T.J.
Do you mind if I ask, how long have y'all been married? I have been married to my husband for almost 17 years. We have been together for almost 18 years. Marriage can be a matter of a lot of ups & downs. We have 2 children (that are both of ours). Our boys are both teenagers now!
As for your situation, I have a few questions:
1. Is there anything in your husband childhood that would cause him to act this way?
2. Was he an abused child?
3. Does he act like his father?
I find a lot of how a person acts as an adult has alot to do with their childhood. My husband comes from a history of abusive/ controlling parents who encouraged his siblings to treat him like he was not welcome in his own family.
If you are still willing to give your marriage a chance, my suggestion would be to try to look into your husbands childhood & see if he is willing to go to marriage/ family counseling. And if your not willing to put up with this anymore, then you need to find the strength in yourself to get you & the kids out of that situation as soon as you can. No one should have to put up with any of this! You deserve better. I hope that this helps!