B.C.
I understand your anger and I would be upset. I am a mother of a 5 year old with my husband of 7 years with a 11 year old step-son. Child support is paid but other additional expenses as his obligation do come up such as, medical bills, etc. I do feel he should have dicussed the issue with you. As you are the primary unit of his family, whether or not there were children previous to the marriage. We currently have that issue with my step-sons mother. She feels my husband should choose her son over our families plans or financial status. My husband feels different. He has to live me everyday. Anything that affects us, he discusses with me, even if it may be putting off a bill so we can eat or my son needs something. There may be legal orders to pay, but we feel that if the court can't see that there other obligations to attend to other than children from a previous marriage, they will understand. I don't care what the courts say. My child he lives with everyday, he will take care of the immediate needs of that child first. Advice may not help, but thats how I feel.