My Daughter is 8 and she still likes to be bounced on my knee. I will do it occasionally sometimes with just her and other times with my 5 year old. Should I stop doing it soon because she getting older or wait until she's 10?
Any day now... my kids are age 40 - 37 - 28 - 24...
When you and she are ready or when she's too big.
First, I need to address this: Your daughter is not masturbating on your knee. Gamma, just stop. I swear, sometimes you just don't think before you post.
Okay, so you have a 5 year old and an 8 year old. Do you know what that means? It means that your 8 year old sometime wishes she were still little like your 5 year old. Little ones get more attention and time from parents. Being bounced on mom or daddy's knee is a way for her to enjoy "being little." At that age, kids struggle with wanting to be independent, yet still wanting that "little kid" attention...so you'll notice that she'll regress or act babyish about some things on occasion. This is developmentally normal.
But it's our job to help them toward age appropriate behaviors. So I would say that you can continue, but eventually begin to transition to just letting her snuggle up and sit on your lap or next to you. Take time to do special things with her that her little sister is too young to do. She's getting sooooo big!
When the weight of the child is too much for your leg to handle. Same with piggy back rides. My husband can't make it very far anymore when one of our teenage sons jumps on his back, so that has pretty much become a game of "Let's crush dad and see if he gets back up."
Stop when she no longer asks or when it's physically too much for you. No reason to worry about :-)
If she's eight and you're still physically capable of bouncing her on your knee, either she's extremely tiny or you've got calves like tree trunks.
When they are 80.
Seriously, pretty much once they won't let me any more, which would be, um, 13.
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Bounce them until your knees can't take it anymore. Sometimes my 12 yr old tries to sit on my lap. She's taller than me. I let her, but I can only take it for 30 seconds before I'm like "OK OK OK GET UP GET UP, YOU'RE CRUSHING ME!!" If I could pick her up, cuddle and carry her, I would. They get so big, so fast. Enjoy all the bouncing you can for now.
when you can no longer bounce them due to size and weight.
Gamma the reason the boy asked the question is because he's not sexual in the way he thinks. As a parent, I would stop because his body has begun to react. Male children's sexual organs are on the outside and more easily affected while female's are more internal. At the age of 8 it is highly unlikely that she is masturbating. She has not been sexually awakened yet. She may have some sensation but if she's not been abused she doesn't know what that means. She has no physical sign that would cause her to question it.
If she was bouncing to masturbate her parent would know it by her reactions.
My answer to your question, celticfan, is to stop when either one of you want to stop. I see bouncing as her way of sHaring the fun you and her sibling are having.
Wow Gamma, would love to know what school you went to because none of my psychology classes covered masturbating on your parents knee. They did cover a lot of the maladies you apparently suffer from. This is the third or fourth question this month that you have gone to masturbation when no one else did. Hum, what does that say about you?
I am not even going to answer the question because this is obviously a troll
i'm not sure who's creepier, the troll or the poster who can't stop thinking about kids masturbating.
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Ok I read this question and didn't get it .. then read it again. Why is there an age for this? We helicopter our kids (in air like airplane ride) until we can't. Same with piggy back rides. Now my kids give me piggy back rides :)
I don't know if there's anything inappropriate about it (I'm guessing you'd be able to tell????) as Gamma mentioned - if that's the case, then make your decision without making a big deal.
If she's hurting your knee then stop but she may be able to sit on your lap. My 8 year old still sits on my lap. I can't bounce her but I still hold her and she's almost taller than me. I still want to hold onto my baby so I don't complain.
Stop now. She's probably masturbating on your knee. Seriously. Kids this age are waking up in those parts. Boys are getting erections and girls are discovering those parts.
So stop, that's something that little bitty kids are cute doing.
Have you ever sat through an psychology of women class or developmental psychology class or any class that has to do with human sexuality? This kid is bouncing on this knee and it is stimulating to their genetalia.
A friend has 2 boys and they'd bounce them around and play in the evening until they ran off one night and she went to find out what was going on. They were talking and one said to the other "Look at it, it got hard! What's it doing that for?". They were 6 and 7.
Kids this age don't know what's going on, it's not like they're going Hey! bounce me so I get tingles! They're sitting there going....that feels good, really good, etc....
I really didn't know kids still did this past pre-school age. I know my kids would not have been interested in knee bouncing past the age of four, and I don't see other kids doing this. I work in a child care and bounce plenty of littles on my knee and have never had a big kid want to! I don't know if there is an age you need to stop though, I just find it odd that it is still happening.
