Would My First Son Be Sad over Younger Brothers Middle Name?

My younger sister was named after my late grandmother, first and middle name. I have never felt jealous of her name or the fact that she was named after anyone. Her name was her name and my name was my name. I named my son after both of my granddad's and I don't think I'll have a problem if/when I have another child. Go ahead with whatever name you want to use.

I am the younger sister and I have my mother's name. I don't think that my sister was ever jealous of it. If is something that is made a big deal of, then there might be issues, but if it is just a middle name, I doubt it.

My husband is also the younger brother, and named after his uncle. His brother wasn't named after anyone either, and there seem to be no issues there.

Didn't even think to add that my son is named after his great-great grandfather and this next will just be a name that we like (my husband didn't like MY family name). Never really thought of this as an issue, because we don't really focus on where their names come from, just as an inspiration for coming up with them.

My husband picked out our first son's middle name (Augustus - I don't love it, but whatever . . . it's a middle name), and my oldest son LOVES it because his dad picked it out. Our youngest has the middle name Daniel, after his grandpa. He LOVES being named after his granpa. Neither of our boys is jealous of the other, and both love their names. I think their reaction depends on how you handle it. By the way, I love the names Michael and Matthew. :-)

I'm just going to guess (in my experience with boys), that no, he's not going to care, much less notice unless you make a big deal of it then he will......that's what kids do! :)

I don't think it will be an issue to either child. Life's circumstances change between kids.

My husband wanted to choose names after family members (we didn't learn the gender of either child), and I preferred not to so we didn't offend either side of the family. Personal preference.....

Your kids probably won't even notice unless you tell them.
If they do ask how you chose their names, I'd be honest and tell them what your thoughts were and why their respective names are so special to you.

My youngest daughter has my Mom's middle name as her middle name. It doesn't bother my oldest daughter one bit. They are 22 and 24. If you don't make a big deal about it they won't. You can explain to the oldest one that he was first in line and so special that he had to have a very special name all of his own. Then tell the youngest one that you love your brother so much you wanted to share his name with him. And honestly if you are really concerned about it find a different middle name. There are millions of names to choose from.

The only way I can see your son resenting his brothers name, middle or not, is if emphasis is placed on his name being better, nicer, more perfect than any other name. I cannot imagine why your son would be jealous...he's got his own name. Every name is unique and I just cannot imagine this being a problem. Ever.

I don't think he will get jealous, but if he does for some reason or another.. you can tell him something like.. 'We wanted to give you a good name that we liked so that you can name one of your kids after yourself'.. or something like that.. I'm sure that would make him feel better. :D

We just went through this ordeal when naming our second son. I wanted to give our first sons middle name his fathers name. My husband said it didn't flow well, so we went with Michael. After about a year, my husband started feeling really guilty that his first son didn't have his name and he seriously considered legally changing his name. When I found out I was pregnant with our second son, I wanted to give his middle name my husbands name and he thought that would be unfair to our first son. I was finally able to convince my husband to name our second after my husband. I told him Aedan would understand when he becomes an adult that we didn't think it flowed well at the time and to explain to him how guilty he fealt for not naming the first son after him. My 2nd brother has my fathers middle name and my oldest brother doesn't think anything of it! I think we lay more guilt on ourselves than neccessary, I bet our kids won't even think twice about it!!

I agree that it's not a big deal. My younger sister has the middle name of a special cousin of my dad's and I was not named after anyone. You can just think of it as a name you like. Matthew is a common name. Most kids don't think about their middle names much anyway.

I think it all depends on how you explain it. You can tell them you wanted their middle names to all be M's. So have another one lined up incase you want child #3 :)

If you are of the Christian faith (based on your post you are) you can say that they were chosen after angel's or apostoles.

I wouldn't bring up a connection or lack thereof unless they do.

I don't think your son will mind. He's a little kid.
If you don't make a big fuss over how he was specifically named after your brother, your son won't take it that way.
My nephew had 3 brothers and he wanted the middle name of one of them for his first child. He talked to his brothers about it thinking they, as adults, might have their feelings hurt, but they didn't mind at all. Their names didn't go at all with the first name they had picked out for their son if it was a boy so it turned out to be a non-issue. Heck, even his own first name didn't sound right with it.
I wouldn't worry. Both their middle names will start with an "M".
I think it will be fine.

Best wishes!

If they are both boys and they are somewhat close in age, then I think the middle name is going to be the least of your worries. Both of my boys have family names and it has come up once or twice about who has which name, but mostly they are jealous over the toys/games/friends than anything else.

Well, My Husband is the second boy in his family and his middle name is after his father, but the older son's middle name isn't after anyone- they just liked it and no one ever seemed to give it any thought. The oldest didn't care and it never seemed even a thought! Go with what you like.

If you word it properly, it causes no threat. Michael is a fantastic Christian name! An Archangel with the very important role of leading God's army in the battle of Good and Evil and of course, being victorious. Michael is the spirit we look for when seeking protection, guidance and to be rid of evil forces. Rather than explaining why (or why not) you chose a name, go for the story behind it and what those names mean. Do aas ytour heart chooses. Mathew and Michael are great Christina names with much significance!

I thought you explained it beautifully and honestly in your words above. Why wouldn't this explanation be good enough for your sons assuming they make it an issue?

One of my daughters is named after my mom and my deceased sister. The other has a first name I liked and a modified version of my husband's mother's name for a middle name. My son is named after an actor and his dad (middle). My youngest is named after a singer but my kids have no clue who she was since it was in the 40s. They have never had any problems or questioned how come? . Also, I am the only one in my family that was not named with a Bible name or some way with a family member's name. I have never had a problem with it.