WV Public School Teacher Bullying

Updated on February 15, 2011
C.A. asks from Morgantown, WV
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Hello the Wed before the school's Halloween Party. My son came home hysterically sobbing talking about a teacher that he has been complaining about all year as being "MEAN", "Doesn't like me" etc. Well my son is not a crier and I have never seen him so upset. When I got him calm down enough to tell me some things that were wrong. He said the teacher got in his face and screamed at him skinny punk 6-7 times. He said she was right in his face and he thought she was going to beat him up. She than asked for his favorite silly Bandz broke it "to teach him a lesson". Than she put him in time out for the whole recess. I asked my son if there were any other witnesses and he gave me the names of them and all of them besides the teacher confirmed everything. The other students said they were really scared to and they weren't the ones in trouble. It turns out my son didn't even do anything wrong in the first place. I went to the principal with my complaint and with my list of witnesses to the incident. She said from second one "this absolutely did not happen" over and over again. and pretty much bullied me out the door an hour later Telling me the situation is over with and dealt with. Well when i got home i called my mom and tol her about everything. She called the principal and 5 mins later we all had a meeting with the BOE and Principal the following day. The principal kept her same attitude but the Board Members order her to do an investiagation by the following Moday and to have a meeting to let me know of her findings. The next day of school my son came home all upset. Saying the teacher was on her cell phone numerous time calling me a character assainator him a lying. Talking to other teacher and stundents and getting her older 5th grade class to bullying my child. Monday end of school day Principal calls me and just repeating over and over stuff the board put into action immediately. I asked her what had changed. She told me that the students did support my sons story. That she wanted a meeting with the teacher principal guidance conselor and my son so they could come up with ways to move on from this. She apologies for the teacher and her behavior since the BOE meeting. I said no I will be there to protect my son's interest. We set up a meeting for wed. Well the teacher called off Wed & thurs. The principal called wed and told us the teacher was sick and they weren't sure when she would be back but as soon as she was we would have a meeting to apologies and come up with plans to move on. Well it's been 2 weeks and I haven't heard from anyone. Mt mom wants to get a lawyer and dropped off three retainment papers of her top choices? what do I do from here? I'm trying my best to stand up for my child and the children of my childs school.

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Currently I called the school tuesday and today and left messages both days. The secretary today informed me that the principal was in training and would be back tomorrow. She assured me she would relay the messages and make sure it is the first message she receives. We don't have a vice principal and most of the time no one in charge is there. When I talk to her I plan on telling her that I thought I had given her ample amount of time to set up another meeting. I am going to tell her if I don't have the meeting by friday or sometime MWF (the days I've learned that all parties should be at school) I will be taking all my recordings and the WV Bullying Law, WV State BOE, WV County law, and enforce the school to right a clear bully code in there handbook which is already a law. I will make sure they follow the law already set forth. I didn't want it to come to that extreme but I feel that they are pushing me that way. I will not be afraid to use the law or the media to protect my/our children. I believe all children are sacred. By the way My son generally doesn't get into trouble and he doesn't pull any cards at school. This teacher has never made a complaint to me against william and no one has ever told me they have had any problem with my son beside doodling on his notebooks. Since the Wed this first happened my son has been sleeping in my bed. He has been fighting with me about going to school which he formerly loved school. Now he is begging to be homed schooled but I feel children need to socialize with other children. The Assist superintendent called the principal the day we set up the apology meeting and reprimanded both the teacher and the principal for discussing the issue public which let to her students and her bullying my son, and he's been talking to the guidance counselor. He thinks I'm just making things worse. Originally I just wanted the teacher to apologies to my son and tell him there are better ways to handle the situation than what she did. I than wanted the school to keep an eye on her and extend her a hand out to her because obviously this is a stress out teacher for one reason or another and her stress is getting the best of her. I also don't think it is too much to ask to put a note in her file so heaven forbid there is ever a situation like this again someone else already has evidence and the teacher should have a hard look at then. Teacher are not holy than everyone else they are human. They make mistakes but sometimes a mistake is a sign of things to come. Sometimes people just need to unite to make a change. I just want to keep our kids safe. Kids should always feel safe at school, home, and churches as far as i'm concerned and our children don't feel this way. They are crying out for a voice to say they are important and they don't deserve to be treated this way. Thanks so much for everyones comments!!! I will be checking back constantly. I thought about bringing in blank greeting cards and encourage the teacher to write a compliment to everyone of her students in her classrooms and one for my child. That's if and when we ever have this meeting what do you think of thegreeting card idea. I thought of donating a bunch to my child's teacher and see if she will encourage the students to write nice things about each other. Well the principal called today and she said that she felt since so much time had past and it's the holiday season we should just forget about the meeting and move on. She said she didn't call me back to let me know her decision because she has a lot of other problems at the school to deal with not just mine!!! and than she hung up on me SHE HUNG UP ON ME. I called her back and told her that I had been recording all of our phone conversation and asked if I should take the tapes to the BOE she said she would call me back by the end of the date with a time for an meeting that she would have to check with all parties plans and that she PROMISED to call back by the end of today. Well she called me back and told me that she wasn't able to set up a meeting for friday but she would get a hold of me later. I asked ever if the teacher couldn't meet us tomorrow why didn't she ask about Mon, tues, wed, etc.? She said I wasn't ever going to have a meeting with Mrs. Hall and that Mrs. Hall is not a part of this. I said what do you mean she isn't a part of this and I said in the stundent handbook it says ask for a meeting with the teacher through the principal and you will have one in a timely fashion. She said she is calling in other people that she couldn't get a hold of and that person so she couldn't set up the meeting? I ask who this person is and she said That" I didn't need to know who it was but that I had better be prepared!! " What is that suppose to mean? I am just trying to make sure my son is safe at school and is treated with basic human rights. I have never used a curse world and have never threaten anyone? Why do I have to be afraid of but the retaliation my son is already going through.

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B.C.

answers from Norfolk on

You call every day. Take names numbers and write down what they say. You let them know you are not going to forget and you are not going to let them forget either.
No kidding the teacher is sick (that works on so many levels). She needs to not be in a classroom until she's had a lot of therapy. If she's tenured they might not be able to fire her, but she could be shuffling papers in the office instead of torturing kids in a classroom.
Calling the media is not a bad idea. You can't wait on this too long or the issue will get cold, and they will try to sweep it under the rug.

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L.M.

answers from Dover on

Call to see about the meeting. If principal has still not arranged it, contact BOE again.

While you are waiting, what is going on w/ your son? Is he in this class still?

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M.L.

answers from Houston on

I would call the media. They loooove teacher school bully stories!!

Document everything, including witness statements, the harassment you have received from the principal and they will change their stories to the media soon enough and be caught in their lies.

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D.P.

answers from Pittsburgh on

I agree--YOU call to see when the meeting is going to be! Follow up with the BOE. Has this teacher been back to school? (ask your son) Seriously, it sounds like maybe this teacher is having some kind of break-down....No child should be treated that way!

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T.N.

answers from Albany on

Hi C., it's possible the teacher quit to avoid being fired or even reprimanded which will stay in her records. Likely the school will not tell you this unless you ask. In order to protect students in other districts from this teacher I hope you'll follow through even if the offending teacher is no longer emplyed by the district. Please continue to call them, better yet, GO to the school to speak with the administration if you can.

Often times on the site I read posts from parents trying to micromanage their children's lives by nit-picking and second guessing whatever their child's interpretation of what happened with staff/other children/administration, etc.

Your situation is not that. Most teachers work hard to educate your child and work with families for what's best for the kids. THIS teacher has actually been abusive and THIS principal has NOT been advocating for your child. I applaud you for the steps you have already taken and sincerely hope you will continue to push through the follow up (even if the teacher is no longer with the district).

I am so sorry this has happened to you, and especially your son.

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J.L.

answers from Chicago on

It seems a little premature to retain an attorney. I would continue to follow-up with the Princial and the Board Memeber to make sure this doesn't fall through the cracks nor is it swept under the carpet. Your son should continue to do his normal routine so he can be just a kid. If you don't get any results then pursue it.

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M.J.

answers from Houston on

Keep standing up and do whatever you have to. I too am fighting this with a 8th grade history teacher bullying and harrassing children. My child happens to be the advocate because she took Rachael's Challenge. She feels the need to stand up for her class. I am advocating outside the school but they give these teachers tenure and you cant touch them. Check with your local law enforcement on bullying laws. There are federal and usually state laws also. I will let you know how mine turns out.

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K.I.

answers from Oklahoma City on

you did'nt say how old is your son, but I think you are acting in the best interested of your child and f I was you I will call the media if they don't come with something soon..

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