I take my son to the doctor for the smallest things. His dad thinks that he can get me in trouble because its getting cold out here and i only give my son a bath every other night. Is it a bad thing to do it every other night???
When i was little my mom use to do the same for me and my sister... My sons daddy dont have to pay child support do to the fact that he is on ssi. and because it is not ssd i cant get anything...I do everything in my power to give my son what he needs. I work to keep food in his stomach, clothes on his back, and diapers on him sense he is not potty trained... He is still on formula. they just transfered him to soy formula. but yet his daddy thinks i am neglective... Sorry to say i dont think i am neglective when i do what i am suppose to as long as my son is happy, healthy, and loved is all that matters.... I have been helping with children sense i was 8 yrs old and that is where i started some of my parenting skills....
His dad is an 18 yr old punk. He lives and hour and a half away. doesnt have to pay child support because he is living off ssi. He is more worried about putting a girl down than helping here. He ran away from my son when my son was a month old. I dont suggest that he thinks that i am a neglective mother when he dont do anything for my son................ YES I AM A YOUNG MOM 16 YRS OLD AND DOING IT ON MY OWN AND WITH THE SUPPORT OF MY PARENTS..
dont you think the father is kinda worthless????
When my kids were younger I would give them a bath every other day. In fact, I used to give my son a bath every third day. He had eczema and that was suggested by his ped. So unless something happened that I needed to bathe him more often (his diaper leaked or he made a mess of himself at mealtime) I stuck to that schedule.
Hello!
You don't say how old you are so I'm gonna assume you are young.
1. It is FINE to give a child (up to age 5, IN MY OPINION) a bath every other night to 3x a week. It's not like they get dirty right now. In fact, it's probably better for them since their skin is new and a bath every night could dry his skin.
2. You are NOT neglectful if you are providing for your son - keeping a roof over his head, food in his belly and clothes on his back are priorities.
If you are not receiving child support - how are you continuing your education? Setting a good example for your son and getting a degree so you can provide for him is a good way to take care of him.
Don't worry about your son's biological father - he's not really "daddy" as he's not involved in your son's life. Since he's on disability- consider taking him to court for sole-custody and having him give up his parental rights - this will make life easier on you and you won't have to worry if HE THINKS you are being neglectful.
Your baby's father is 18 yrs old, not helping to raise his son, not paying any child support, living 1.5 hrs away and he's suddenly an expert in child rearing, care and maintenance?
Relax.
I think you can tell him to blow it out his <insert what ever bodily orifice comes to mind>.
Every other day is fine unless he gets particularly sweaty and/or dirty.
I like my son to wash any day he's gone to school (wash off school germs), and there were a few days where mess after mess happened (if it were summer I'd have hosed him off in the back yard), but over a holiday or vacation if we didn't do anything to get dirty, a bath/shower every other day is fine.
Let me make sure I've got this right: he says you are neglectful because you do not bathe your son daily, but every other day? That is one of the silliest things I have hard in a long while! Just so you know, it is actually BETTER for your sons skin/ph/natural flora that you do NOT bathe him daily :) Do not pay any attention to him. Maybe he has learned something you don't know? From what I have read, it seems as though while living with you, your son isn't eligible for SSI, BUT if he were to live with his father, his father's benefits would increase? Maybe that is some kind of motivator.
It's fine to bathe every other night! In fact, my dermatologist recommends bathing children (and ourselves) every other night instead of daily (although I bathe daily) because of the drying effects it has on the skin.
Your child's father is no help in any way. I would seek sole custody if I were you. It doesn't sound like he's very involved in the child's life, and quite honestly, if he can't pony up some cash for the kid -he has no business being in his life, especially if it's just to torment you. It sounds like you're doing fine with your child. Keep it up and stay away from him as much as possible!
I do every other night with my son...I will give him on on his off night IF he has been outside playing or went anywhere germy. Your fine! I only got one twice a week growing up!!!
unless feet stink or face is dirty.....every other night is just fine, he's just trying to scare you
Every other night is FINE. My daughter is 8 now so I try to make sure she gets one every night. But even now every once in a while I'll let her skip a night. No biggie.
Hello Mama Bear! Just read your question. Congrads on the baby.
Being a young mother has so many challenges but they are all things that you can over come! In order to do so you will have to put your tough skin on and it sounds like you have already done that. I applaud you for joining mama source and i would suggest you ask all the questions that you have to on here no matter how big or small you think the question maybe. I wish I had mama source years ago but i am enjoying it now.
With that being said like the other post say i too allow my daughters to take a shower every other day, there is nothing wrong with that.
I also read some of your other questions and i want to encourage you to stay focused! Write out your plan for your future on paper and post it in your everyday view (if you have not done so).
Friends- do not stress over losing any you are on a different path and have a different focus now so you will make new ones along the way that will add to your life as well as you adding to thiers.
Money-make sure you save
The baby's father- do not focus on what he is doing and why, If you are not together or working together to raise the child you have to just do your part and do not allow the father to stress you out, and by all means never speak a negative word about the father in front of the baby
Be Blessed and STAY FOCUSED :)
I give my son, almost 2, a bath about every other day, or sometimes every 3rd day if he's really not dirty. I usually wipe off his face, hands, and feet with a warm washcloth on on non-bath days, before he gets into his PJs.
I think you should get some legal counsel on your custody and child support situation, if you haven't already. I agree with the other poster that if the baby's father is on disability, it might be a lot better for you and the baby (and really, probably also the bio dad) to have you have sole custody.
Chin up--you're doing a great job!
Is it that he thinks you should give him a bath every night or that he thinks because it is colder out now you should bathe less often?
Let me get this straight - he is not paying child support, but thinks he can get you in trouble for making sure your son is clean. You said it yourself - he's a punk, he's being a jackass, and he's immature to boot. He does nothing to help out with your son but still thinks he can tell you what to do and how to do it.
So what if it is getting colder out? It's not cold in your home! You are not bathing him outside! There's nothing wrong with bathing every other night, especially if it helps relax him and get him off to sleep. And most kids don't get so sweaty and dirty that bathing every day is necessary. Your son's father is contributing nothing positive at this point and I would consider what another poster suggested - take him to court for him to surrender his parental rights and be done with him. Good riddance.
They do say everyother night when they are younger cause every night can dry out his skin! He is doing nothing and you are doing what you can for your son so don't worry about it!
