried to move her, she would wake up and cry until she was resting on me again. This has been going on for a week now. I need HELP - I only get 2 hours of sleep because I don't want her to fall off the bed or smoosh her in any way. How can I get her to be not so clingy and to sleep through the night again?
So she sleeps in our bed, he sleep trained her in our bed (king size), he isn't ready to put her in her crib, as we tried that once and she cried bloody murder! When she wakes up at night, she won't go by him - she only wants me. Which I secretly love - but man I need some sleep to be attentive at work.
Last night she realized I was in bed after 30 seconds and BAM rolled over onto me - I was like please not tonight! My husband and I just looked at each other and I knew I was in for a long night!
Sounds like hubby needs to take over bedtime and getting up with her since you can't do what he does. Not to be mean, but he already fixed this once, let him fix it again.
Have him put her in the crib but put it on his side of the bed. You've seen how they do co-sleeping with a bed of their own? He can put his hand through the bars and stuff like that.
She missed you. She's just happy you're there and happy to have suggle time with you.
Truthfully, let go of the idea that she is going to fall off them bed or you're going to smoosh her. You're not going to smoosh her. It's not going to happen. Study after study has proven that co-sleeping is very safe as long as you're not on drugs or intoxicated. Go to bed sober, and you're fine. You might have a valid fear that she will roll off the bed. No problem. Just put pillows or cushions or blankets on the floor next to the bed. That way if she does roll off, she won't get hurt.
Many parents co-sleep safely. We co-slept with both of our boys for about 1 1/2 years each. Neither one of us ever smooshed them, and they never fell off the bed ... though we did have pillows and blankets on the floor just in case.
Not sure I follow. How did your husband sleep train her? Where does she normally sleep?
I let my last one sleep with me. When she was done with the night time nursings, I moved her into a crib so we'd all sleep better. Although I know some people co-sleep - no judgement here. Whatever works :)
Hard to say if she's feeling clingy because she missed you - mine were kind of oblivious at that age to stuff like that. But if it were me, and I was that tired, I'd go sleep on the couch and let my husband deal with it - if he was so successful. If you're considering getting her into a crib, that would be time to do it. Good luck :)
Ok.
You're going to have to accept that she's going to cry while she adjusts - but once she adjusts - you will ALL get some more sleep.
Just accept that crying is not going to hurt her.
Though it WILL grate on your nerves.
Get some ear plugs.
Get her into her crib.
She sleeps here from now on.
Naps too.
For a little bit of short term pain - in hearing her cry - you will gain a lot of sleep once she settles in to her new routine.
It's OK to reclaim your bed.
If your HUSBAND isn't ready for her to be in a crib - then HE can sleep with her on the king size bed and you need to sleep somewhere else - another bed or the couch or where ever.
Just tell Hubby he gets you back when child learns to sleep elsewhere.
Sorry this is happening. She's been through some changes in her routine and she's mixed up.
She's not sleep trained though - that's the problem. Your husband either has to deal with her entirely on his own, or the 2 of you have to agree to sleep train her into her crib.
And you are enjoying her choosing of you - that's the problem too!
If it helps, you aren't the only one who is sleep deprived. Your daughter absolutely needs uninterrupted sleep for her own brain development! I have no idea why your husband is refusing to allow her to learn to do this. Talk to the pediatrician, both of you, and inform the doctor that none of you is sleeping, including the infant, for more than a few hours. The doctor will urge you to stop that!
It's 3 rough nights, on average, to sleep train a child. You have to learn to calm them down without picking them up, and they have to learn to calm themselves.
Seems to me you have limited options here. Either sleep train her again in her crib or get used to the status quo. Let's face it, whenever you move her from your bed, you are going to have some tearful nights, whether it's now or later.
Did he sleep train her in her crib or your bed? Not sure I follow this?
Have your husband sleep train her again. Work with him this time and be sure not to undermine the success.
F. B.
try to enjoy it, you will miss being able to cuddle a baby that you CAN sleep with when that baby is half your size and kicks in her sleep. at that point its impossible to let her sleep with you for very long.
sigh.
she's 10 months old.
you have the ability to remove her from your bed. i can't help you do that.
your husband did not sleep train her if she's still in your bed crying.
if your husband 'isn't ready' to put her in her crib, he gets up with her.
she's 10 months old. she's not forcing you to do anything.
you either sleep train her correctly, or you deal with sleepless nights.
it's your choice.
khairete
S.
Go sleep in another bed. Since your husband isn't willing to let her cry, he can sleep with her.
