When Is the Time Right?

Girl!! Do you love chaos or what???!!! you want 3 kids all under 3 and a new puppy!!??? and I'm guessing the puppy's not potty-trained either, huh? yikes!

Please examine and put a high importance on your sanity level with all this chaos while having an absent Dad who travels a lot for work. I mean, you're almost a single mom with that kind of business traveling. And btw, boys take longer to potty-train than girls do. {if even he's already showing signs of wanting to go on the potty...it can still take a year before he's on his own and reliable...i've seen this soo many times with many boys...the interest will come and go.}

You must take care of MOM! Your kids need and deserve a sane, well-balanced, well-rested mommy! And you deserve it, too!

I'd at least wait until the boy is 2 1/2 before thinking about conceiving. So much can happen and can yet to be discovered with boys under 2....(speech delays, austism spectrum, behavioral delays, etc.). I've seen couples jump into the 2nd baby thing like it was getting a new puppy only to find out they wish they'd waited because they discovered their first born was still growing and developing and needed more attention now (diagnosis of autism doesn't always happen until after 2 -- and there's a big wide spectrum of behaviors of autism).
Devote all your time and attention to your 3 yo and your 18 mo...they are still growing and need Mom's attention. They are still so young!

Maybe this is alarmist or negative, but if my husband was working out of town every 10 days and suddenly gave in to my desire for another baby, I'd investigate further as to why he had the sudden change of heart.

No one has a storybook life. It may look like some people do, but that is such a rare case. You have to go with your heart. Even the best laid plans for conception don't always go as planned. I had #1 the first month trying,a dn now am having problems having #2. You just don't know what will happen when you try. I would have to remind you to think about just how much work a newborn can be. I'd be a total basketcase if my husband was working out of town when I had a little one. If you think you can handle three including a newborn on your own, and that is what you both want, then go for it!

All I have to say is, nothing in this world HAS to be story book perfect. If both of you feel that the time is right, then you should go for it. Only the two of you know if it is right or not. Good luck! I hope you get the fairy tale ending, whatever that may be. LOL.

L.,
You are soooooooooo lucky your husband will agree to have another one. I have a 2 1/2yr old and an 11 mos old and am dying to have another one. I loved being pregnant and love being a Mom. I have all the negative responses too. I tend to look more at the positive. My 1st, my daughter made me a Mom and my second, a boy made her a sister I am soooooooo incredibly Blessed. I always wanted more than two. My husband says he's too old,etc, etc....
You are Blessed and whenever you find out you are pregnant you will be truly Blessed, if it is next month or two years from now.
My husband works all the time but I pretty much do everything anyway. I have two dogs and two kids,fish etc....
Everyone will have a reason why you should wait but I say follow your heart and dreams.
You will be in my thoughts and prayers. Just know whenever it happens, the time is right and you will be truly Blessed.
D.

You know, I have 3 kids and one on the way all under 7, which is not as crazy as your situation might be, but it is close!! I also run an in home daycare, and my husband works full time over nights, and is finishing some prerequisite work before starting Parker Chiropractic College in the fall! I will have this baby right before he goes to Parker. Is is crazy, yep!! Do other people think I have lost my mind?? Sure, but its not really anyone elses place to judge!! I love my kids and my crazy life, and know that there will be an end to these crazy days, and I would not to miss out on what we are learning together as a family. If both of you want another baby, then honestly, go for it. There is never a perfect age separation, it can be difficult no matter what the age spread, trust me, but you will learn to work within the means you have. You will have to become more organized, as 3 kids at the store is not a great plan, and things like cooking and cleaning need to be a little more planned. But, you find a way to make it work, and find the joy in the journey!! I would never want to give up watching my older kids learn to love and care for their little brother (who is almost 1, so my babies will be 15 months apart)!! I hope that you are able to find the answers you need, but in my opinion, the tugging at your heartsrings means there is another little soul waiting to be loved by your family!! Good luck ~A.~

If that is what makes you happy and you can afford it - go for it. If my hubby let me I would have 5. Have fun!!

If everything had to be in place first there would be very few of us having kids. :) If both of you are ready and wanting another one than that is the right time to try. And when the time is right for you to get pregnant again you will. :) Good luck and let us know when you are expecting again! :)