When to Have Another? I Know It's a Personal Decision but I'd Love to Hear...

Wow B.. I must say I admire your patience with two little ones and considering another. I have a 4y/o and six month old and my days get stressful. I say if you handle the two with love, patience, indivudual time, and financies, I say go for #3 if you and your husband think you are ready. I think those are the four key ingrediants to raising a family! Good luck!

I have five children ages 19,(15 months apart)17,(16 months apart)16,(17 months apart)15,and 11. I also have been raising a 13 year old nephew for the last 2 years. It was/is a little heck-tick at times, but it has been more than worth it. My kids are not only close in age, but close friends. They protect and confide in each other.

B.,

I have 3 kids now, although my oldest lives with my in-laws... she is now 12 and was born when I was 17. I when many years being told that I couldn't have anymore... then suprise I found out I was expecting.

Right now we have 2 little ones under our roof... My baby girl just turned 3 last week, my Bubby will be 2 on June 9th and we are expecting another little boy on June 14th. I love all my kids dearly... and wouldn't change a thing - well to have them all under our roof, but the oldest is happy where she is. It can be stressful, but I'm sure you know that having 2 under 2 also.

I didn't exactly plan what is happening with me... I did want a min of 4 kids growing up, but going years with 2 doctors telling me it would never happen I didn't expect it. My kids are the most special thing I have and their smiles are the best gifts I'm been given.

When you are ready your heart will let you know, or it will just happen. We are only given what we can handle... we just have to figure out our way. Remeber - love is strong... as long as you have that nothing else matters.

LOL here I am still expecting #4 and sometimes we talk about #5 and how we need a bigger house. (We joke about being in a race with my sister - she is expecting #5 in July... and she didn't want any growing up). So, odd things do happen, but a loved baby/child is so special.

Good luck and I do hope you make the right choose for you and your loved ones - no matter how many it ends up being :)

First let me say that Hubby and I waited to be together at all til we were married. thats just to help you understand this story. We also waited to get married til we could afford kids because you just never know what hand in life you will be dealt. We always wanted to eventually have 3 to four kids. After about 5 yrs of being married. But some things are just out of your hands. I got pregnant on birth control the spring after our 1st anniv. Our first child was born two weeks after our two yr anniv. And I really am just a one percenter I took my pill at the same time daily and never missed. nursed for two months and then switched to formula and went back on birth control. When my daughter was 4 mths old another surprise...I was pregnant again..and after she was born the same system of timing nursing then birth.l.this time the patch.and when she was 4 mths old..i got pregnant again. My third was my son. I delivered three children in 27 months. I have to say that to me two was really stressful...but somewhere between two and three i adjusted and three was a piece of cake. All my kids were planned.. just not when we planned on having them. And I have to say that now that i have it like that i wouldn't go back and change it. Hubby and I have actually been talking about number four.. and we are considering adopting..and we have even talked about adopting number 5 and having number 4 or vice versa.....but this time we really have a burden for adopting a child and bringing them into a loving home..i don't know if 5 will ever happen but we are definately wanting four. The three we have now are 5, 4 and three. I also babysit a 4 yr old and a two year old during the week and the best thing is once they can walk..they entertain each other and they are sooo much fun..I think you'll love it.