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It's the Electra Complex (Oedipus Complex for boys). Basically, she wants to marry daddy. It's psychological...boys get very attached to Mommy (hence the term mommy's boy) and girls get very attached to Daddy (hence the term daddy's girl). My daughter, now 21 mo., went through this w/ Daddy, but she's a Mommy's girl now so maybe that phase is temporarily over.
Property Law As Viewed By A Toddler
1. If I like it, it's mine.
2. If it's in my hand, it's mine.
3. If I can take it from you, it's mine.
4. If I had it a little while ago, it's mine.
5. If it's mine, it must *never* appear to be yours in any way.
6. If I'm doing or building something, all the pieces are mine.
7. If it looks like it's mine, it's mine.
8. If I saw it first, it's mine.
9. If I can see it, it's mine.
10. If I think it's mine, it's mine.
11. If I want it, it's mine.
12. If I "need it, it's mine (yes, I know the difference between "want" and "need"!).
13. If I say it's mine, it's mine.
14. If you don't stop me from playing with it, it's mine.
15. If you tell me I can play with it, it's mine.
16. If it will upset me too much when you take it away from me, it's mine.
17. If I (think I) can play with it better than you can, it's mine.
18. If I play with it long enough, it's mine.
19. If you are playing with something and you put it down, it's mine.
20. If it's broken, it's yours (no wait, all the pieces are mine).
Yes! Once we were hugging and my son squeezed in between us, pushed Daddy away and yelled "My Mommy! Get your own Mommy!". He was so serious and so angry, but it was so cute! He was very possessive of me for awhile, but he got older and got over it. He became Daddy's little helper and they loved looking at fire trucks and tractors together.
I have seen children react this way, even try to pull parents apart. I am not sure why they react this way.. Maybe a little jealous?..
Maybe you need to include your child in a "group hug and kiss", then say.. "Mommy and daddy love to kiss and hug each other.". Do it more and more around your child, but also verbalize, "we love you so we love hugging and kissing you too"..
Maybe your child has put together that when you 2 hug and kiss, one of you is leaving? To go to work, to the store?
She's young... it is developmental. They get a little territorial over their Mommy. It passes. Its a phase.
Just include her in it... or say "I love Daddy just like I love you too...." and take turns....
a child as they get older, will learn the Mom/Dad affection and what a 'couple' is. And that they get hugs/kisses too.
It is normal jealousy. Normally is between siblings but in this case is with mom and dad.
My 2 year old adores my 12 year old, but when the 12 year old kiss me she gets jealous.
Keep kissing your husband and get the little one involve, however keep it short, you don't want to let your son stop you from kiss your hubby but you don't want to make it painful for little one.
"1 kiss for mamy, 1 kiss for daddy and 2 for baby!"
2 weeks later
"2 kisses for mamy, 2 kisses for daddy and 3 kisses for baby!!
etc.
My daughter does this too! When me and my husband hug or kiss, she pushes us apart. Totally normal! I think they are territorial over mommy at this young age. I'm sure as they get older and understand more, this phase will pass :)
My son does this too. I think its because he wants everything to be about him.
Because she wants it to be all about her.
Keep hugging each other. It's good for her.
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