What Happened to the Passion?

S.,

This happens. Unfortunately when it does, it becomes awkward and uncomfortable for both parties.

My recommendation based on my experience is for you to relax. If you relax your husband will. Instead of talking about it do something.

If possible set a date with your husband at home. See if you can get someone to take the kids overnight. If not get them to bed early.

Greet him at the door with a drink and tell him you have a relaxing bath drawn for him. Keep it light. Get him in the tub and you help him relax in the tub while you bath him. You should have already had a bath.

Don't forget to have a drink for yourself, if you drink. If not still have a drink of something. It helps set the mood.
While you are bathing him, kiss him on his body and help him feel your mood. Some good soft music should be playing. Things will take its natural course and before you know it...

This will work, just don't over think it.

Hi S.,

A word of encouragement! Life gets hectic once you have kids and it crowds your ability to be close to one another. Also, unfortunately, some men lose interest after seeing their wife give birth. They just get turned off. I believe there is a name for it but I can't remember.

I have been with my husband about 28 yrs and continue to try to keep the love light burning. I find that sometime if you just fine time and do little things that will bring you back sync. Like put the kids to bed and put on some music and slow dance with (wine, whatever). Or watch a movie snuggle up close, or take a bubble bath together or shower together and wash each other to bring back the intimacy you once had. Everyday life can get in the way but, try not to be defensive about it. Just take your time, oh yeah caress his private parts during that movie or go away for a weekend without the kids. Don't forget to look pretty, (parfum, sexy clothes).

Just take it slow. It is time for both of you to reconnect. Sometimes the love making will be Wow!, but not always if one or the other is stress or whatever. So, make it what you want it to be, if you want the Wow more, create that atmosphere. Let him know what makes you happy. But, don't give up. It's there you just have to find it again!!!

Good Luck!!!

Hi S.. I'm sorry you're going through this. I would suggest a couple things - see if you guys can reintroduce more intimacy into your lives. If you're not already doing this, it might help to flirt with him and encourage him to do the same. A wink and a smile, a soft caress when you cross paths, a peck on his neck, etc. Even if it doesn't lead to hopping in bed together right away, those things will get you both thinking about it more often without it being awkward. The other suggestion is to look into a marriage counselor or sex therapist. My DH and I found one and it helped us so much. Good luck.

Sounds dumb, but try praying. It works for me. I want to be there when my husband wants me and if i am not in the mood, i just start praying and thinking how good it is once we get started.