Working Mom's Issues

S.

I am so sorry that this happend to you. This really tells us why this kind of site is so important in these times. In the past Moms have been close the their mothers, so that they could just ask Mom to pick him up. But now Mom isn't always close by. Both grandmothers are sometimes far away or have passed away.

I have a suggestion and some information for thought. You should try to always have a fallback sitter for every day that you're working. This is just one situation; you could have had to attend a very important meeting that you were to chair, provide information for, or your attendance was mmandatory. Choose a backup who can pick him up and sit him for a while.

Now here is food for thought - I don't really know why you are working but has to be one of two reasons; you enjoy it or you required two incomes (for now or for retirement purposes). I have a solution for both reasons. Be a work at home Mom!

I don't have children at home anymore. But I was hospitalized for almost two years and needed extra money to pay the juge and steady surprise medical bills. I am disabled and didn't know what to do. I thought that it would be nice to have my own business and jotted down these reasons for wanting to do this.

• I wanted to live where I wanted to and still earn money.
• I would have no commute.
• I could make and set my own schedule.
• I could schedule appts, vacations, outings when I wanted.
• I could wear what I wanted.
• I wanted to do something I could truly enjoy.
• It would give me more opportunity to excel.
• It would give me great personal pride in my achievements.
• It would learn better, faster lessons from my failures.
• I could make important decisions; call all the shots.
• I would have the prestige of owning a business.
• I could take advantage of business tax benefits.

The reasons came pouring out and the reasons for continuing to work were associated with fear. I couldn't allow fear to control my life, so I did this - I started my own business and applied for and was hired for a work at home position. I found that there were many good paying jobs on the internet - you just have to know where to look. But it was really easy to stay away from the scams.

I love what I do and the best thing is that when my husband comes home from work, I am here greeting him and waiting to laugh and talk about our day at work.

I hope this has helped you and if you're interested in working from home, just give me a call or send me an email at 877-736-7630 or ###-###-#### and ____@____.com.

Blessings,
W.

This is the struggle I'm sure all working outside the home mom's face every day. I worked when my oldest 2 were little and I hated it as well. But I've been a SAHM for years now and I love it. But ya know, there are still days I feel the same way you do...I can't do it right, I suck at it and I would like to have a new suit, LOL.

One thing you can do is find a backup person for you & your husband, someone that can pick up your child should they get sick & take them home with them (if you are unable to leave at that moment). I would also have a talk with your boss and not assume you are being punished, some people just don't know what to say to a working mom. And some people don't appreciate all you go through daily doing both.

Set down with you husband and write down what your goals are as a person and as a mom and as a family and then work to achieve those goals. Right now you're little one is more dependent on you but before you know it he'll be off at school. It may mean holding off for a little longer till he's in K before hitting your stride as you say. They are only little once & it passes so quickly.

I hope he's feeling better soon...and that you feel better about things soon as well.

S.,

I saw that you are trying to achieve a work/home balance. Let me intriduce myself.. My name is J. Schmaus and I am working at home out of Fuquay-Varina, NC. I hope to eventually replace my full-time income with my at-home business. I thought it would be helpful to share with you this prospect and give you the opportunity to get more information.

I work with a company that manufactures products the we're already buying elsewhere, but they are better, safer and cheaper. We just help set up customer accounts and the company pays us to do so. It;s like a SAMs Club from home except I don;t have to buy in bulk and I save up to 40% off retail price. It has benefited our family so much!

The great part about this is that we are not asking people to spend extra money from their budget-we are simply providing them another store to buy it from.

If you are not interested in starting an at-home business you may be interested in purchasing our products.

Please check out my websites for more information. I wish you the best of luck and hope I hear back from you!

J. Schmaus
Independent Marketing Consultant
www.workathomeunited.com/jessicaj
www.livetotalwellness.com/jessicaj

Welcome to the world of choices. I am the mother of a 12 yr old boy and 9 yr old girl. When they were small, I worked as much as I could to maintain "benefits". I learned as much as I could hoping to advance my career and have it all. Maybe some women can have it all, but at what price? I missed so much while my kids were in day care. It saddens me now. So I dropped the ball and cut back on everything so I could spend the summer with my kids. I re-prioritzed my life. I took a job outside of my field that that only requires me to be there less than 40 hours and I can come and go as I please as long as the work gets done. I chose to have and raise those children and the sacrifices that I make are totally worth it. Raising children who know what is truly important in life is my best acheivement yet. I lok forward to seeing them suceed, not hearing about it from someone else.

I sure understand how you feel. I was hired by a competitor one week after returning from maternity leave. My daughter was eight weeks old and I was a first time mom with a brand new job. I did not know it was possible to be so exhausted. The first year of my daughter’s life is literally a blur. It has improved. Fortunately, my husband can help out if my girl gets sick at daycare but the majority of her care falls on me. My job is also the one with the benefits and health insurance so it is so important that I’m here and that I perform well. You’ll make it. Hang in there. It does get better and easier as your child gets a bit older.

Hi S.,

Your child comes first, your employer will get over it! If you feel you want to be home full time with your baby, I can help.

http://www.awakenedmom.com

Hi S.!

I am the mom of a 2.5 yr old and one on the way!
If you are looking for a work at home business, I would love to talk to you about mine. I never really thought about starting a home business. I just did not think it was for me. I have worked for someone else my whole life. It makes me sad to think about all the firsts I missed with my son. He is growing up too fast! .So now with the one on the way - I have been blessed to be able to stay home and work. It is so worth every minute I put into this business. I am able to work when and where I choose. I have the freedom to see my son grow up , and I'm not a stranger. I can work anywhere and everywhere without losing time with my family. If you have children and family, and wish you could be with them instead of your 9 to 5 job, please contact me. I can help.

www.themomteam.com/familywellness

This is something all moms go through. Is your company not very family-friendly? I chose mine because of the attitude people had towards kids- they always come first. Can your husband not go pick up your son if it's an important day for you at work? I think I'd demand it from him, if I were you. Reschedule your interview and good luck!

S., Maybe there is another option - a home based business that you can work around your angel's schedule. Check it out - www.secret2work.com

Hi S.,
I am right there with you. I have a great career, and love my job, but its hard to juggle both a child and work. I was promoted while on maternity leave, so the stress was on from the day I came back to work. I have to pull in some after hours from time to time just to keep up, and combine that with chores and energetic 18 mo old, I feel like I am going to lose it from sometimes. Do you have anyone close by that can help you out in situations like this? I really think that my family living close by is the saving grace in it all. That and I have become the queen of multitasking at work and home. It's all a juggling act. My advice is to face the obstacles as they come and don't be too hard on yourself! Just don't forget to check that new suit for snot before the interview! :)

S.! I know exactly how you feel! I am a single mother of four children (ages 6 and under). I also attend college full time and until recently was working 30 hours a week. Now I've cut down the 30 hours a week to two jobs! lol. One is a two day a week job and I'm also self employeed. The reason I had to get out of the 'corporate' world was because of the same reasons you posted. It is just too dang hard sometimes! It's really hard to keep your head up in these situations sometimes because you feel like you're being punished but remember that God will not ever give you more than you can handle! For some reason---and you may never know the reason--that job wasn't meant for you, maybe not now, maybe not ever! Something better may be in store for you! I will definately pray for you and hope things get better for you. God bless, and good luck! S.