J.E.
I have always taught my kids (all 5) to say "private part". It sounds a lot nicer and you know what the child is talking about.
My girlfriend has a 3 yo son and she wants to know what he should be calling his pee pee? He heard a kid at his preschool call it weaner, so that is what he started calling it - but she doesn't like this term - any suggestions? I've got girls, so I'm not sure how to advise her.
WOW - well we were both totally overewhelmed by the enormous response to this - seems i hit a sensitive subject here for some and while i certainly appreciate the feedback, perhaps tone should be considered next time when some of you write responses. I don't think asking a question should be received so sternly, we are here to help each other, not criticize. Anyways, I have passed on your responses however, thank you.And thanks to those that shared your sensitive and personal experiences.
I have always taught my kids (all 5) to say "private part". It sounds a lot nicer and you know what the child is talking about.
I went to a workshop called Parenting Safe Children, and they provided information straight from convicted child molesters' mouths - they will stay away from children who know the correct terms for their body parts because they know their parents have been talking to them about it. Kids who have "cute" body part names are extremely vulnerable. Don't worry about words being offensive in public - they're not curse words!
Have her call it what she feels comfortable listening to. We use wee wee.
I think that from the beginning kids should be taught the right name for things. There are so many names out there for it that if someone calls it one things and one calls it another it gets confusing. At the same time the child should be taught respect for their body so they don't make fun of it. In the beginning it takes a little extra attention, but it's worth it in the end. Good luck
Why is it important to call it by the right name? Imagine if your finger hurt, but you could only say "My one thing hurts. You know, it's at the end of my big long thing." Always teach your children correct names. It is so much easier!
My mother used to work at the prosecuter's office and helped in the Victim coordinator's office. She was told by the Victim coordinator that it is important to tell kids the proper names for ALL body parts. By not using the proper name, you are teaching kids to have the wrong attitude about their parts.
Many responses. Just wanted to put my two bits in. When my kids where little, my husband called his "Peter". I'm not sure where he got the name from, but it is a family joke with him family. But since my kids are old enough to know and should know what things are called. We call them what they are to not confuse them later, but we also call them "their privates" in hopes that they know not to call it out in the grocery store, because yes it is very embarrassing to have my kids talk loosely about their body in public and in a typical child loud voice.
Mostly it's what she is comfortable using, because frankly they are going to pick up on something, so talk about it openly with your kids and give it a name....what ever it is you want to call it, then stick with it.
I think what ever she is comfortable with him saying in public as they will blurt it out. We use pee pee. I would suggest something that anyone caring for him would know what he is talking about. I had a niece that called her's by a ladies name and preschool could not figure out one day she was trying to tell them she fell on the monkey bars and hurt her "Sally".
We call my sons his donger.
How about "Penis"? I have two boys and that is all we ever call it.
Penis...just call it what it is. Penis.
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I have 3 Boys and they call their pee-pee a "Petey". Its cute and they actually got that from my Mom. All my Nephews call it that. I hope your Friend finds it cute and funny that I do.
My kids, boys and girls, all refer to their areas as pee pee spots. I found that was the least offensive way to refer to it in public. I am not big on them using the actual terms for the areas.
HTH & have a GREAT day!
S.
While I have nothing against saying Penis or Vagina/Vulva or whatever, we call them Girl Parts and Boy Parts when they are very young. Then later on you can teach them what all the different Parts are called.
Well, it looks like you've already gotten a lot of the same answer, but I just wanted to pitch in my own two cents too. :) Just be straight up, "This is a part of your body, we all have parts and we don't need to be ashamed of our bodies..." etc. A friend of my mom's told her sons that it was a "hotdog" and that's just wrong because 1: they'll never want to eat those again and 2: that's not what it is. They should know what it is, what to call it, etc. and it's just all a part of our bodies. Anyway, hope that helps!