At what times, or during what activities or moments do you feel the most *connected* to your mate?
OK--gonna break the cuddly, smoochy mood going on here.
Seriously, when we are working together to accomplish what we need to that day, when we divide and conquer on the weekends...that's when I feel *most connected*! Odd, I know...
When we are talking and agreeing more than disagreeing. When we are "on the same page" and communicating well.
When we are snuggling before bed. I lay on his shoulder, and he puts his arm around me, and we talk. Sometimes it leads to sex, sometimes not. This is something we do almost every night, even if we are 'fighting'. It's hard to stay mad when you are all snuggled up, and a lot of times it's easier to talk through our issues. :) I can't help but to feel secure and loved when we are together like that.
This is really odd now that I have thought about it but I really like the times when he is out mowing the lawn and raking leaves, and I am doing dishes and mopping the kitchen, doing laundry. Usually its a Saturday morning and we just get a lot done thats been sitting all week and we sorta pull together as a team to keep things right.
I agree with Red, right before I go to sleep. Talking in bed in the dark about our days or the future or whatever, just the two of us is my favorite part of the day :) And I love to cuddle :)
I feel most connected at night when we are home together and putting our boys down for bed. After bath/shower time we get them in their jammies, head upstairs to one of their bedrooms and read books together, shut the lights off and sing our songs and say our prayers. Nothing makes me love him and appreciate him more than seeing him so tender and loving with our children.
Then he and I will go back downstairs and snuggle for a movie or "whatever". He works long, strange hours so we don't get many nights like this.
For me, it is the epitome of "family" and I cherish those nights the most!
When we can look at each other and know exactly what the other is thinking, even from across the room.
I agree with Red too! Love it.
sex, especially when I'm playing around with him just to turn him on! I love that I'm the only woman in the world who is allowed to do that.
I feel most connected to my husband when we're having one of our long and involved talks about nothing much at all. This happens a lot when we're watching TV...we've joked that we look forward to watching "Biggest Loser" and then we talk through the entire episode! It happens when we're reading in bed, too. We just get in meandering discussions about when we were kids, or what our hopes for the future are, or where we want to travel someday. I love being able to just be myself with him. Oh, I also feel super connected to him when we're out somewhere people-watching and we can read each other's minds.
When life gets super stressful and together we find something to laugh hysterically about.
Also, in the car. We always find something to talk about!
I feel most connected when we are doing some sort of therapy with our son. When we are on the same page and working together to help him master a skill, I'm so proud of our little family! I also feel really connected to my hubby when we are both outside, working on our yard/house. I know that we are working together to improve our lives, and I'm so happy I married this man!
during sex and during quality time spent with our kids.
Silent communication and sex.
I have an inhome daycare. My DH's work week ends at 9:30am on Thursdays & he's off until the following Monday. (he works 12.5 days)
When he comes in on those days off, the kids swarm on him. He always takes the time to stop & pick them up. Their game is "Mr. Mikey, throw me away"......which sounds terrible! He swings them up & around like an airplane & then plops them on the pile of pillows on the couch. Like an assembly line, he does this for all of the kids!
It's one of my fav times of the week....because I know that he will take the few minutes needed to make all of them happy! Not many men will do that with a houseful of kids.....
When I'm watching him play with all 3 kids, and he doesn't know I'm watching. Swells my heart with happy!!
When we happen to glance at each other at the same time from across the room, and hold our gaze and slightly smile. You know, 'the look'. That's deep!
After sex... just laying there naked like 'heck yeah, we're still good at this' (since it's so far and few between when it happens!!)
Holding hands on the couch watching mindless tv after the kids have gone to bed, or holding hands while walking through the store... I love hand holding, it's seriously my favorite... ESPECIALLY when he initiates it :)
