My husband and I were called as Wolf Den Leaders (through the LDS church) and we didn't even have kids at the time. We both worked full time (I commuted 1 1/2 hours each way on the bus too) and we still found time to do scouts. We had a blast! The boys were funny & fun to be around. It took commitment, but anything in life that is worthwhile takes commitment! We'd have our weekly den meetings (about 1 hr each), and monthly pack meetings (about 1 hr each). We'd have our committee meeting, usually bi-monthly (about 30 min each). Also, if you go to Roundtable, once a month, you can get EVERYTHING you'll need for planning your Den meetings. Get trained. You can do it ALL online. Contact your local Scout office. They'll be able to direct you to where you can get started. You won't have campouts as Wolf Leaders, but you will have a day camp (once a year for a whole Saturday). You'll also have a Pinewood Derby, Raingutter Regata, etc., but those are held as your Pack Meetings. My husband and I LOVED doing it. We were leaders for 1 1/2 years and that was 10 years ago. Back in May, we ran into one of our old "Wolf Cubs." He was just about to graduate from High School. He was so excited to tell us that he still had the stilts that he made at our house when he was a Wolf. He said that because we were such great leaders and so fun to be around, WE were a big part of the reason that he stuck with scouts and ended up getting his Eagle! We were so honored! Being in scouts is A LOT of fun, but it does take some effort. How much more fun would it be if you were able to do it right along with your son!? How many more fabulous memories will he have because you were his leader!? Good luck in your decision.
-Shellie
PS. The only thing I didn't LOVE about scouts were the silly skits that you have to do at the pack meetings. But, the boys LOVE them, and to see them laugh hysterically at those stupid things makes up for it!