R.C.
I sometimes feel the same way. I wish that we could afford for me or my husband to stay home with the kids. I have to leave my kids with my mom, which is really unfair to her, but it's really our only option. Some people just don't really think about how good they have it.
I see my boys for about an hour in the morning and they usually fall asleep on our ride home in the evenings, so I don't even get to spend time with them at night. I hate that I get so little time with them, but I know they love me they never show any resentment for me being gone all day.
Sorry, I wish I had some more encouraging words or secret tips. Talk to your husband though. Don't hold it all in. You need to support each other. Men are just less emotional in general, so don't think that he loves your daughter any less. Ask him to cook dinner or whatever so you can spend some quality time with her. Don't worry about the housework. I'd rather play with my kids than have a clean house. And any guests that have a problem with that can just leave my house!