Moi.
Husband not only ISN'T on top of things, but will periodically come through and muck things up without bothering to so much as talk with me first. I'm talking things like
- he works 80+ hours a week and does NONE of the childcare/schlepping... but will randomly sign our son up for a sport, talk to our SON about it / get him excited without so much as a WORD to me... and then get all pissed off that we already HAVE SOMETHING on that time and day when he wants our son to be doing "x". He only wants him to be doing it because some coworker's kid is doing it. This JUST happened (again).
"I signed him up for basketball on Wednesdays. There was a spot of J's team!"
"We have Aikido on wednesday, and J has been playing basketball for years, and it's midseason."
"There are clinics he can do on fridays to 'catch up' to the other boys!"
"When he has snowboarding."
"You always make things so complicated! You just shoot my ideas down!"
"So you want us to cancel Aikido and Snowboarding, so he can do basket ball?"
"And I'm going to take him to the Y to show him the adventure zone."
"For what purpose?"
"So you can take him during the week."
"When during the week?"
"Well, in the morning."
"When he's sleeping from his meds?"
"In the afternoon."
"When we're doing school?"
"You don't do school mondays and wednesday afternoons!"
"Because I'm in my archeology class at the college."
"Well kiddo is really excited to do..."
"Yeah. WHEN? We don't have TIME to add one more thing in, much less TWO."
"You know, eveyone else's wives manage to find the time to take their kids to do fun things. THEIR kids don't just sit around playing video games."
Nevermind the aikido, gymnastics, snowboarding, drama, art, playdates, field trips, homeschooling... that. we. do. every. week. Often with 2 activities a day in addition to school. But because when H is FINALLY home from work (that 80 hours) we're done schlepping, done with school work, done with cleaning, done with cooking, done with chores... and kiddo is playing videogames. So that must be the ONLY thing he does. All day. Every day. Right.
Then, of course, he breaks the bad news to his friend because "You know R., she's just so lazy. I mean, I have WORK I have to do, like you. But YOUR wife actually cares enough..."
My Sunday. So lovely.