My thirteen-year-old daughter has a fear of using the bathroom away from home, specifically pooping, and will give herself stomachaches to avoid doing it at school, when it's really bad and she can't hold it she tries to get me to pick her up from school, or go home when we are out in public, how do I balance her comfort and also not letting it control our lives.
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For a 3 year old - that's believable.
For a 13 yr old - it's not believable.
There is no teenager that's going to obsess over pooping like this.
Trolling a dead site is pathetic.
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RN L has some great suggestions. It does sound you have some low-pressure conversations about why she doesn't feel comfortable pooping in a public stall. Then you can help her get through those mental obstacles. Getting picked up from school or having to go home to poop are not viable for high school or life as an adult. Good luck with ti!
Most of the posts on this site these days are not real, so that is why you are not getting much advice.
If your daughter sees this as a problem, then get her a therapist who can help her work on it.
If she doesn't think it's a problem she wants to work on, I think you want to be low key and supportive, but don't go out of your way too much. You can be sympathetic, but you do not share her concerns, whatever they are. You can let her know that you understand this is hard for her, but you can't promise to always pick her up or go home. Prepare her by seeing if she will try to brainstorm some ways that she can feel more comfortable if absolutely necessary. If she can say what her worries are, see if she is open to hearing reality. Like if she's worried there won't be enough toilet paper, have her carry a pack of Kleenex in her pocket. If she's worried about the smell, remind her everyone poops.
One of my sons had this issue and rarely used the bathroom away from home until he was older. I was working and picking up was not an option, so he would be uncomfortable, and later eventually got over it. His wasn't a true phobia, and I can't tell here how severe your daughter's fears are, but as I said, if it's severe, I'd suggest counseling.
