T.S.
Haha what a great question!
I have often wondered this myself, especially after joining this site, and since my kids were babies and toddlers when the internet was still a relatively new thing, back in the old days of the 1990's :)
I fed them when they were hungry, put them down when they were tired, got up with them in the morning when they were ready to get up. I never did schedules, I just let each day unfold. I was a SAHM so I had that option (I realize not everyone does and I totally respect that!)
As they grew I kept offering/giving them food and it felt like 9 times out of 10 they didn't want/eat it. Oh well, take it or leave it!
I always felt as long as they were growing and healthy and smart why worry about it?
Yes, some days were harder than others.
But I never had to deal with fits or tantrums (ok, maybe rarely, but very rarely.)
I think today's moms are WAY too hard on themselves and their kids. Especially while they are young, RELAX and ENJOY, it's the best time of parenthood!!! You get to deal with all of the truly yucky stuff later, when they are teenagers. Seriously :(