E.H.
Hi M., congrats on the new baby! I usualy don't reply to most of these because I can't relate or help. But when I got your email, my heart went out to you. I can't tell you when you should quit but I can only tell you what I did and what happened. I was working and had a wonderful job (long time ago in the states) but started having complications and was put on bedrest for three long months! February 12th 2002 our son was born.
Well, I knew I had a job to go back to and didn't think about it. Then it came time to go back after maternity leave. In my heart I really didn't want to go back and have to put my child in daycare, but like you said we needed the money.
Well, fast forward about a year and a few months. When my son was 18 months. I didn't go back to work and it was the best decision I ever made. I have been home all of his life.
Was it difficult yes, but the pay off was worth it. My husband and I started a home business almost 6 years ago. So I never ever have to work again. We were able to financially surpass what I would have made at my job.
All I am saying is, there is ALWAYS a solution to any problem.
The deployment will be stress enough and your children need you there because of Dad not being there. Although, all my kids are in school now, I still love the fact that I am here for them whenever they need me. The kids are worth more than anything. I will be praying for you and your decision when to quit.
Have you looked into something to supplement your income when you quit. There are so many options out there you just have to look and do your research.
E.