Why Cant My Child Wear Socks or Underwear HELP!!!

Updated on June 04, 2015
J.C. asks from New York, NY
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please somebody help me no matter what I do my child cannot wear socks or underweaR. I don't understand every morning we go through very huge hassle she says that the Socs hurt her feet I have looked at her feet and I see no visible signs of anything being wrong with them and as far as with her underwear she says that they give her a wedgie and her pants I have tried various different kinds of underwear for her I have bought many different sizes I have many many pairs of socks I have no shows I have long ones I have the colorful ones I have the white ones I have tried everything everything but pantyhose and she still gives me a huge huge problem every day my patience are running out I don't understand and I have never ever hurt a child complain about this is there anyone out there that may be able to help me or give me some advice as to what I should do as I have tried everything help!!!! Problem Panties in Maryland

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C.N.

answers from Baton Rouge on

Sounds like she may have a sensory disorder. Some people find certain types of clothing painful to wear. I would patk to her pediatrician about having her evaluated.
And there is no harm in letting her go commando and without socks.

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M.J.

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Look online for products for kids with sensory disorders. I know there are socks out there created for people with sensory disorders and there may be underwear, too.

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C.V.

answers from Columbia on

We had a very difficult time with our youngest when it came to socks, underwear, some waistbands, certain coats (the insides of the sleeves felt funny), shoes, and so on. Mild sensory processing disorder. We dealt with it by finding socks he likes (Russell boys' crew socks in a spandex polyester blend)...they're really stretchy and soft, and underwear that doesn't bind or ride up (Hanes boxer briefs with the comfort soft waistband). It helped us to bring him with us, open up packaging so he could touch it, and pre-wash it before wear.

Even so, there are some days where even his favorite socks will feel funny and he'll put on 3 or 4 of them before settling on a pair. I stay out of it and just let him work through it. That's what you have to do: Get her up early enough so that, if she puts on something she doesn't like, she can go and try on several pairs before finding one that feels okay. Go get ready on your own and leave her to it.

Over time you'll learn what she will and won't wear and you'll not buy things she'll never wear. T won't wear shirts with a collar unless it's a dress shirt for church. He won't wear cargo pants (the pockets feel weird on his legs). So I don't buy Polo shirts or cargo pants.

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K.B.

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Sensory sensory.....worked with kids in the past with sensory issues. I agree with the previous posters like turning socks inside out and underwear inside out, but another thought, instead of underwear try compression/under armor type shorts instead. Some kids liked that feeling. Also, think about what is over the underwear, example dresses ok but not jeans or yoga pants ok or all drives her bonkers? It could be the way they feel or how it rubs on the other clothing as well. Also, with socks..same thing...always a problem in every shoe or socks touching the inside of shoe with certain stitching. Good luck. Hopeful she will outgrow some or ask for OT consult with suggestions. No other sensory issues-picky eater with certain textures?

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S.K.

answers from Denver on

I would also let her go without either. A lot of people go without underwear and unless she doesn't deal with her bathroom hygiene very well its not a problem. Its summer im sure my kids won't be wearing socks either, but like someone also stated below look at seamless socks. My nephew wont wear anything but these because the seems in the normal socks drive him insane. He does seem to be getting a little better (he is 10 now and wants the stylish socks that everyone is wearing now) Both of my kids are very specific on their socks when they wear cleats because if there is a bunch up they will both freak out and not put the cleats on until it feels just right. If this is putting a strain on your relationship with her, I would let it go and pick a different battle. Just tell her that if she goes without underwear shorts have to be of a certain length and no dresses/skirts

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K.W.

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Sensory issues. Let her go without if she wants. My daughter has phases where she does not wear either, and she is 8yo. I would suggest you find a local occupational therapist who works with this disorder. It's neurological.

Also, start looking around for different kinds of underwear. There are seamless socks you can try and seamless undies. Try Hanna Anderson or Lands End for underwear. They are super soft. My daughter still won't wear them right now, but she has in the past.

This issue is unlikely to be limited to socks/undies. We have to try lots of pants/shirts before finding ones she can tolerate. No jeans. No scratchy things. Shoes are a nightmare (until summer when she can wear flip-flops). It's difficult. Good luck.

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R.A.

answers from Boston on

Sensory processing disorder comes to mind. My son was just like that as a toddler and up til about 5 or 6. He always took socks off, hated underwear and anything of a rough texture. He still hates to wear jeans, but will. My son also cannot handle injuries well. Hates to have bruises , sunburn, cuts, etc. just freaks him out. I've just learned to help desensitize and condition over the years. They do outgrow some of those things as they age. OT therapy has worked very well for my son.

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I'll just bet this is a sensory issue. You need to ask your ped for a referral to an OT who specializes in working with sensory issues. This is right down their alley.

The quicker you get her help, the more likely she will get better. Don't wait.

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A.V.

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Try buying her some for people with sensory issues or let her go without, as long as there are no other concerns. She may like wearing actual shorts or bike shorts instead of panties. My DD doesn't like certain socks, either. If they are thick, they are a no-go. We have done well with Children's Place socks overall. It may be the thickness when they are in her shoes or the seams. Lots of people can't stand tags or seams.

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P.G.

answers from Dallas on

It's a sensory issue. Lots of people - kids and adults - can feel things that MOST people don't.

The only thing you haven't tried, probably, is letting her not wear socks/underwear. You may have to do this, even if it seems strange to you. Your body is not her body - hers seems to be more sensitive.

Can she clarify how and where the socks hurt? If it's the toes where the seams are, google "seamless" socks.

But if she's not getting blisters, let it go. It's not an issue to fight about.

And unless she's wearing a dress, skip the underwear. Lots of people go without underwear. I couldn't, but I don't have sensory issues with my body being that sensitive.

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T.D.

answers from Springfield on

stop fighting her on it. let her be barefoot and commando if she wants to
9x out of 10 my son is comando and barefoot. dd will wear undies but no socks.
when he goes out in public he will wear underwear and socks if necessary but as soon as were home hes back to commando and barefoot.
i have given up on that battle. they can be barefoot at home. they can go commando at home. it makes it easier to get them to wear it in public. (they get their way at home but follow society when out in it.)

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S.C.

answers from Kansas City on

I would first find out if it's truly a sensory issue. If so, there isn't much you can do, you can only work with what you've got. If not, it's behavioral, and you have to decide if this is a battle you want to fight or not. Some parents don't find this an issue, if it truly bothers you though, rule out sensory before fighting this particular battle.

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S.S.

answers from Wilmington on

Ok first I was the exact same way as a child....I am not on the spectrum and do not have any sensory disorders what so ever!....I outgrew it, but it drove my mom nuts!!!!!....I would wear socks but they had to be thin with no seam and I wore underwear but i was picky and always had a wedgie problem...lol.....let her go without..it's not a huge deal in life she will most likely outgrow it like I did ;) :)

M.D.

answers from Washington DC on

My 8 year old has more recently started to become extra picky about his clothes, mostly socks. My older sister was the same way, so I'm used to it.

My husband asked his Ped a few weeks ago at his annual check up and she said unless it's preventing him from living a normal life, it's fine. He fusses some, but has learned to really think about how things feel before he buys them. So she didn't refer him out, even though I was looking for that.

I would definitely ask your ped though, see what he/she says.

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J.G.

answers from Chicago on

My son doesn't wear undies, and neither of my older kids will wear socks.

I don't see a problem.

L.A.

answers from Austin on

Our daughter has a childhood friend that is on the spectrum and has some sensory issues. She had to wear her socks inside out, because the seam at the toe, drove her insane. If they ever found a style that worked for her they purchased a couple of dozen for future use,

Her grandmother had to make her panties in a "bloomer" style, because panties bothered her. This lasted until about 7th grade. She just could not stand the cling that panties have..

This young lady is now an adult, has graduated from college and now says it felt like she was being burned or strangled with the seams, the elastics and sometimes the fabrics themselves. She preferred to go without, but her mother insisted she wear socks and panties.

She is somewhat used to it now, but is still very "sensitive" to these "distractions" touching her body. She hated to shop. And says it is still somewhat frustrating.

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E.M.

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My child complained about her socks and we bought a TON of them. Turned them inside out even. Finally I just explained that she need to wear them for school (a requirement) and she needed to pick them out or had to wear what MOM decides. It took many changes right at the front door because they were "uncomfortable" but she eventually just adapted. As for the underwear thing, since my son has just started wearing it, he asked if he could go without. I told him he could get hurt-the last thing I want is a little injury in my kids' private parts. ugh. He then wanted to wear it OVER his pants but I laughed and explained it was Underwear and not OVERwear. We joke about it now. Short of letting her pick it out, I don't have much help. Is it that she just doesn't want to go to school? Good Luck.

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