My son is 4. In his primary class, he is very excited, answers all the questions, participate, and he is also very wiggly and doesn't always stay in his chair.
I have taught this same age group several times and my experience is MOST of the children act this way. The only time I ever got a parent to sit with their child, is if the child was excessively disruptive, throwing things or kicking, shouting... well, my son doesn't do any of this.
However, his teacher sends him out of the classroom about 3-4 times every class, which is only about 45 minutes for the first part which is a lot of singing/games..., and 45 minutes for the second part which is coloring, small lesson, wiggle song if the kids need it, small snack.
Once, she sent him out of the classroom just because he said he didn't want water for snack time.
His other teacher pulled me to the side and said that he acts like most of the other kids in the class, but he is the only one that is ever singled out and kicked out of class.
I know this for a fact bc I have silently observed and seen this, as well as the times when I have been asked to sit in the classroom, several other children act the same way and not once has the teacher ever sent those kids out or called their parents to get them.
My child no longer wants to go to class b/c he is sent out all of the time.
I know he isn't perfect, and sometimes I understand he does need us to come in and set him straight, but not this often, over little things!
I can't put him with another teacher, b/c this is our church and he is in there while we are our Sunday school class. I want him to socialize with his peers, not sit in with the adult classes each week.
I would pull him out, maybe request that he go with a different age group/teacher, but I know in my ward this doesn't go over well. Talk to her directly, but if that doesn't work go to whoever is in charge.
Have you tried setting the teacher straight ? Maybe it has become easy for her to "make an example" out of him, but if you've even sat in the class with him and seen how he acts and seen yourself that she does not punish other children like she punishes yours, then maybe she's holding a grudge or maybe she has no right to be in that position if she can't handle a child without throwing him out everyday. Sounds like there has to be something more, I can't imagine her just not liking him.
Lisa, he is 4. He is supposed to squirm. Talk to the spiritual director and ask for his/her opinion. Explain that it is very important for your son an dyou hope you can work something out.
B.
Family Success Coach
I've never heard of a class where 4 year olds sit in chairs and follow directions for 45 minutes. Even in K/1st grade (where I've been working for the past 3 years) the kids go from desk to carpet 3 to 4 times over the course of an hour to keep them interested and stimulated. I'd look for another program.
I would pull him ASAP. This "primary school" apparently is not well versed in age appropriate education. Most 4 year olds are in WAY over their head with sitting still for 45 minutes. Way too long!
You are not doing your child a favor, this will only burn him out and destroy his interest in school and learning.
Find a setting with experienced and educated staff, that know how to teach pre-K.
Good luck.
I would have a discussion with whomever this "teacher" reports. You should voice your concerns and ask that the teacher be monitored and that you want to be advised EVERY time your child is disciplined and the reason. I would flat out ask what the expectations are of a child this age. If no improvement within a week, I would remove your child. This could lead to a life-long adverse reaction to school.
Good luck!
Sounds to me like this teacher has issues and is holding something against you/your family, and is taking it out on your son. Even is you talk to the teacher, damage is done with your son. Since I doubt the teacher can be replaced, Pull your son from the class immediately. Talk to your Priest/Pastor/Director to see what other arrangements can be made. I am sure there is something better waiting for all of you.
Speak to the teacher directly. Tell her what you have observed and document everything, even though this is church. If she still sends your child out then talk to the education director at the church. Sometimes they are called Children's Church coordinators or whatever. Many big churches have one on the payroll.
If this is Sunday school then is she a volunteer? She may be in a class too young for her liking. Maybe a suggestion that she move up to third and fourth grade.
And you may have to volunteer to teach a year of so of Sunday school. Or Wednesday night class for his age group.
