Are You Mom Enough? Here's 5 Reasons You Are
As a mom, it seems we are always angsting if we are mom enough – are we doing enough, are we doing it right? Although after almost three years, my worries in these areas have abated somewhat, I am still teased periodically by the thought and the worry and guilt of whether I am mom enough. So for every mom who doubts it for just one second… this is exactly why you are mom enough …
Because there are only so many hours in the day
From the minute your eyes are forced open by the word “MAMAAAAAA” ringing in your ears, you are catapulted into a crazy world of relentless tasks, thoughts, highs, lows, worries and schedules, until the sweet moment your head hits that pillow you have missed so much all day. For every waking hour, you are mom enough.
Because there is no real blueprint as to how to be a mom these days
Today’s moms navigate an unchartered territory where being a good mom and being a self-fulfilled woman in her own right wrestle and wrangle to take pole position. We know too much, without really knowing anything. We want so much, but can we have it all? The only blueprint we can safely follow is that where we accept we are mom enough.
Because you are the sum of all your experiences
Not all moms are equal, some of us come with emotional issues from our own childhoods, health issues, or unrealistic expectations put on us by our own families or society. Motherhood manifests feelings brought up from these chapters in ways we always thought we could sidestep. Make peace and know you are mom enough.
Because your children will remember who you are, not what you did
Will our children remember our smiles or our achievements? Will they remember our warmth or our aspirations? Our children won’t remember if we got the little things right or wrong, they will remember the person that you were when they growing up, and that you were mom enough.
Because you did what was right at the time
Whether you breastfed, bottle fed, delivered naturally, through C-section, co-slept, cried it out, baby wore, used a stroller, went to work, stayed at home – so long as your children are happy and healthy, know this – you are mom enough.
Do you have to remind yourself that you are mom enough? What else would you add to this list?
If you are worried whether you are mom enough, you are not alone. Reach out to the awesome collective that is Mommitment for non judgemental support and advice. For even more support you can also visit our very own Mamapedia Community Forum to ask questions and seek advice directly from other Moms.
Motherhood: The Real Deal is run by Talya, a mum to a very intense, amazing little toddler gal who most of the time specializes in driving her round the bend. Having given up the working mum role when she hit 12 months (she was the co-founder and Editor-in-Chief for an online lifestyle platform) she’s sat on both sides of the fence as a working and then stay-at-home mum and like many, has grappled with the issues which come hand in hand with both scenarios. You can follow Talya on Facebook, Twitter, and Pinterest.
