What Would You Do? Sticky Situation - Me Between My Employer and Husband

Correct me if I am wrong, but Sam confessed his hose mishap to Joe when Joe walked in. Thus, there was no throwing of people under buses. It sounds to me like Dave bitched at your husband about the fact that the cause of the mishap was discovered (as if the bill paying partner wouldn't want to figure out why the water will was so huge). Probably because he feels slightly guilty about being the proximate cause of it. Both Sam and Dave are probably worried that they are going to be asked to pay the bill or are going to be lectured about responsibility, etc.

You need to tell your husband that anything he communicates to you at work about work is a work matter and will not be kept in confidence. If he wants to tell you something privately he can save that for pillow talk.

Is part of your job to write the checks or explain the financial information of an increased water bill? Would you have ended up having to investigate later (is there an underground leak or something) and then explain that you knew what happened? "Sam" is actually an employee of the tenant right and water is included?

It would be nice to have a heads up. Your hubby is embarrassed because he sees this guy who thinks you are a snitch. Maybe the "handyman" owed the explanation.

So what you are saying is that the perp is claiming victimhood? And your husband is taking his side? Yeah, my dh would be sleeping on the couch until he apologized to me for that.

So your husband and the guys responsible aka Sam and Dave would have preferred the business owners didn't find out about anything regarding the hose and 17+ hour running water until the water bill showed up. Is that succinct and accurate?

But your husband told you what happened as a heads up during business hours and on the job. As part of handling the situation you spoke to Sam but the boss, Joe, walked in and Sam himself explained what happened.

You then called Joe's business partner to give a head's up about this monstrous water bill and explained the details of not only what happened but who was responsible. This is where I think things got dicey. When making that call to "make sure that the person writing the checks didn't get blindsided by yet another huge unexpected large bill" I would have simply said, "Hey Bradley, I have a heads up for you with the water bill. It probably won't show up until next month, but we discovered that the hose was left on overnight and we think it was on for the better part of a day." I would have left out details. If asked, you could then have said, "Joe has the details and can fill you in."

As for your husband cheating on his maintenance hours, I'm sure he knows better. He knows exactly what he's doing. I wouldn't say anything about that unless you plan to get a divorce, though. If he's going to react the way he did over this situation and throw you to the wolves, then he would never forgive you for turning him in for not putting in his full 40 hours.

I really, really think that you and your husband shouldn't be working for the same company under these circumstances. I'd be looking for a new job.

Was it your responsibility to call the managing partner and tell him about a bill that he may never see? If not you were way out of line. I don't actually understand what you job is so not sure if you were "doing your job".

This is hard to read due to the lack of paragraphs but it seems to me your employer, Joe, already knew about it. You calling the managing partner seemed kind of, well I can't actually figure out why you did that. What did you hope to accomplish by doing that other than the mess you created?

If I had some sort of personal responsibility to the bills when they came in, I would have said something to the employers. If I did not, I would not say anything. Thank goodness the hose was found THEN and not a full day afterward. These mistakes unfortunately happen. I have accidentally left a hose on. It just sounds like an expense that is unfortunate but inevitable sooner or later.

If I had a responsibility toward the bill or it effected my paycheck I'd say something- otherwise no.

At this point in time I'd apologize to the hose culprit as well as the employers, just saying that you are trying to make sure the bills don't get higher than they have been recently and that you were trying to help, but sorry to make it seem like you threw someone under the bus. I'd then explain to my husband that in the future I would keep things confidential between us and sorry for not doing so, but I was worried about all the extra expenses recently.

First off, I don't understand how you threw Sam "under the bus." YOu said he stood up and told Joe what had happened. So where is your responsibility for Joe finding out? Seems like Sam threw himself under the bus. I don't know that I would have called the owner, however, to alert him to the situation. I think I would have just let the water bill come in just like any other month. If he had a concern, his partner "Joe" could have filled him in. So, I guess you did throw him under the bus with the owner that you called.

You did right. I might let your husband go and raise his rent if I found out how he feels.

Oh good lord, I thought women were bad. You didn't do anything wrong. You were doing your job. Maybe it's time to find a new job away from family members/relatives.

From what I read I feel it was in approprite for you to say anything since it seems the people responsible for the bills, Joe, already knew. I am sure your husband was fully capable of relaying the info as he is the one who found the hose. I also feel that you should apologize for unecessarily spreading info that was not your responsibility. but then again you never really said what you do there.