Writing Across the Behind of Pants/shorts

I think that is ridiculous. Being so high-strung about what clothes they wear are is going to make them rebel. I think the college sweats that say the school name on the chest and butt are cute - you can make anything inappropriate if you want it to be.

Hi L., I personally don't care for those types of clothes. I don't think they're appropriate for girls or women for that matter. It gives people, some sick, some not, an excuse to look at a female's behind. I think it's the most ridiculous fad out there.

I would put them away too...for good! I personally think it's tacky & inappropriate regardless of age.

My husband and I have always felt strongly about what our daughters will, and will not, wear. The thought for us is that if we start with what we feel is appropriate, and inappropriate, clothing and explain to them as they get older, then they will make good clothing choices when they are older. Our oldest is 4 1/2 and knows that she can't wear a bikini, if her shirt comes over her belly button when her arms are raised, or if her hands touch skin in shorts/skirts she can't wear them - end of discussion. Our younger daughter, at 3, is starting to get it. Words on the behind are also out. It draws the eyes to an area that shouldn't have the eyes drawn to. We've received gifts that don't fall within our rules, which are strict when compared to the style, and I've returned them. If I were you, I would return them or give them to someone else. Stick to your values - the lessons we teach our children today will guide them in the decisions they make tomorrow.

They're your kids -- why are you taking a survey? Who cares who else thinks it's appropriate?

Donate them, take them to a consignment store or return them to the original store and replace them with something you do think is appropriate.

I am really not a fan of 'parenting by popular vote'... You have to live with the values you impart with your children -- how do you plan to explain 'well, everyone else thinks it's okay...' when you won't take that as an excuse for their poor behaviour?

I think they're young enough for you to impose your will. In about 3 - 4 years, pick your battles wisely. "Lucky Girl" is mild compared to some I've seen!

No way. I wouldn't allow my 5 year old daughter or son to wear something with wording on the behind. It's inappropriate for anyone under 18 to wear such clothing. Same goes for halter tops, tank tops, daisy dukes, well, you get my drift. It draws attention to the wrong place. I agree with the other post that if an adult chooses to wear something like that, that's ok, but not a child.

MC

It only gets worse! Now is the time to explain why you don't want your girls wearing certain things. What a person wears tells the rest of the world something about them. That way when they are asked in school, which they will be at some point, they have a reason for not choosing certain clothing items. Shopping for pre teens is awful!

I don't have daughters but I am with you on this one. Every time I see girls/women wearing those I find them to be terribly tacky. I think you made the right call with this one.

I agree with everyone else.....TACKY! My daughter and I too saw a young mother with writing on her behind...it was my 15 year olds response that caught me off guard.... only HO HO's where those! Good choice mom...it only gets more interesting...

I totally agree with you as well! It bothers me that they make clothing like that for young girls...the whole purpose of the writing is to draw attention to your behind...why in the world would you want to draw attention to your 5 year old! There's too many sickos out there, we shouldn't be encouraging them as parents but discouraging them from looking at our children! My husband and I struggle with issues like this with our 2 year old! Some of the clothing they make is similar to what I didn't wear until I was in my 20's and going to the bar!!! I will NOT let my daughter wear stuff like that!! Good luck...stick to your morals!!

I totally agree with you, it just doesn't seem "right". When I go into the stores, I've been noticing how inappropriate little girls clothes have become, not all, but some.

Greetings L.,

Stand your ground. I agree with you. I don't feel they are appropriate either. Advertisement across the buttocks is not appropriate for any female especially young girls. To me that is like saying come and get it!
Let folks know how you feel about this issue, so hopefully no one will give that as a present again to your girls or to anyone else.
Much success to you.

I think it all depends on what is actually written across their butt that makes it appropriate or not. "lucky girl" doesn't seem too bad.

Hi, I think you made the right decision to set those aside. I think that clothing manufacturers keep pushing the juniors/teen style down to children and it is shameful. Now we have "tweens" and it is acceptable for them to do and buy thing once only available to teenagers. They are only children for so long before our culture encourages them to wear makeup and focus on looks. If you have reservations - return them and but something cute and appropriate. Have a great day and enjoy your girls!

I totally agree! I personally think they look awful on any age girl/woman. We have strict rules on modest apparel. My daughter (4) isn't allowed bikini, sleeveless, low waisted pants, short shirts. I mean pants for girls are cut a little low and even pants in her size show underwear when bending/sitting. I am looking for bodysuits or onesie type shirts for girls just to keep her behind covered. And it's not just pedophiles you need to worry about. My friend had her young daughter molested by a young female babysitter, and they dress modestly.
When you start at a young age sticking to modest dress it won't be so big a change or shock when they get older. A modest young women is much more beautiful than any revealing/inappropriate clothing could ever hope to make her.

Just one mom's opinion, but I think it's clearly saying, "Hey! Look at my butt!" And is that really the message we want our little girls (or older girls!) sending? My daughter is 16 and refuses to wear any clothing with words on the behind. (Thank goodness!)

I think your right about the jeans. I have a 5 1/2 and she is growing to fast. Anything to try to slow it down.

L., I am with you- I wouldn't put them on my daughter if we are going out in public. I emphathize with the difficulty of "wasting" a gift- but I agree that it it totally inappropriate. I would compromize by letting the girls wear them around the house- maybe as jammies?

Writing on the behind is made for one thing- to draw attention to that area. IMO- I don't want anyone studying my child's area. I want people to look at their face not their body. For me (and my husband firmly agrees) this is a modesty issue. Kids today are growing up faster and faster... let them be children! My opinion might not be popular but it is our conviction. I think you're totally justified in setting these clothes aside. If you really want to use them anyway, perhaps they can be worn at home, inside the house or perhaps you can take them back and get something else more suitable for their age.

While "lucky girl" is largely benign, I don't allow my 6 year old to wear any writing on her butt simply because there are enough creepy guys out there, I don't want to draw attention to my precious little one's behind.
I agree with a previous poster they could be sand box pants, just something to wear at home. I did the same thing when my daughter begged for a bikini. We got one, but its ONLY for at home use.

I tend to feel the same way especially when it involves little girls. I also don't care for Bratz dolls.

Well, I guess it's fine if you want everyone to look at your daughters butts everytime they're up and about. In my opinion it only invites immoral behavior. I mean, really, how many weirdos are out there! I think it's absolutely ridiculous to have our young girls and ladies wear things to draw attention to their behinds. Guys are going to look at them eventually but why promote it, especially at a very young age. Thank you for putting the pants aside and having a sensible opinion.

I totally agree with you, L.! I don't think attention needs to be drawn to anyone's behind, let alone 5 1/2 year old girls!
I'll never forget just recently seeing the word 'juicy' across some older, sagging woman's nasty sweatpants.......do these people actually think that looks good??
I surely do NOT!
You did the right thing setting aside your daugthers' birthday gifts, in my opinion anyway!
L.

I agree it is totally inappropriate especially for young girls to have stuff written on their bottoms! However, my 6 year old has a pair of sweats with writing on them and I allow her to wear them at home only and in the MUD!!! lol
Don't waste clothes just use them for play at home or donate them!

I totally agree with you. I think it's inappropriate for girls of any age. It brings attention to the behind and in this day and age, girls need to be careful not to send the wrong message.

I am with you-I think it is sort of 'trashy' and puts out a snotty message. My oldest daughter is JUST 3 (have a 21 mos. old too) but I don't think she'll be allowed to wear that kind of clothes for a LONG time (if ever)!! Hold your ground. I think 5 is way too young-and if you start allowing them to wear that kind of clothing now what will they want to wear in years to come??????? Why would designers even make clothes for that young age???? AND, who would buy them for that young an age??????????????

Our 8 year old daughter has some. She has a couple pairs that say soccer and a couple that say cheer (cheerleading). We allow her to wear those, but she will never wear some of the other ones that i see out there... The absolute worst one was a pair of shorts, and I think it was the brand name, but they said "juicy". She vill NEVER wear those or anything that I think has a negative conotation. I have seen some bad ones.. Not that she would ask, She is a very conservative girl! Hope this helps!

I agree with you. I consider myself to be a pretty liberal person, but I am not comfortable having anyone read wording on my child's behind. If they're "Lucky Brand" capris, you could probably get each girl a cute outfit for the price the gift giver paid for the pants.

I agree that "butt-writing", especially on the rears of young girls, is not appropriate. Why should you, as a mom, want to draw people's attention to their backsides? For babies, maybe, it's cute, but as they get older (and more on the radar of pedophiles and such), it's just not right.

I personally HATE it!! I think it gives "permission" (that's the best word I can think of) for people to look at your children's bottoms. Every pedophile you walk by can freely "scope out your child" with the excuse " I was just reading their pants". My husband is a cop and believe me there are more of these people out there than you would believe. Plus, little girls learn early that they can get attention that way. That's not the lesson I would teach my girls. plus all I can picture is some nasty man saying "wanna get lucky.. lucky girl." I don't think "lucky girl" is a benign statement at all.

Gee, I thought that trend was almost over. I also agree that the butt writing is terribly tacky, maybe you can give me some advice on how to get my alomst 60 year old mother to stop wearing them... LOL good luck with your girls.

I agree with you. With the writing on the behind of the shorts, you draw the attention from other people to this body part and I don't think that this is appropriate. I think that it is in general hard to get good clothes for girls with the age 5 and up. The clothes are too adult looking (mini skirt, shoes with a heel,etc.).

I am with you - I would not let me daughter wear it either. I do not think it is appropriate.

I agree with you. My girls are now 10 & 13, and this has been the rage for at least 5 years now. At first we didn't like it, and we still don't. We have relaxed about this a little, but it depends on what is written. Luckily, my girls aren't crazy about this either, so it doesn't come up too often. I don't think bringing attention to their derriere is consistent with teaching modesty.

I couldn't agree with you more L.. It is totally inappropriate to draw attention to a child's behind, which is exactly what writing there does. I don't think it should be on adult clothes either. :)

I would suggest taking the capri's back to the store and letting the girls pick out something else to replace.
Have fun shopping!!

Good for you! I don't even think it's approprite for teens to have writing across their bottoms. (By the way, I'm 23 years old, so this is definately not a generation thing.)

Yes, inapprorpiate for sure! I don't like it either. Once my daughter recieved a t-shirt from a friend that said "Come on over, my parents are gone" Can you believe??? We threw it right away!

Stick to your morales, your girls will be better for it!

GL:)

Another agreement, here! There are SO many adorable ways to embellish clothing, why does it need to be across the butt?! I have seen many cute outfits, only to change my opinion about the outfit (and girl) when I see the words on the butt!

And as for Linda C...this isn't a survey...it's a mom doing self-evaluation to make sure her views are appropriate or possibly need revamping to try to be the best parent she can! I do it all the time and I HOPE other moms do too. It guards against being closed-minded snobs, and shows our children that we are willing to take their views into consideration to make the best decisions for them! Get off your soapbox!

~L.

L.,

I agree with you that writing across the behind is not appropriate at any age. I think there is enough emphasis on a girl's and woman's body with out drawing direct attention to a particular part of it.

Val K

Don't change your mind on this one! I was in middle school when the whole "writing on the butt" trend first appeared. I didn't like it then, and I don't like it now. It's always seemed to me like the message is "look at my butt!" or possibly "kick me here." Neither of those seems like an appropriate message for a 5 year old girl to be giving off.

I agree with you. My oldest is 15 and my husband will not allow her to wear anything with writing across her buttom. It attracts attention, possibly the wrong attention from the wrong people. Also, I find most of the sayings inappropiate for kids. They can be very suggestive.

L.,

I see that you have already received a ton of responses, but I couldn't help sending you my own. I applaud you!!!! I have hated that trend from the moment it came out. My daughters were mid to late teens by then (they're 18 and 21 now). One daughter had one pair of sweat pants with something written on the behind. I hated them, I let her know exactly what I thought of it and why. She only wore them in the house and that was the only pair ever purchased between the two. I took the opportunity in malls to point out how it looked on others and what it Truly said to those reading it.

Thank you again for asking the question and letting us all vent with you.

L.

We in our family agree. While I have all boys, my brother has girls and it is a firm rule that they cannot wear pants that have writing on the behind. Let people know that is your rule, I never felt offended when he told me that.

I just thought i would let everyone know that when you see the words "Juicy" or "Pink" across bums, it does'nt really "mean" anything, it is just the brand of clothing. At least I don't think so anyways! However, in the world we live in today, I don't think it's appropriate for young girls to wear. If they are going to, it should be at home for sleep or play i guess. I do have a pair of Victoria's Secret PINK sweats, but i wear them at home b/c i think their cute & comfy! My daughter just laughs b/c she thinks they say pink b/c the pants themselves are the color pink. That's all. I'm glad there are parents who decide to be parents and not let everyone else teach their children how to be!! :)

Lynnete, I agree with you also. I also have twin girls, they just turned 2. I dont think I would approve of them having writing on thier behinds either. I have a 12 year old daughter as well and I dont even like her wearing that stuff.
~Jaded

Not a fan of the writing on the butt , however for little ones i don't mind. it is when they get older 9 7 on up) that I find it inappropriate.
I personally am appalled by the little girl clothes I find at the store trying to make little girls into 17 year olds!

Stand by your guns i say! Little girls and boys are just that Little girls and boys. There is enough sexual overtones in todays TV, media etc to join in by dressing our children to draw attention to private areas!

Those kinds of items are good for PJ's when no one else is around or "play" clothes-like the sandbox. Some place that "if they get dirty or ruined" you won't be too sad.

Good luck

My daughter also got a pair of those. I didn't care for them, however, my daughter thought the writing on the butt was silly and wanted to wear them...so, I just made them play pants. They are only to be worn at the house when it's just mom and her. She is so ruff on them, the lettering is pretty worn and faded. This way, I can at least tell the person who gave them to her, she loves to wear them (it was a family member that gave them, so I didn't want to return them).

L. I agree with you. It may not mean anything to a 5 year old but you are the parent. If you can return the clothing you might want to do that.

Hi L.,

I too have girls, so I'm careful about this too. I didn't mind my girls wearing the writing when they were little (3-5). It didn't have a negative or inappropriate connotation to me I guess, at that age. Now that they are older, I don't allow it, and especially don't like some of the messages I see on teens! Where are their mothers! You do what you feel is right for your family. If you're uncomfortable with it, by all means, return them for some plain ones! Enjoy those sweeties and God Bless!
J.

I think that they are cute, I know what you mean you don't want them faunting their back side, But I think that until they are old enough to be attracting the boys they should be ok. By about the teen years my Daughter only wears pj pants like that around the house. The other day at soccer there was a soccer mom with words on her butt. Eehw!

L.,

I have to agree with you 110%!!! These days it's getting worse and worse and starting younger and younger for girls. It's hard being a female, especially growing up!

I would put them away too. Why is there writing on the butt anyways??? Obviously, it's to draw attention and if I were you I wouldn't want ANYONE looking at my young daughter's precious INNOCENT butt!

Good for you for setting them aside.

Trust me, protect your girls from all the junk out there as much as you can. It's unbelievable what goes on. My sister is in middle school and she has such horror stories! A twelve year old boy even brough condoms into school. Know where he got them? His DAD!!! He told him that he'd be needing them soon! What's wrong with kids today??? Their PARENTS!!! Good for you for being a good Mom! :)

L.:
I am a mother of two twenty-something girls and I agree with you. Other than maybe the name of a school sports team on sweats or warm-ups, I think it's usually tacky. Bringing attention to a little girl's behind somehow has a sexual connotation which is entirely inappropriate. If you have any misgivings about it, I say go with your gut.

I agree that what is written makes a difference. I also think that with little ones, it's kind of cute. My daughter (when she was that age) had some shorts where one said "angel" and one said "cheer" on the butt. And I thought they were cute on her. Now that she's older (11) she's not even "into" that sort of thing but if she was I'd be selective about what is written there because I know how things can sound suggestive. But I don't think "lucky girl" is that bad, especially to a 5 yr old. They probably are very LUCKY to have a mom as caring as you.

Blessings!

Kudos to you. Wish more parents paid the least little bit of attention to what their children are wearing. I have three girls. I've talked with lots of women who feel the same way and even men who say it's "trampy". That's not the label I want my girls to get, ever.

L.,

I work in retail for a big retail store chain in the clothing department and i tottally agree with u. Its sad that todays society with marketing and models that they have bad influences on young ones. But its the parents like u and the others i see with their child shopping sayin there is NOO way in GOD that ur gettin that, That helps the world revolve around the market of avoiding these things. There is some stuff that we get in that all of us workers r like OH MY... especially in the juniors department. So jsut to let u know ... along with these other 99 post there is more parents out there concerned with this situation then u all think. Teach and the child will learn.
good luck T.

L. you are right to take a stand. We as moms must set the standard for the right type of dress. This is inappropriate dress for girls. It is a billboard on the butt!! What examples do we want our girls to embrace. What we instill in them when they are young will be their mode of operation later. Think of the teen years coming down the pike. I saw this video called Onslaught on Dove.com and I think it helps to make the point that we are talking about here. http://www.dove.us/#/features/videos/default.aspx[cp-docu... We as moms want to be the biggest influence in our childrens lives. Thanks for letting me share. - K.

Hello L.,
I totally agree with you! I think we are trying to make our kids (especially girls) grow up way too quickly. Let little girls be little girls and where little girl clothes. That is just my opinion but I thought I'd let you know that someone agrees with you!

L., like you I agree that it is inappropriate. It draws attention to a persons beind and I don't believe that it is appropriate for anyone to wear! We all have to be aware of the message this sends not only to our children, but to everyone. Do we, as parents, really want strangers looking at our girls behinds?? Any girls behind? L. S.

Hi L.,
I see you have MANY responses but I had to say my husband and I were walking with out 2 boys (2 and almost 5). There were 2 girls that we past (teenish) and they both had shorts on that had writing on their butts. We went to the park and saw little girls with the same shorts on. My husband leans over to me and says, "I'm kind of glad we didn't have any girls because there would be no way they would where those at any age". I don't understand the parent that would let their girls where these. Why would you want to draw attention to your childs bottom? Stand strong for your decision.
Chris

I'm so excited to see that I'm not the only "prude" mom out there! Honestly, I feel like I'm a very forward-thinking woman but I just feel that our society continues to sexualize young girls and I feel that clothing like this only adds to it. Sometimes the message is totally harmless (and "lucky girl" seems pretty harmless) but it's a slippery slope... Why else would one put writing across their rear end other than to get people to look at it? Congrats on having the courage to follow your convictions. Best wishes!

I do not know where this style came from (Victoria's Secret maybe??) but I think it is so slutty. To see older girls with "Juicy" written across their rear end is awful, but little girls with "Sweet" is just as bad. I draw the line and insist my daughter not wear anything where people read her bottom.

L.,

I agree 100% with you. I have a daughter who is now 17 years old, and pants with sayings written across the butt became popular when she was first entering her teens. I immediately made it clear she would not be allowed to wear anything that draws attention to her behind. And let me be clear, I am in NO WAY a prude, but I think there's a reason for the writing to be placed where it's being placed, and our daughters already get enough undesireable sexual attention without adding to it. Return the pants for something more appropriate. Good luck!

I'm with you... they are a bit young for that, truly, I think its kind of inappropriate for a high school girl to have things written across her butt too. I guess I don't see the point in having "Juicy" written on your butt cheeks.

I agree- I wouldn't let them wear it either. If an older women (out of highschool) chooses to wear something like that it is up to her. These girls/women should recognize that writting across ones rear is not only unattractive but un-lady like.

I don't like it either. It's just tacky!

Thank you! Just last night I was telling my children how I sometimes feel so alone in trying to raise moral children, so that when I hear of other parents going against the popular thing to do to hold firm to things I believe, it is a huge morale booster for me. No, I don't think it is appropriate to put writing across your backside, basically advertising "look right here". And when we introduce that acceptance in children so young, they will never see anything wrong with it. Way to set them aside, and good luck in being firm about the things you feel right about.

I don't like it either. I don't like to see it on children or adults. I have a 5 year old daughter and a friend gave her some hand-me-down stuff like that, but I don't let her wear it.

Personally I think it is very tacky...on anyone. I guess if they were wearing the shorts around the house and/or for PJ's it wouldn't bother me as much, but I think it is sort of...(hmmm...I am searching for the right words to not offend:-) trashy. I think it would be even worse on a little girl because it is the mom who makes that decision. I hadn't really even thought about the topic until I received a pair of sweat pants from Victoria Secret with the word "PINK" on the butt and my husband commented about how terrible and tacky it looked.
Just my opinion, and I am curious about what others have to say.
Good Luck!

If you can, return them...if not, donate them! I agree with you 100%. It is inappropriate. I haven't seen one girl aged 1 to 21 who looks good with words on her butt. :)

I am so happy to read all the people that agree with you. I HATE them for any age. I wish people would stop buying them, then maybe they would start making appropriate clothing. Its so hard walking into the girls dept for me, they are making clothing, that I feel belong on street corners. Stick to your ground. I wouldn't even give those away, no one should wear them:)Sue

And we mothers do everything to MINIMIZE out butts!!! No way, uh huh, not on my child, thank you. Thankfully I have a little boy who actually wanted to get a tee that said MY MOM ROCKS from Kohl's. We'll stick to Cars and Legos and SpiderMan.
I wouldn't be caught with anything more risque than Mickey Mouse or TinkerBell on my clothes - why would I let my child dress sexier than me!

i am a mother of five girls and the only time they can wear that is to bed and the writing is not alowed to show at all wich they say is unfair bedtime is one thing but other then that i would give it away (someone got my three year old a out fit with cherry across the chest and butt and under the cherry it said sweet and juicey what are people thinking hello)IT MAKE YOU WONDER IF THAT WHY THERE ARE SO MANY SEX OFFENDER OUT THERE

i am in absolute agreement with your actions, i dont even think the teens need to wear them.. it sends out bad messages. what exactly does "lucky girl" mean?

So glad to see that there are other mothers thinking the same thing. I think it is a horrible message to send to girls and feel it is highly inappropriate.

There are so many negative influences out there, it is up to you to decicide what will make it into your home. Return it and have a shopping day with the girls and let them pick out an outfit you feel is appropriate.

I have a nine year old daughter, she has never been allowed to wear anything with writing on the bum. I've explained to her that I'd much prefer people to look at her gorgeous face.

It really bothers me that sex appeal is seen as "cute". I'm generally a pretty laid back parent, but I want my child to dress like a child.

Good for you! I completely agree! I teach high school and see this kind of negative attention way too often!

Hi L. R,
about the writing across the behind of pants or shorts, truly I don't care for it too much, but than I'm almost 61.
I think it is just a fashion statement, and even though I am about to be a g-grandmother, I still remember what it felt like to be fashionable. I truly think that it depends on what is written across the bottom and the age of the person. By the time your twins are old enough to have a feel about fashion, the butt writing trend would be over.I think the saying on your girls pants are soo true. They are "LUCKY" to have such a concerned parent. I say they are still at the cute stage, I would be tickled pink to see beautiful little twin girls with a fashionable out-fit. I know that by the time your girls are older you will make the right decision for them and stand by your word, because you are sooo very concern now and they are just babies. I would say that your twins are 'Lucky girls", and why not let the world know! The bottom line though, is how do you feel?

Hi, L.. I say good for you and I feel the same. I don't consider myself old or anything, but to put writing accross the behind of shorts or pants for little girls is just inviting trouble in my opinion. If teenagers or mature women want to have much attention drawn to that area, so be it, but I don't think that those things are appropriate in todays world for our little people. Thank you for being smart.

Well after reading all of the responses I guess I'll be the "odd man out!" I actually think that this has gotten way WAY blown out of porportion. My girls are 11 and 9 and they BOTH have them and they both ware them. They are in style and popular, I mean they wear shirts with sayings/words across the chest and I don't see boys/guys staring at there chest! It's not a "low hip huggin see your butt crack pants or sweats", there just a pair of pants with words. Of course I do agree with some of the other moms on "what the words are!" I wouldn't buy something with inapropriate sayings, but if it's cute like "dance" or the name brand like "lucky" I have no problem with it. Just like if they had a T-shirt with it accross there chest. And hey, this is just one mom's opinion. Please don't all you other mom's attack me on my view. I'm just saying how I feel. I'm sure I probably didn't help, but like I said I look at it like I do words or sayings on the shirt - if it's vulgar or disrespectful than NO WAY, but if not then I personally feel it's ok.
Just my thoughts.

I could not agree more with you on this subject. I remember when I was preteen 250 some years ago, I really wanted american flag shorts they were all the rage. My mom sat me down, and reminded me about how many people faught to keep our flag and why would you want to wipe your bottom with the flag. It really stuck with me, now I see girls these days with writing on the bottom and all I can think is how they are drawing attention to the wrong parts of themselves. Little girls have to grow up fast enough, you are right on mom just keep them aside or better yet turn them into cleaning rags.

Also you should feel free to teach your girls, that it is okay when they receive gifts that they know they are not allowed to have that they should quitely say thank you to the person but let them know they this is something they are not allowed to have. I know that might seem harsh at first, but I have seen it done at a kids birthday party with Bratz dolls. The little girl was so sweet she opened it looked at it, and then told the other family thank you very much for thinking of me but I am not allowed to play with this. The family did not look offended in anyway, and all I could think was way to go mom your little one knows her stuff.

Thank you for keeping your little girls little... I really appreciate it. :)

i agree with you! why draw attention there--especially on young girls. there's no need. good job mom. :)

I have to say I agree with you, L.. If we lived in a society of all women, or with no pedofiles it wouldnt be an issue, but I think that is just advertisement for the pervs out there to take a look. I think a lot of clothing right now is sexualizing younger girls and I have a big problem with it.

I'm a married 34 year old mother of 1 daughter who is almost 3.

It appears that we are all in concurrence. I would even convey to the gift giver, in a nice way, what your reservations are. I didn't read all the comments, but I saw one writer say 'it gets worse'. It certainly does. My daughter is now 18 about to graduate from high school, and I still cringe when she wears those 'booty magnets'!
Enjoy your girls while they are still little girls.

I am so happy to see everyones response! It is really refreshing to see that there are parents who care what message their children are sending (with their approval...). Totally stick to your guns - what you teach them now will be what guides them when they are not at home anymore!
Good work!

I don't like those kinds of things. Some words aren't as bad as others, but...especially on young teens...Your backside is not meant for advertising space!

I agree, I think it is very inappropriate to draw attention to the backside of a 5-1/2 yr old girl...not to mention a 15-1/2 yr. old girl! I have boys, so luckily I don't have to worry about writing on their backsides, but there is a huge trend of "bratty" sayings on t-shirts that I see a lot of their friends wearing. Basically, they are insulting to teachers, parents, siblings, authority figures and generally say "I'm lazy and all I want to do is play video games and not do my homework!" I have told my sons that they will NEVER be allowed to wear one of them...even if they got one for a gift..NO WAY! It is just another example of "When I was a kid..." that my husband and I tell them about. No respect!
I say...no writing on girls backsides...no matter how old!
Good luck!
L.

My husband and I both feel that this is NOT appropriate for girls of any age. The only exception we ever made was for a pair of PJ's and only because they were Tinker Bell (my daugther's favorite). Other than that - no writing on the behind for any reason!

I am in total agreement with you. I think it is inappropiate for any age - little girl or not. It is obvious that it draws attention to their bottoms. I strongly feel this type of apparel does not promote modesty.

You are a good mom - do what you can while you can -to keep your kids pure.

I totally agree with you and even if I didn't, they are your kids and it's your decision.
So often I see little girls dressing up like grown woman and it really makes me sad. Kids need to be kids, not fashion statements.

If you don't like the idea or feel it is appropriate then follow your gut. It doesn't really matter what anyone else thinks.

Way to go - I am with you 100% and am really happy to see that everyone else who has responded feels the same way. We all know that pedophiles are out there, personally I think some of them have jobs designing kids fashions (and Bratz dolls). We have to stand up to the hype and the marketing, we are the parents, we have the power. If enough of us take responsibility perhaps we can raise a generation of kids who can be satisfied with what they have instead of succumbing to the marketing ploys which serve to push everyone into debt. (sorry, a little off subject).

Totally agree with you on this one! I will not purchase anything like that for our almost 10 year old. When I see pants like that I think of the old term that I used to hear...."sex-pot". I certainly wouldn't my daughter looking like one of "those"...whatever they were!

As a rule, we don't care for that either. Last year, we did get a few things for our daughter that said "dancer" as she had been dancing for 6 yrs then (7 now). She only wears them to dance class and around the house though.

We also bought a few others that they had requested - but we told the girls, they do not wear them when going out - they don't want guys looking at their behinds. They wear them around the house and for pjs. They got what they wanted (not always happens) and are happy with the arrangement.

At 5 1/2, just tell the girls you don't feel it is appropriate for going into public and they can wear them around the house and for jammies. If you don't make a big deal - they probably won't either.

Just a quick additional note after reading the other comments. If you decide to not let them wear them at all (and it is great to teach the girls this so young - I did the same) don't give them away so others can wear them. I feel this is sending mixed signals. "It's OK for others, but not us." I would let the girls see you trash them (mine have seen me trash some hand me downs they have recieved) and take them to the store and buy them replacements that are appropriate.

K.

i have a 2 year old girl.. she will not wear clothing with writing on the butt.

I have had a very hard time finding shorts for her this year as the shorts are soooo short.

I do not want my toddler girl to look like a teenager..

I would take the shorts back to the store!!!

Hi L.,

I do not like words across the butt for girls of any age, let alone 5yr olds. I think you are absolutely right in putting it aside and not having them wear it.

Honestly, I think that sort of clothing basically just says 'LOOK AT MY BUTT!'

I see little girls dressed as if they are 20 year olds... and we wonder why there are so many pedofiles out there! Oiy. I have an 8 month old daughter and even now I find myself being very careful what outfits she wears. I make sure they are age appropriate and cover her appropriately.

We need to teach our children to be respectful of their bodies and to expect others to be respectful of their bodies. Creating walking billboards or 'tempting' people to look at them inappropriately does not create an attitude of respect.

I completely agree with you. It is not appropriate for them to wear the pants.

I completely agree with you. Anything written across the bottom is invitation for people to look. I also don't like seeing little girls in shirts that say cutie pie, diva, hot stuff, I saw a bib once that said Sexy a BIB!

I agree! I don't think it's appropriate at all. My daughter received a similar gift so we pulled out the scissors and sewing machine and now she has an adorable purse that she uses to hold her most valuable "treasures". If you don't sew, you could use hot glue. The girls will have so much fun helping make their purses it won't even matter if the end result isn't perfect.

See that is what I think too. I don't usually let my girls (now 3 1/2 & 7) wear those either. I think they are border line sexualizing what should be just a cute kid's tush. I agree with you. Slip them away or wear them with a shirt that is long to cover up. Sometimes I feel like I'm in the minority too, but I don't think little girls need to look like they are going on 18 they will only be litte a short time.

The only words written on someones butt should be "stare at me" because that is the reaction they get... Not the kind of message I want my daughter to give. It is one of the many ways that this day and age sexualize young girls... I also am very particular about the slogans on my kids shirts. I am a firm believer in subtle hints... If I let my son or daughter wear a shirt that says "I'm a brat", "I'm not listening", "I go to Ignore U" or any other sassy degrading sayings I really think that is the attitude I am training them to have. My kids have shirts that say things like "You make me Hoppy" (pic of a frog on it), "I love horses", "Cars rule" etc... Things that emulate happiness, blessings, and good examples.

I am also particular about what toys my kids play with ... No "Bratz" dolls. Why would I want to teach my kid that wearing skirts that you can see you under wear while wearing them and having make up on your face thick enough to paint a house with is cool?
I also don't let them watch Cailou... Who needs an example of a brat shown to their 2 yr old? A show that sure in the end gets stuff figured out but in the middle he throws temper tantrums, tells his mommy no, hits people, etc... And guess what, my kids havn't done any of that and if they see someone doing it they say, "mommy, thats not good... WE don't DO THAT".

In a day and age of such promescuity and seemingly a pedophile at every store, why draw the wrong kind of attention to your precious munchkin. So I also applaud you for taking a stand and trying to raise your child with standards and morals...

And here's my latest wondering? Why do they make tube tops and bikinis for toddlers?????

L.,

I agree with you. I don't think it is so bad on little tiny ones but seeing it on young teens is just poor taste. The dress habits of our young people have really declined in the last ten years or so I think. Most girls don't own dresses or know the proper footwear when they do wear them. Skimpy camosole tops that are meant for under the cloths are common leaving young girls looking half dressed and over exposed. Once upon a time there once was a thing called poise and class. Your mother taught you to be poised and being told you had class was the highest compliment to be paid. It meant you had passed Mom's lessons in poise. This is totally lost on today's generation. I may be an old lady venting but they weren't called the good old days for nothing.

S.

I totally agree with you. There is no reason or fashion statement made by young girls (or anyone for that matter) to have words or pictures across private areas, such as the butt or boobs. You have to start drawing the line somewhere.
I think it is disgusting that so many young girls are wearing high heels, short skirts/shorts, and belly revealing tops. We live in a society amongst perverts and child molesters, and we as parents need to protect our children.

I tend to agree with you.
Use them whenever the giver is around, or wait till they've outgrown them.

i agree with you i wont let my daughter wear them either shes only 3 but to me im drawing attention to my kids behind and making people look at it.and with this world today theres no way.

At first when I saw all this writing across the butt of girls pants, I didn't really think anything of it. Then my husband weighed in and was appalled by it and now I agree with him. We saw a girl wearing the word "Pink" across her butt and my husband said to me, "What is that supposed to be saying? What is "pink" there?!" I had never even thought of it that way! I have a daughter also and we decided that we would not let her wear any kind of clothes like that.

Good decision! I think it's good to instill what's appropriate and modest in our children at a young age. These days women/girls try to attract the wrong kind of attention with what they wear and it starts so young! I applaud your decision!