Why Do Some People Feel the Need to "Announce" They're Leaving? :)

Personally, I find it helpful because if anyone wants to know where did so-and-so go, there's an answer.

Well, because someone pissed them off, and they are trying to get through to people to not be such jerks all the time?

Just a possibility...

Everybody wants to be heard, right?

You and me, too.

:)

It's a flounce off.
It's hard to stomp off and slam a door and this is a way of doing it while attempting to get a last word in.
And it's even funnier when the main post is "I'm leaving" and then they follow up in the So What Happened area with a major hissy fit foaming at the mouth rant off.
Drama queens are annoying but they can be SO entertaining.

I asked this a while back and the best answer was they want to have the last word. Seems reasonable though I do think there is a bit of beg me to stay as well. Especially the ones you see posting again a week later.

My personal favorite are the ones that update their what happened to point out that the mean responses just prove their point. What was the point exactly? So far as I can see if you attack everyone and say you are going to leave most people respond with don't let the door hit you on the butt on the way out!

I think some of these answers are very judgmental. A vent is a vent. No one gets bent out of shape over the other vents.

Personally, I always have to chuckle.

Kind of the cyberspace equivalent of "GOODBYE CRUEL WORLD!!!!", right?

Maybe some want to be begged to stay, maybe some just want to leave in a blaze.....who knows?

At the end of the day, it's anyone's right to choose post, not post, answer, not answer, announce they're leaving or just go away quietly......

AND I think maybe, if someone is all that wrapped up in an internet board--maybe it's time to step away from the keyboard!?

Because if you leave in a huff, and no one notices, then what's the point?

Got to make a grand gesture, you know, and it's hard to make a scene when leaving an on-line forum, unless you TELL everyone you are making a scene.

Kind of loses some of the drama though, doesn't it?

That's my guess, anyway.

I think for the most part it's an attempt to get others to say, "No! Please stay. We didn't mean to hurt your feelings."

It's usually people who didn't get the answers they were hoping for. Sometimes responses can be tactless and insulting, but you have to try and let those roll off your back.

I've gotten some answers where some posters completely missed the point or read into my question something that wasn't there. One time I was frustrated with my husband and I was already stressed because I was in the process of potty training our son (I hate potty training) and I just really needed to vent (we started our day off on the wrong foot). Well, I must have focused too much of my question on the fact that I was potty training because several people told me I was doing it all wrong.

I could have edited the question and talked about how that wasn't really the point and I didn't fully explain myself, but I thought it was much easier to just laugh and let it go. (For the record, my husband and I "made up" later that day, and our son is now potty trained - well, mostly.)

Some people need to feel validated or heard or understood. When that doesn't happen, they edit or post again just trying to clarify. That sometimes works, but when it doesn't you often see and "I'm leaving" post. I usually find it very sad, because the people who do that are usually the ones who need positive attention the most and just don't realize that what they are doing is not going to work - they're just too desperate. Hopefully they learn from it and tray again another day.

I honestly don't think it's for attention, or for a "beg me to stay". I think it's because they are offended for some reason and want people to know that. I agree with Molly. There's really not a whole lot of point in leaving in a huff if no one sees you do it.

because in a past life they were the queen of England, and when they left the room all people let out a collective cry of GOD SAVE THE QUEEN... and so anyway. Apparently we care enough, to give that person 77 something answers and say we are sorry she is going. If she just ducked out and zipped it, who would have know she existed. That she graced us with her very specific reason, means she thinks her poo doesnt stink, and we are manure piles.

EDIT: Sorry it wasnt 77... lol I guess I was looking at another one, it was just 35. BUT still... 35 too many responses. I kinda tend to exaggerate whoops.

damn...now I have to go back and see who has 70 something answers. I hate it when people leave and I don't know it!!!

two words describe the: Drama Queens

They want someone to say, "No, please stay!" It does remind me of a four year old's behavior.

Attention- plain and simple.

An ex friend of mine pulled something similar on FB recently. I found out through the grapevine that she moved in with her brothers with her small children. Her husband is staying somewhere else, though. I'm assuming this is because her family hates him. So for weeks now she has been "depressed" and posting non-stop about missing her husband. Plus she threw a tantrum (on her page) about not getting enough attention from her brothers. They have their own lives.. and instead of thanking them for making sure her kids weren't homeless, she rants and raves about how sad she is. She didn't shut up until a bunch of her friends starting telling her it would be ok and all that.

Some people just need to be the center of attention.

They feel like they can say anything and get away with it since they "won't be back". They have the last say.

I agree with you. :) I think sometimes people just need attention and that is a last ditch effort to have someone "stop" them from leaving the site. My position on it is if you are that unhappy, leave. There are other sites better suited to your needs.

It's a way of expressing displeasure verbally. It may or may not be a bid for a come-back response.

Mamapedia is very much like neighbors who only see each other over the back fence. We assume we know enough to make comments. Since we don't really know each other, though, someone's disappearing doesn't matter, right? And good riddance!

But there are real people attached to all the thousands(?) of computer screens. From what I have observed, some women come to this site in the sincere hope of making some friends. It's probably not the right place to do that. Mamapedia should be considered an advice-only site.

I agree if you don't want to visit site anymore...stop comming. Not like I am gonna miss ya...sorry.

I agree - they want to take their ball and go home and they want everyone to know it! Like you said, this is an anonymous site and people probably wouldn't notice if some people left the site. These folks want to be sure people know they are hurt and leaving - maybe hoping someone will beg them to stay.

Skewed sense of self importance.

I totally agree with you. They just want attention.

I want to post, "See ya. Wouldn't want to be ya." or "Don't let the proverbial door hit your proverbial butt on the way out." or "Buh-bye!" or "It's been real. It's been fun, but it hasn't been real fun."

But, I usually just roll my eyes and move on.