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A.,
I know exactly what you are going through. I had a tubal reversal back in March of 2004. I went to see Dr. Levin in Kentucky. That was a bad choice! I don't even want to go into details, because I don't want to relive that trauma.
I became pregnant right away, but it was ectopic, so I had my tube removed. Finally, after 4.5 years of trying with my one gimpy, but open tube, I listened to my OB here and went for IVF. I am currently 12 weeks pregnant with twins :)
My OB says here in California they don't do tubal reversals much because it ends up too often in an ectopic. So if I had to do it again, I would skip the tubal reversal fiasco and just have the IVF. The piece of information that I wish I had known before the TR is that just because the tube is reconnected successfully and is open, doesn't mean it will be fully functional. When the egg is fertilized, it happens in the tube and the muscles in the tube need to push it down into the uterus so the embryo can implant somewhere safe and cozy. After a TR there's no guarantee the muscles will work properly, no matter how good of a job they do reconnecting them, so you may end up with ectopics and heartaches.
Now this is just my opinion, based on my experience. However, I have read that some women have gone the opposite route and done IVF first with no success. They had a TR done and were successful. The only thing I would recommend no matter which route you take is stay close to home and go with a doctor you trust COMPLETELY. (I can highly recommend East Bay Fertility Center in Dublin, CA)
I would love to hear how it has been being a mom of twins! I am excited and scared...
Good Luck and Baby Dust :)
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