Aloha Theresa,
I'm a Instructor now with the mentally and physically challenge 18 yrs. and older, helping them blend into society. When my son was ready to attend school, PA. did not have a law that they had to go to Kindergarten. After much thinking, my husband and I decided to keep him home. I taught him everything he needed to know. He could even write(Script, not just print.) his name when he enter First Grade. His teacher said he was one of the best student she had. Also,he did not play when she wanted the classes attention. His teacher did say that some of the children who came to her from Kindergarten expected to play a lot, as they did in Kindergarten. Preschool and Kindergarten is great for the social side of learning. Learning how to share and how to get along with other children is just as important as ABC and 123. They do learn other things in Kindergarten. Today is a lot different than when my son went to school. If you had the time, you could teach your boys things at home. There is the area of P's and Q's, Thank you, Excuse me when someone is talking, and it's called manners. Teachers love well mannered children. There is so much parents can do to help and work along with the teachers. I'm talking as a mother and teacher, now. To balance my son, we took him to Church with us. He started with the nursery and progressed with each age group. If he did not have that in his life I would have sent him to Kindergarten. As a mother, we want what is best for our child. With that in mind, each child is different and has different needs. After weighing everything in your situation and you make a decision, try not to second guess or doubt yourself. Don't want to be a nervous mother or have anxiety. It's ok to have a healthy worry about your child for we all do that. Too much though, the children pick it up in us and then they start to worry that something is wrong with them and then they react to what they are feeling. All I remember is that for each action there is a reaction. Trust your instinct and it usually is right. Don't mean to be so serious about this. I've met some mothers that are so extreme, that their child can't even play with other children because of their fears. Therefore, you got to have faith in yourself and the decisions your family makes together. We turned out ok and we pray so will our children. Forgive me if it's not what you wanted to hear, but take what you can use and file 13 the rest. (That means throw away the rest.) It is good and ok to get a second opinion. One thing is true, enjoy your children for they grow up fast. Have fun together and take lots of picture. Memories are to be treasured. Friends, Debbie