I went to the store last night and left my mother with a 3 year old watching Netflix on my daughters computer. My mother walked in the room to check on him and he had gotten out of it and was playing a game instead. She asked him why he was not watching the movie like I put on for him. He looked at her meanly and said, "I'll do what I want with this computer"!!!
He hasn't come to daycare yet this morning. I haven't decided what his consequence will be. But I suppose he won't be on the computer today.
Sue, you just described my mother. She can't see it either. Makes me CRAZY. But she wasn't in the wrong last night with this boy...not wholly. In truth, I would not have faulted him for changing from the movie to the game. That's my mom. She doesn't think they should have the freedom to do things like that. If I don't spell it out VERY clearly with her before I leave, as in telling her it's okay for him to play a game, she'll get on his case. One would think I'd know by now. Then she gets upset with me when I try and cover every contingency.
My daughter didn't say it - she spit at me.
Greg, my oldest son, said "You're not the boss of me."
Nicky hasn't said anything like that - other than the typical "I HATE YOU" which all three of them have said so I think I am doing my job right!
Sounds like this kid needs an attitude adjustment.
Son "You clean it, you're the maid."
Me: "Excuse me???! I am not the maid. YOU pick this up now or loose it!"
Insert angry mama storming off to recollect herself. Come back and find everything picked up.
Me: "Thank you. Next time I expect you pick it up nicely without arguing."
Son: "Mom, what does a maid do?"
Mom:: "It depends. It's a job, where someone gets paid to clean houses. Sometimes they cook and do laundry too."
Son: " Do they mop floors and vacuum?"
Me: "Yes."
Son: "Just like you. I was right. You are the maid. Daddy must pay you good, because you got new shoes today"
Me: "Room. Now. Go!"
My son was four. Sigh. That was a looonng day and a long lesson on respect.
umm, since I "pride myself" on honesty....to use a very old-fashioned phrase: when my older son was almost 4, we attended a family wedding. He rode with my Mom & Gma. They were 50 & 71 at the time. My Gma is known for picking fights, & she was on a "tear" with my Mom. (& I want you to know that Gma has always been a devout/strict Christian, & sees no wrong with how she argues/picks on everybody. She considers this her right to show how everyone is sooo wrong in their choices.)
They stopped at a convenience store, & as my Mom got out -she kinda muttered some profanity (to herself) as she went inside. My son & Gma stayed in the car, & Gma started in on my son.
When my Mom came back to the car, Gma immediately complained about my son's behavior. She said that he'd argued with her & that he'd said something really bad. My son was sitting in his carseat, just totally content with his toys. My Mom asked him what he'd said to Gr Gma....omg, still mortified over this one (20 years later)....& he said, "I told her to 'shut her little f***ing mouth' ".
Now, what's interesting is that the profanity my Mom muttered was not this "really bad word". She climbed in the backseat with my son, & they talked. She told him that she had been really bad with her words, & she was sorry that he may have heard her words...but she also wanted to know where he'd heard his really bad word. His answer was, "Daddy's movie".
When my Mom got behind the wheel again, she turned to my Gma & said, "leave him alone. He said exactly how we all feel. Quit driving us nuts on purpose". OMG, still horrified (as a parent) over this one.
The funniest thing that comes to mind is courtesy of our nephew when he was about 5. He was trying to get his grandma to get him someting (probably a toy from TV) and she wouldn't so he told her "Grandma you're being irrational!" To this day we have no idea where he got that phrase from :-)
My daughter is 2 1/2 and she has said some bad things but I know that she doesn't understand what they mean. It is just something that she heard an adult say so she repeats it. I don't believe in ignoring bad behavior so I address it right away and she usually will not say it any more. I nip it in the bud now when they are young before it gets out of control.
Oh my!
When he was 2, he said "I don't wike you" and I put him to nap anyway, then called my mom crying. She said "Welcome to motherhood. If your kids like you all the time, you're not doing your job". That made me feel better!
When he was 4, he told me "You're not my best friend anymore!" I just said "That's absolutely right! I'm your MOM. Friends come and go. Friends are fun, but when things aren't fun, they might not be around. MOM is always your mom, is not going anywhere, and is gonna be around whether you want me or not".
A few weeks ago (age 5 now), I told him he needed to put something away (in my serious tone). Then my husband, who didn't know what had happened, said "go get it" and he said "No." and Jeremy was like "What? Go get it" and he dug his heels in, set his face, and said "I won't do it". I saw Jer's jaw drop so I ran over to tell him what I'd said, and he was just being very obedient. (ha!!!) We snuck off to another room to have a giggle behind closed doors. That was a little funny, but surprising.
We used to get "You're not the boss of me" too.
I have never had "I hate you"
The older they get the more their zings hurt. My daughter will try to boss me around while I am driving or doing something she thinks she can do better.
So I get a lot of Why didn't you, You never,
Or in homeschool when I DID teach the youngest multiplying fractions and he says YOu never taught me that and you can't teach.
I do let them know that they are being disrespectful and hurtful. And when I shut down and don't speak to them, they apologize.
My 5 year old told me the other day "I am mad at you for going to work and leaving me! Don't talk to me Mommy!" He wouldn't kiss me goodbye and told me I was a bad mommy when I got home:(.
My 9 1/2 year old spouted off to me the other day and told me that I didn't think of anyone but myself or do anything for anyone but myself. So I took his advice and took my daughter to a movie instead of taking him to his special soccer clinic because I didn't feel like sitting out in the cold at soccer. By the time I got home hubby made him fold all his laundry (normally I do it) and clean out his closet (I had dumped some stuff in there and told him I would straighten it out) and he had a new appreciation for what Mom does, lol.
My little guy is almost three and the other day I was telling him to stop harrassing the dog and he looks up at me and very seriously tells me "whatever mom". I had to turn around so he would not see me laughing I did correct him once I could contain the laughter but it was just so unexpected it was funny. He has also told be to "forget it" when he has had to repeat what he is saying to me because sometimes I just don't understand him.
I get "you're so mean mom." My response is "that's my job. You have NO idea what that means right now so you may want to rethink that."
The other one is "you're so bossy." My response is "yes, YES I AM!"
When my oldest son (20 now) was a toddler his favorite hiding spot was underneath the dining room table. If he had done something he wasn't supposed to do, or wanted to hide to do something he wasn't supposed to do, that's where he went. One day when he was 3 yo I walked past the dining room table and saw little tennis shoes attatched to little feet sticking out.
I squatted down, looked him in the eye and said, "What have you done?"
He looked me dead in the eye and said, "Nuffing! And if you don't quit putting me in time out we're going to go round and round!"
I had to walk away for a minute because I didn't want him to see me laugh! He got in trouble for sassing me, but I have to admit, to this day I like that kids chuzpah.
My 2 yr old hasn't mouthed off yet (other than, "walk away, mommy" - they teach "walk away" at her daycare when someone is bothering them). But walking out of daycare last night, I heard a girl say, "Mom, you're being a BRAT."
well, my boys are 2 /12 and 11 month old twins. so the mouthiest thing my toddler has said to me is "NO!" not looking forward to the years when they really get to going.
My daughter just turned three, so the worst thing she has come up with is, NO leave me alone! Then she calls me weird and slams her door shut.
