V.M.
Although my kids are now turning 16 and 15, I still remember the toddler stages very clearly! I remember, like you, I was worried my kids weren't getting the nutrition they needed because of their picky eating. I just learned to relax and try different things. But too many choices just puts a strain on you. If he's hungry enough he'll eat what you put in front of him for the most part. Maybe he's not hungry. You can't make them eat when they aren't hungry. That's not good either.
Just because we eat three meals a day, doesn't mean it's the bodies timing to do so. If he's hungry he'll eat.
Their little bodies will give them cravings when they are low in certain things, and trying new items may help. Find out what he likes by letting him sample your meals (babies are curious and want to try what you are eating). When you find something he likes make note of it and then you can make it for him again to help assure yourself he's eating right.
My kids snacked a lot, which is actually better for our systems, a lot of small nutritional boosts instead of forcing the body to absorb a lot in one sitting. My kids liked carrot sticks to gnaw on because it felt good on their gums and teeth, and it's sweet. I'd throw in some chocolate pudding (sugar free) and they loved it. One of my son's favorite things to do was to take his cheetos and dip it in his pudding. Yuck huh?! I have photos, I thought it was funny but I remember worrying over the junk foods. It was more of a snack then a meal when he had that. NO nutritional value there, just fun. He was still drinking a bottle then (and a sippy cup)too and there are a lot of nutrients in milk.
Us mom's worry a lot. It never stops! We can't help it. As far as meat goes, it was a long time before my kids liked any kind of steak. The burgers would get half eaten when I split one into two halves for them. So they got about a forth of a burger down and would run off. I had a lot of wasted food. So long as they get a bit of each area of foods I wouldn't worry.
And when they hit growth spurts they will start to eat a lot more. It's a sign of them growing. It is fun to see them grow. The most shocking time was in the last couple years when I'd turn around and look down to see what they were standing on (roller blades? No!) They had grown so fast I thought they were on top of something! I am only 5'4" anyway, and now my daughter is 5'6" and my son is 5'8" and they eat me out of house and home! Both are slim, and have no food disorders. They can make their own dishes now, so if they don't like what I make for dinner, tough, make yourself something else then. It's nice not to have to worry. But if I made dinner already I do get upset if they don't eat it. So we usually discuss and vote on what's for dinner each night.
What I'm trying to say is, unless at his check ups his doctor says he's not getting enough meat then I wouldn't worry about it. Variety is key. It's fun to find out what they like and don't like. Maybe decide you'll try something and only make enough for you and your husband, so that when your son doesn't want to eat it you won't have to waste any, you can eat it yourself. I shared my meals with my kids a lot at that age. I never knew what they would choose to eat. Still too young to understand wasting food, and what they "should" be eating, they are still learning what they like. I'd choose something I liked then tried to find a way to share it for their small size, cut up the meat into tiny pieces etc... and they'd either eat some, or not, it didn't matter, they'd always eat something. Or they drank a bottle.
I used to make it fun too...
Cut up chunks of hot dogs made into smiling faces were fun to make. Ketchup for eyes, and Mustard for a mouth made them think it was fun. Cheetos for hair. Have fun with it. Jello and pudding are fun, messy, but fun. Carrot sticks (cut as thin as you feel won't choke them, same with the hot dog chunks) even soft veggies like peas and green beans. Peanut butter and jelly cut into small hand sizes, no crusts, this will get him some protein too, nuts are very good for them. I am a peanut butter freak, so my kids had a lot of that as they grew up. Macaroni and cheese is a fun one for them because the noodles are fun to suck, they can get air through them, although they've sucked them down their throats before, they are soft and went right on down.
So keep it simple. Try not to worry. He'll let you know when he's ready for more.
Your's truly,
A Mom who likes to feel she's not alone,
V.
PS. Happy New Year!