What Is He Hiding?

Well usually honest men don't cheat in the first place. So I think you already know the truth. Good luck

Something like 60% of men on dating websites are married! I think they might feel bored or moreso, invalid in their marriage. They need spice. They need to be needed and wanted. We women do, too, but most of us tend to deal with the disappointments of marriage, rather than get the opposite sex all hot and bothered about us. LOL

Oh, there are 2 ways to deal with it. Maybe sit him down and tell him you KNOW it's him, so what is your relationship missing....but he HAS already lied to you. I might start an account and reply to him....with a pic you found online (not too sexy, but sexy enough)???? See what happens?

Some men will just DENY DENY DENY. Like children. He is totally caught.

I have found when I have caught my DH in a lie he will always deny, deny, deny. It's man code. It ticks me off because they treat us like we're stupid when they do this. Sounds like he's definitely cheating to me - I'm sorry.

I think you have to approach this as..... you aren't gonna get him to tell you what he doesn't want to tell you. in which case, as hard as it may be, take the bull by the horns and perhaps seek out support for yourself. Sounds like you have been having problems for awhile and I think you might need an objective party involved in this. In which case, perhaps personal therapy for you so that you can get the support you need or even a woman's group. some place where there are people who have gone thru the same thing and can lend their advice and help you navigate this situation. When something like this occurs, in my opinion, it's only the tip of the ice berg.... things like this don't just happen over-night... something has been amiss for some time..

whatever you decide, good luck to you

People cheat. People lie--it's a fact of life. But here is where it is a major problem, along with the deceit: STDs. Fact is, if your husband cheats, he could get and give you an STD--possibly which could negatively alter or even end your life forever.

Tell your husband the gig is up.

Why so blatantly a lie: He is diminishing YOUR intelligence.

If you think he has cheated on you, he has.

What to do now? I can't say what I would do in your shoes. Trust is an issue that can possibly be worked on but if he is straight up lying...he's doesn't sound like he is interested. So confront him in that manner.

But again, HIV/AIDS, herpes, etc...they don't discriminate. And he could give you the gift that ends your life is he's screwing around on you.

End of story.

www.survivinginfidelity.com

They have multiple forums (just found out, general, reconcilling, divorcing, etc.) and are VERY active. Great site. GREAT reading material.

BTW... one of the best 'excuses' I ever read (first denials, then blameshifting -aka really it's "your" fault <rolls eyes>, then excuses) was that the wayward husband was in an area that was "at sea level". Yeah. The barometric pressure changed. Mmmhmm. Of course. Everyone goes MAD with lust and cannot control themselves when they get to "sea level".

The sheer length and variety of bologna of "Do you really think I'm THAT stupid???" list is oddly comforting.

First of all I am sorry that you are going through this. First, dont think unless you have proof and once you have proof other then just a gut feeling then you need to take the next steps. Try to ask yourself if there is anyone in your lives that would want to hurt and end your marriage? Does that person has pictures of your family? Are pictures easily accessible to others via Facebook or another social network where others would take? I have know people where there ex's would put up fake profile pages on them and make sure its easy to view for the public. If its a paid account, start digging through the receipts and credit cards. If its a public account, you can trace the IP address, and if its his account, have the password sent to his email address and go to his email address, retrieve the account and take a peek. I would have conducted my own research before confronting him about it. Make sure you know the everything you can before making a bad decision or pointing fingers at him especially when he could be innocent. How was his reaction when you told him? I am also sorry to say this, but if there is no trust in a marriage then the marriage may not work and if you do not want to be with him anymore, thats another clue that you both may need counseling or try to make a clean break for the kids sake. But try to do something before it gets worse! Good luck!

Um, even if he tells you the truth, you still won't trust him. I'm sorry you are going thru this, I went thru it as well with my ex husband. I divorced him because I knew I could never trust him again. I'm now married to someone I completely trust and he is a great father to our kids. I will be very difficult for you to get over this and stay married to him. If he's not willing to accept responsiblity and seek counceling then you need to start making plans for what you are going to do. Good luck.

Yeah, he sounds like he's been lying for a while. That's the worst - when they are caught in a lie and they STILL lie about it. Does he have some sort of excuse as to why there is a profile of him, if he didn't make it? I think your gut is telling you the truth. Trust yourself. It sounds like you definitely can't trust him.

Well do whats best for u and ur children and if cant admit then kick him to the curb to me in my opinion he aint a man cause u dont do that specialy if u guys are a family and becareful because if he did cheat u dont know what diseases he got from that girl.

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Well do whats best for u and ur children and if cant admit then kick him to the curb to me in my opinion he aint a man cause u dont do that specialy if u guys are a family and becareful because if he did cheat u dont know what diseases he got from that girl.

I'm sorry, but he lied to you. Do you really think someone else put a profile up using his name, his picture and talks about his child? Ummm, no. He did it. Cheating is a deal breaker for me. I would suggest counseling. If he won't go or won't fess up, then maybe you need to re-think things.

And in my experience, when a man is caught in a lie, he will deny deny deny. My sister caught her husband cheating ON TAPE. She played the tape for him and he still tried to deny it! Even with irrefutable proof, some men will still deny. My sister is now divorced and the happiest she's been in 20 years.

If he told you the truth that you are wanting to hear, what would you do then?
You want him to confess to cheating right? He doesnt want to confess to it because he likes his life the way it is. You dont.
You don't trust him and havent for awhile. Life is too short.
Time to lay your cards on the table and let him know that if he doesnt want to start some professional counsel you will most likely be leaving.
Are you sure some vindictive person from his past didnt make a fake profile of him on that dating site? It's pretty easy to do those types of things.
Picture your life with him and then picture your life without him. Which one seems best for you? Get counseling by yourself if he doesnt want to go. You need someone to help you through it.

i had a friend that the same thing happened to and she got i think she called it a key stoke counter and put it on their computer. it documented every key stroke and listed the time and date. she had lots of stuff for court when she printed it out. He cant deny it if it is in black and white on paper straight from the horses mouth well fingers....

You can usually get free counseling through your church!!!

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You can usually get free counseling through your church!!!

He's cheating. Kick him to the curb!
He is lieing because he is not ready to be labeled a cheater or to loose his family. Its nice to come home to dinner on the table, laundry done, house cleaned, and kid taken care of.
My ex did the same thing. i accused him of cheatting. lied lied lied till he broke it off with girl. Girl got mad and told me. I told him to get out of my house as soon as i got that proof.