When Is It Time to Shave?

I think this is a decision you have already put a lot of thought into. At this point I wonder if it's truly her decision or the other two girls telling her she is unladylike (!) and that she somehow isn't "looking right" by not shaving. She is only six, and since you said it's not a major deal to her, then I wouldn't let her do it just yet. Just my opinion. I would also be wary of the two daughters of the girlfriend. That they take it upon themselves, without adult permission to shave another childs legs. Big red flag there.
Anyway, sounds like you have your daughter's best interests at heart. Bless your heart for all you do as a single mom. Keep up the good work and stay strong.

A.

Six is very young. If it's no big deal for your daughter, then let it go. Soon enough they will be wearing pants anyway.

Hi R.-

Although 6 does seem awfully young for shaving, I don't think there is a magic age for everyone. I don't remember exactly how old I was when I started to shave, but I do remember that I was one of the last girls in my class to be allowed to shave and I remember being absolutely mortified to wear shorts or a skirt before I was able to shave. Luckily I'm blond, so my hair was very light but even so I remember feeling self conscious about it. I would try to hold off for now if she seems ok with it, but at the first sign of her being self conscious just let her do it. It's amazing how much something this small can affect a girl's self confidence.

Good Luck,
K.

I think that 6 is young, but you know some little girls are having menstruation by age 9 or 10. So if you developed early, it does seem normal that she is too. It is a little tough now because her eyes have been opened to the fact that she has hair on her legs. I think that maybe I would not say anything about it for a couple of days, she is little, it might pass. If not, I would probably let her shave. Best wishes, they grow up too fast don't they!!

My daughter is 9 and wanting to shave as well. I have told her not yet, that she is too young that we would talk about it when she get's in Jr. High. But since she dose get made fun of at school a bit by some of the kids. So she now wares pantyhoes, we get colors that match her dress. And she is happy with that, she thinks shes a princess when she ware them. I think when my daughter gets into Jr. High and have to change for gym is when we will deal with this issue again. If she is made fun of badly then yea we will learn her to shave. But in the meantime we deal with long skirts or panty hoses when she isnt wareing jeans.

Good luck with this,lord knows I need it too.

R.,
Sadly I think that we all have way to many hang ups regarding what other people think. (I am the most guilty!) I am dealing with my 10 year old wanting to shave and talk about her period. I have been listening to her friends carefully lately to see what they are discussing and how they and their parents feel about things. My daughter's friend, who is 9, just started shaving her legs and arms. She is so happy and relieved about it. She has a cousin who is younger and she is shaving too.
R., there are so many bigger things in the world than this that will come up with her...if you were uncomfortable as a child with hairy legs, and your daughter is now asking, then I think that it is time and it should be no big deal. Who's to really say when someone is ready? If your daughter wants to do it, and you understand how she feels, then it is sacred between the two of you. Let her shave before it becomes a big thing in her head. You know how kids dwell on stuff like that if others are teasing, and I'm sure you want her going into school feeling good about herself. It is no big deal.
God bless you and your children. I hope you and your daughter find a good answer.
D.