Why Wont My Kids Try?

You cannot force them to do something until they are confident with it. If the 13 month old does not feel confident/comfortable on her feet then no she won't walk , 12 months is a guideline for walking , my 2 girls started walking at 16 months & 18 months , my son walked at 10 months.
The 3 yr sounds like she is getting there with the potty , she does at least go some on the potty , I wouldn't get into the habit of giving candy as a way to get her to go as she will start to expect it , instead use words of encouragment , jump up & down cheering and clapping when she goes if you have to!....you'll be surprised how much kids respond to words and reactions , my son absolutely beams when we tell him how proud we are when he has been trying really hard with things.

Don't worry about your 13-month-old just yet. It's still pretty early to be concerned. If that child is not walking by 18 months then you might want to talk to your pediatrician about some physical therapy, but at 13 months, there is still plenty of time to learn.

As for the 3-year-old, well, now's the time to potty-train, but I wouldn't push it too hard. Try putting your daughter in training pants (not pullups) so that she can feel that she's wet and uncomfortable when she pees. Then, if she pees in her pants, don't change her right away. Wait a little while (not too long - this isn't punishment, it's just to get the point across) and then sit her on the potty again. A reward-system is good too - instead of candy, try stickers or something on a chart so that she can see when she's done it. And get very excited when she goes in the potty. Every time. But don't stress about it. Your daughter also has a year or so before it will be a big problem that she isn't potty trained. Good luck!

Please don't worry........they will do these things when they are ready, not when we are. Both my boys started walking at 14 months and we are still waiting for our (just turned) 3 yr old to poop in the potty!! Argg, I know it is frustrating. This past summer my younger son wasn't walking yet and he would crawl across just about anything- rocks, stones, cement, mud, etc. I was thinking, "why drag your knees across all that stuff, just walk already!!" Ha Ha

As for my other son, the "bare-bottom" approach worked wonderfully for potty training #1 (pee-pee), but not sure why it didn't work for #2 (poo-poo). It took one day of letting him run around all day bare from waist down to go pee-pee in the potty (maybe one or two accidents since September). Why he won't do the other in there is still a mystery......

Good luck!

I actually have no advice for you but I wanted you to know that I am in the exact same situation with both children the same ages. I have a son that turned 3 in January and he has absolutely NO interest in the potty. I also have a 14 month old daughter that is no where close to walking. She does cruise around furniture but that didn't start until after her 1st birthday.

Just know that there are others out there that are in the same boat!!

Just so you know, my son, who just turned 16 months, just started walking at 15 1/2 months. He had no interest in it, and like your daughter, did not even want to try. Now he's walking all over the place! Don't worry about it, she will walk when she's ready!

My daughter was not potty trained until 3. When I stopped trying with her it was like a lightbulb went off and all of the sudden she was interested. It also helped that the daycare I sent her to helped with the potty training. As far as your other daughter goes.. Do you hold her a lot when she is with you? When my husband was a baby he did not walk until 14 months and his mom says it was because he was lazy and wanted to be held haha. Not sure how much holding you are doing but every child is different. My daughter walked at 9 months and my son is 10 months and just started pulling himself up. Good Luck!

I responded to this, but my reply didn't show up, so I'll try again.

As far as potty training an older child, try rewarding for being dry, not for going to the potty. Have a chart in the bathroom and take your daughter to the potty every 3 hours, or 2, whatever you set up. Then mark the chart if she's dry. After a certain number of dry marks, she could pick from a treasure chest, or use candy each time, whatever seems to motivate her.

I didn't read everyone else's responses, but this seemed to work for us.

F.,
Kids will do stuff when they are ready. Don't push. You'll frustrate yourself AND them. My son would have been happy to be carried around til he was 3! LOL
Walking: Push toys, exersaucer, jumperoo, pull string toys
Potty training: Once Upon A potty book, sing, clap and dance like crazy when she goes. We used to sing (to the tune of Glory, Glory, Hallelujah) "He's a Super Duper Pooper!" I can still see my marine corps husband doing that! LOL