She needed help. She didn't have anything for Christmas and asked what to do. I got a couple flowers last night for directing her ito Salvation Army, etc, then this morning I got 6 flowers that turned up nothing. II am assuming for that anwer and it's gone.
It's the only question I remember anwering that I can't find.
I wanted to read her SWH. She lives in the area I grew up.
So Shante if you read this I am thinking of you hon.
I thought she was real. Maybe it was a scam.
But the answers all pointed her to where to get help. What about the next mom who comes on and does a search?
Markasa, I actually find your post funny. IN Monterey we had "homeless" come to the Albertson's parking lot to panhandle.
They were always clean, well shaven, well fed people. Men and women. Once we watched one of them get into a clean well kept Mercedez. We found out later that these "homeless" were making around $70K panhandling. So we would give our assistance to the guy across town, who we caught eating out of a dumpstrer, dirty, long scraggly hair and a Vietnam vet. He lived behind the gas station in the abandoned enlisted housing. We would buy hamburgers for him.
Thanks everyone for your responses.
I read that post as well, and I understand her plight. But to me, it struck me as looking for a handout. And as we all know this isn't the forum for that.
Margie you gave her good direction, but that is just how it read to ME.
I'm sure it's because she actually ASKED for people to help her and it appeared that she was wanting people on here to get stuff for her kids, HOWEVER, all of the responses were exactly what I would have expected to see. People being very supportive of a MOm who did the RIGHT thing, and they all gave her info on how to help out her family and her kids at Christmas. No child deserves to go without gifts at Christmas, especially kids that have just gone through what hers had. I don't like the fact that the "powers that be" can just delete someone's question or answer for that mater if they don't like it or think it is inappropriate. What's up with that? This is a forum for Mom's to help other Mom's. I thought that was what we were doing here. Support, help, guidance, etc. She DID ask a question....................... I guess they just didn't like hers. I will be thinking of her too. Hope all goes well!
I hope it was an autopull cause even though it was a little "hand-outy", all the answers were directions for help. If people reported it, that's just sad.
I answered her question, too. I pointed in her the same direction as to you.... asking organizations. Maybe she's very young and does not know about organizations that can help her out. Yes, she seemed to be asking us as individuals to come to her aid, but maybe that's not what she intended. I am guessing that posters reported her for asking us specifically for help.
I felt it was a sincere post and I responded to her and did NOT report it. I sure hope she had time to read the responses. All except for the one that told her that she needs to stop asking for help and do it on her own because that's how she'll feel good about herself. That post bothered me because we are here to help each other. I wanted to report THAT response but then I did not because I felt Mamapedia might remove Shante's request.
If Shante reposts her question in a different way, maybe it won't get removed. So... Shante, if you happen to be reading this, post your question again, but don't specifically ask others on this site to help you. Rather, ask for suggestions on how to get support, safety, food, etc... for you and your children from reputable organizations.
who knows! the monitors at MP might have thought it wasn't really a question. I think I read the post you are referring to. I've been hit or miss on here lately...been VERY busy!!
EVERY child deserves to have something to open at Christmas!
@ Markasa - I understand your cynicism, but anyone who has a library card can access a library computer. And yes, even poor people can have computers in their homes. My mom's company always gave their old computers away to their employees, which is how we were able to have one in our home when I was in high school. Here in Chicago they are launching an initiative to provide lower income households with $10/mo internet access, which is necessary for students to do homework assignments, many of which require the intergration of technology.
I agree with what Jim said but I didnt not report her either.
I happen to know someone who did/does the same kind of thing every year at Christmas time. She even posted on Craigslist one year. The difference was she had family and the kids would have enough. She didnt need a strangers help.
Actually she was in the same kind of situation. Her 'man' was verbally abusive, refused to work, kept having babies with other women... it took him shaking their baby girl and giving the child brain damage to make her finally leave him. I'm glad Shante left before that could happen.
On one hand it was like she was panhandling...I sort of felt like it was out of line too. But I didn't want her to feel left alone, It was her first post ever.
I did wonder if she was a lurker and just trying to get someone to message her with some free stuff too so I didn't know whether to report her or not.
I also referred her to SA. My hubby didn't make it to ours in time to get the grand kids signed up so we are seriously going to have a bad Christmas this year but I felt like maybe the one in her area would at least have some referrals they could do for her to other agencies in the area.
When I went to the LDS church we had a call come in and it was a Spanish speaking person. We had a man who served his mission in a Spanish speaking country so he took the call. The family had broken down and were stranded. They had no money, migrant workers or something...I can't remember the story. But anyway they were in dire straits. Our church helped this stranded family and gave them groceries and all kinds of help.
The next year the phone rang again, it was the same man. The same story, the same brother from our church was available to take the call. He recognized the man and his same story. It was a scam. They had been doing this to every church in the area and when the Bishop got finished checking they had received hundreds of dollars in money to "fix" their car ( I guess the mechanic could have been a family member too), sacks and sacks of groceries, toys, clothes, etc...maybe thousands of dollars worth of assistance.
No one did without due to helping this man's family, the church welfare funds took care of that. So when ever I see a post like this one, her first, a new person posting something so "needy" just in the right tone to get sympathy, leaving an abusive relationship with kids, etc....it's too complete. Too...text book for me. I would not be able to help anyone like this anyway due to our finances and I would hope that the community she is in would be able to do what she needs.
Only in America...our "poor" have computers.
