What Is Wrong with Men? and Women?

I've said it a million times--It's ALL in the picking!

Women need to set (and keep!) the very highest of standards.

Not saying you don't get the family man with the 7 year itch and whatnot, but I really do think that a leopard doesn't change his spots.

Women need to empower themselves to WANT a man--not NEED a man.
I really think that's why so many women feel trapped and resigned to tolerating INtolerable behavior. The lack of financial freedom that comes from putting all of ones eggs (so to speak) in O. basket...especially if that basket has a little fraying around the moral edges. JMO.

There are a bunch of pigs out there, but there are some really good guys out there! I know I finally got my hands on one.

I have complete faith in my husband, and have since we married in our early-to-mid 30's (nearly 30 years ago). He's a straight arrow, loyal, faithful, and kind. And I know quite a few women who have never had any reason to doubt the faithfulness of their spouses.

Human beings always have failings – I think it's safe to say that not one of us have never knowingly done something (or many things) wrong. I know I can be irritable when I'm in pain and short on sleep, which is most of the time for the last 15 years. Some men would look at that as me being a B!TC#, and say something like "What's wrong with women? Why are they all B!TC#ES?"

Not all women are B!TC#es.

Not all men are pigs, either.

Irresponsible, weak, selfish, insecure, pathetic people. Especially the digusting women that will mess with a married man. How low do you have to be to know your "boyfriend" is sleeping with his wife every night. A pregnant wife at that. Have absolutely no respect for people like that. Dont worry, what comes around goes around.

Not all men are pigs... I just think it's the bad stories that stick out in your head. People don't usually talk about when things are normal & good. I have a pretty good guy. I thank my lucky stars for him every time I read one of the "he cheated" posts.

I'm sorry for what you, and all these other women, are going through, but rest assured, not all men are like this. I had my boyfriend back from high school and college that I was really serious with - he was enlisted in the army and would never have considered even thinking about it. My husband now - same thing. DH's ex might have cheated on him while they were still married so he knows how it feels to think your spouse is cheating on you, and he has said he would never do that to anyone, or risk his marriage to me just for "a piece of a$$". I'm not saying he never would, because "never say never", but I really can't imagine it - he's just not the type, he's too much of a homebody. Don't worry - there are still some good kind decent men out there!

Remember too, it's not just men...women cheat too. Like DH's ex.

There's hope. There ARE good men out there. It all depends on where you look, and how high you set your "admission" standards. If you visit the pigpen, and let just anyone in, chances are, it's gonna be a pig! But if you visit the mountain tops and you carefully screen them to make sure they're really eagles and not turkeys, chances are you'll get an eagle!

Don't assume that all men are pigs. Just like you wouldn't want men to assume that all women are tramps. Some are. And some are truly good people who've made mistakes and seen the folly of their ways and truly changed- and some are only sorry they got caught and go right on sinning.

I think a lot has to do with our moral/media culture today. ie, It's okay to have sex outside of marriage. It's ok to dress our little girls in sexy clothing. Oh, "boys will be boys" and so on. Everyday in the papers there's some sex crime or something that goes against the moral fabric of the family unit, and we wonder why the world is becoming such an icky place. It's because FAMILY is IMPORTANT. Truly truly important, not just because a man and a woman happen to live together and make little people, but because it is the foundation of a civil society. So many people do not realize that or trivialize that, at the risk of our country's prosperity and peace.

Makes you want to scream.
When it's all said and done and he's gone. Relax.
You've been through the wringer.
Someone will come and sweep you off your feet and treat you right.
For now take care of yourself. Take care of your little ones.
THe best revenge you can get is being the happiest you have ever been.
Go do what YOU want. Get a degree, start painting, LIVE!!

Let him wallow on his stupidity. You will find a man who will love you like you deserve. He's out there. THere are plenty of them.

Not all men our pigs. It's just woman have a knack for being seduced by, and choosing pigs.

My husband is a wonderful, honest man. But, I would ONLY pick a man like him. I would have rather been alone and childless forever, then be with a pig.

People are complicated. Is that an excuse? - No. It's just something I tell myself when I can't understand a persons actions.

No, not all men are pigs.

You WILL find a man that will treat you right. DO NOT hold your soon-to-be ex's poor judgement on him...though....

My husband does a WONDERFUL job taking care of me and us - are there times he drives me nuts? YEPPERS!!! But I drive him just as batty. It's the ups and downs of life and marriage....

My ex was a pig - he couldn't keep his dick in his pants....and there was no problem with him getting sex at home - he just felt entitled to more and a variety....some men are like that. Now, he's happily married and to the best of my knowledge - keeps his dick in his pants - maybe he was just young and immature....I really do like his "new" wife...and I'm happily married now too.

I've not been feeling well and I HATE my bathtub - have since we bought the house 14 years ago...but Sunday - my wonderful engineer of a husbandand my youngest son - found a way to let me enjoy a bubble bath!!!! See?! Not all men are pigs!!!

Not all men are pigs. My husband is the BEST! He is loving, compassionate, affectionate, sincere, honest, funny, creative, a manly-man and very smart. He is incredibly sexy and fit and loves me completely and is an excellent daddy. He is a strong Christian and a man of honor. I think alot of what is wrong with men and women today is the increase of moral decline---Alot of people are very self-absorbed and really selfish. They care about -me, me, me and don't care about hurting others in the process. If people believed in and practiced more kindness and generousity and helping others, I think we would have alot more happy marriages, friendships, co-worker relationships and of course less cheating! So, keep the faith---there are men out there that are absolutely wonderful and who will treat you like the queen you are! Keep looking and keep your standards high, you never know who is around the corner.....

M

My fellow is not of the porcine variety, ha ha. He's like most guys, he makes some dumb mistakes but of little real consequence and he's as faithful as the day is long. (And with a four year old, it can get really long!) I wouldn't trade my fellow for *anyone* else in the world.

Yep, there are good men around. It's just that if I posted some question entitled "Is your husband as awesome as mine?" it would likely get reported for "Flaming Bragging" and pulled. (Just joking!) Seriously, though, no one gets online to say how great their spouses are, usually more to problem-solve or vent. Who wants to read a post with a subject line of "My life is great and my husband rocks!" That's just asking for trouble!

Oh, and I don't cheat either. PMS is about as bad as it gets on my end.:)

I am sorry you are having such a hard time in your life right now but no not all men are pigs.. I have been with my husband for 20years havwe to beautiful kids.. No my life is not perfect we have problems but we work through them and we move on...just keep your head up the best you can & just know that women cheat just as much as men do.. Focus on your kids and somday you will find the right guy.. Good Luck

I had a husband who didn't cheat but admittly "didn't cross the line but walked right up to it". He's now my ex husband. At the time I was DONE with men! I was not going to ever marry again, I was going to only date for dinner, movie and sex!!! That was the plan. However, it didn't work out like that. When it finally hit me that my crappy ex was out having all the fun while I was working hard to take care of my kids who he at the time was neither seeing nor paying child support....I thought, I AM YOUNG! I STILL NEED TO HAVE FUN TOO! So I started dating, then hated that since the men didn't even want to pay for dinner and the movie...they only wanted sex! So forget that, I have a vibrator at home. :o) So after I REALLY gave up on men, someone gave this guy my biz card, said we could probably help each other out with our businesses...and well...the rest they say is history...we are happy newlyweds (and he's 7 years younger than me!!!) and I can honestly say that I trust him 100% and he is fully committed to me and the kids. So don't give up hope, but learn from what you've been thru and DO NOT SETTLE for anyone that does not have nor provide exactly what you need. Good luck!!!

I have asked myself the same question before. You know what has surprised me in the last year? More and more women are doing the same thing! Someone very close to me has THREE friends/acquaintances with children that have cheated on hubbies. It disturbs me that this close person to me can even be friends with people who do this. It may make me seem very judgmental, but I think I would end a friendship with a girlfriend if they started cheating. Outside of my religious beliefs that a marriage is forever, other people who don't share that belief should end a relationship if they are unhappy enough to cheat. I pray everyday that my man is not one of the "pigs" and that I keep him happy enough to honor our "forever" vows.

There is a saying that men are like parking spaces near a busy mall. Good ones are taken, what’s left is bad or handicapped.
Now, that does not mean that all that are left are pigs…..
What I suggest is next time before you “get laid” you get to know the guy very well and if he is worthy of your attention – do the deed. Find out everything, why he is out of previous relationships, financial status, plans for future, does he have children, religion, relationship with parents and siblings, are there any toxic people in a family, are there any troubles, is he in control of his life or other people potentially manipulate him, etc. before the word “laid” crosses your mind….
History of men, their thoughts, ideas speak volumes. As a woman you should be able to get a clear picture of what is in front of you and if he will be a good material for you and your children before you invest in him any of your time. Do not compromise. Make a list of what you are looking for and if a guy does not match the list- move on to the next one. Do not linger, do not doubt yourself, do not feel sorry (I know that as women we get carried away with feelings a lot and tend to use self soothing talk and compromise a lot).
Good luck.

I know you know the answer to your question. But maybe you want to hear it from someone else. So here it is - not all men are pigs, and not all women are female dogs.

you just need to calm down and stop blaming cheating men on situations. how about believing in the positive - that there are sweet men, gentle and kind out there. the world is beautiful. You just have to know where to look.

I read your post and was surprised by the"getting laid in the next year", Then I realized who you are and don't blame you, you have been through he**. I'm sure when things settle down with schedules and his behavior, you will get your mojo back. I think there are good guys and gals out there, it's just timing. My ex and I have decided to not be in other relationships until out daughter is older (18 ish). We both tried it about 8 - 10 years ago and the timing wasn't right.

I don't get your question, are you divorced, single or in an unhappy marriage? My husband and I have been together for 22 years and yes, sex is pretty important to both of us, but so are other things. What exactly are you asking?

First, lose the attitude that all men suck... Because as long as you give off the vibe (that you think men are horrible pigs), all the good decent men will avoid you.