What Do I Do (Intuitive)?

Hi L.,

Everyone is psychic. They just don't know it. Some people are more "intuitive" than others. Consciousness, part of everything and everyone, is intelligent. Some people are able to draw on it more than others.

I think you should give her a call. If nothing else, you have someone who's not real close to you to whom you can TALK!

Good luck!
"Grams"
from the Pocono Mts. of PA

Some people are better at reading emotions. I don't believe that makes them psychic- but the way she said it to you may mean she considers it a "gift". If you don't feel comfortable sharing everything, you could still chat with her, thank her for being sensitive and willing to listen, compliment her on her amazing intuition, let her know that you ARE going through a lot right now and need a friend- but you are getting counseling and you prefer not to share the details even with close friends right now.

You'll probably get all sorts of responses to your question, ranging from "why won't you talk to your friends and family?" to "this person is clearly nosey" to "hmmm...maybe..."

I understand what this woman is talking about when she says she's "intuitive." I'm an empath (I sense the emotions of others, usually those I know, even when they are at a distance). I have never been inclined to approach a stranger as I tend to be a pretty private person who prefers to respect the privacy of others (and strangers tend to be thrown off when you ask about personal emotions).

How you react really depends upon how YOU feel about this other person. If you feel like you could be comfortable talking to this person, do so. It might be just what you need. If you are completely "weirded out" and feel like this person has emotionally invaded your privacy, let them know that you appreciate the concern but you already have a support system in place.

Good luck to you!

I, too, am pretty intuitive and can sense when something is wrong. It's not unusual -- especially in women. We all have gut instincts, that can sometimes even save our lives if we listen to them. An example of that is somthing that happened to me nearly 30 years ago. I went into a public restroom late at night. It was completely quiet in there and seemingly empty at that hour, but SOMETHING made me bend over and look under the stalls. There was a man standing very still in the last stall. Had I not looked and dashed out of there, it could've turned out very badly for me. You've gotta listen to, and trust those instincts.

Now, you have to tap into your own innate intuition and decide whether you trust her with your personal problems. She may be able to offer the friendship and support that you need right now.

Everyone of us has an ability to "know" things that aren't conveyed in conventional, verbal communication. Some people have a very stong ability, others less intense and sadly most people just don't listen to that little voice at all. There is nothing magical or psychic about it. I beleive it's more about being in the present moment, observing what goes on around you and being tuned in to people. You say you're feeling a strong pull to her, that is your own intuition trying to tell you something. Why not call her, you don't have to pour out your soul the first time you meet. As others have mentioned I would be thoughtful about saying too much right off the bat. Feel out the situation a little, get to know her, listen to your heart. Who knows she may have answers you've been searching for or she may become a great friend. I can honestly say I have NEVER once in my life regreted acting on an intuition but MANY times regretted ignoring one! Really, what have you got to lose?

hm i dont think she meant psychic, i think she's probably just very good at watching people and sensing their emotions. i'm the same way -- if something is bugging someone, i'll usually be the first (or sometimes, only) one to pick up on it b/c i'm very aware of peoples moods aroudn me (comes from growing up in a family who were mentally ill and had wild mood swings). if you feel like talkign to someone, by all means reach out and give her a call. sometimes it helps to talk to a stranger whose opinion/judgement/etc. you odn't care so much about. and as the prev poster said, it could turn into a great friendship :) best of luck,

I think you have a need to talk to someone, and if your therapist is not filling that need, you should try looking for a new one. Talking to a priest in a confessional is not a bad idea either. As intuitive as this other lady might be, it might be just me but I'm wary of talking to strangers about personal information. Sure there are good people out there, but there are psychopaths too and there is no way to tell one from the other.

Dear L.,

Since you are seeing a therapist and appear to be a very private person, I would speak to my therapist and the one friend you have been able to open up to and ask their opinion.

Not knowing what you are going through but sensing it is some kind of betrayal issue, opening up to a stranger who knows the mothers of children your child plays with, could set you up for additional betrayal if she decided to share your problems with others.

Trust does not automatically happen; it is good to be careful when you are already in a vulnerable state. I will keep you in my prayers.

Blessings.....

No, she didn't mean she's psychic, although she may have situations that sometimes make her wonder! I'm "intuitive" as well, and quite honestly I'm very careful about who I share that with or who I approach when I "know" something about them. Different people have very different reactions! I think some of us are just far more sensitive to the energy people give off and some of it is unexplainable -we just know things! I also seem to have the gift or talent for people really opening up to me -even complete strangers -telling me their deepest and darkest. My mother was the same way. IF you want to talk to her and you feel comfortable doing so, I would go for it. You may make a great new friend and it may unburden your soul. That's kind of how I view my "gift." I feel part of my purpose is that people can leave their troubles with me. It never hurts to get your worries off your back as long as you feel she will keep your confidence.

I would say go for it! If it makes you feel better, why not? There is all kinds of energy on our planet and all around us and in us and some people have the gift to be able to tap into this to help others and to sense things. You two made a connection on some level as it drew up such a powerful reaction from you I would be open to a lent ear if I were you.

Your post is certain to stir up some really lively debate since some people can tend to have some strong feelings about what they perceives as possibly "new-agey" or the occult. I hope that everyone is respectful in their responses . . .

In my experience, there are people who are more intuitive than others -- who know things without having to be told or without receiving any more information other than a feeling in their gut or a whisper in their ear. We all have the capacity to be intuitive and but some of us are more tapped into it than others and I do believe that it is a gift from God that all of us share.

Anyway, this woman clearly sensed in you somehow the pain that you have been going through. It's up to you whether you want to call and talk to her more but you have to be comfortable doing so in order for it to be of any benefit to you. If you are not comfortable, then maybe take what she said to you in the parking lot as a message from the Universe that it knows your pain and it is time for you to take care of your emotional health a little better instead of covering it up with a happy face as you have been doing.

However you choose to pursue this, please start taking better care of yourself. The only way to overcome difficulties and depression is to deal with it openly and honestly. Getting some counseling right now would probably be a very good idea and will help you learn to reinvent yourself into a healthier, happier, more proactive mom.

Blessings.

Trust her. She knows. Let her in. You need the support.

B.
Family Success Coach

Well, first off, I am sorry that you are going through something that is obviously very upsetting and has you on edge no matter what it is. Just the fact that thinking someone else could sense you were unhappy made you so upset seems to me to be a sign that you need to really talk to SOMEBODY.

It sounds to me like this other mom meant to be kind. Maybe she has been through problems in her past that few people knew about and she just sensed the same feeling in you. In the end, it does not really matter if she just realized it through intuition or observation- she saw that you were in pain and tried to reach out to you in a helpful way, so I would just take that for what it was : a kind gesture from someone who was concerned about your well-being.

As for whatever problem you're dealing with- don't face it alone, no matter what it is!

When my marriage began to have problems, we went to counseling that always seemed to end up being all about my husband and never made any difference because he would not follow through. I got sadder and more and more worried and almost no one knew about it. I was too ashamed to tell my family (who lived in another state) and my husband acted 'extra' happy and attentive to me in public and in front of friends. I felt like no one would even believe me if I tried to tell them what was going on- totally isolated.

But when I finally broke down in front of my girlfriends- they had all suspected something was wrong and just hadn't been sure if they should say anything! They were SO supportive and practical and helpful and made it clear that they were there for me, no matter what ended up happening.

Same with my family- deciding to leave my husband was the most difficult thing I ever did. My parents were horribly upset when I first told them I wanted to get a divorce- but my ex's lack of doing anything to stop it eventually convinced them it was for the best and they too were super supportive.

What I am trying to say here is that people will want to help you and give you some guidance that you need, if you let them. I am not saying you need to confide your personal business to this other mom whom you no longer know really well. But- I would start by seeing a counselor or speaking to your minister or someone you feel comfortable talking to about whatever is going on. Bottling it up inside of you and trying to cope with everything yourself will not last forever and is soul-crushing- I know, I was there!!

It sounds like this other mom really just wanted to help. Let her- or someone else- be supportive of you! You will be amazed at how much it can help, just knowing you are not in the situation all alone.

Best of luck to you- get some peace of mind if you can!

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Intuitive does not mean psychic. People tell you a lot through their body language, and anyone who really pays attention can tell a lot about a person.

Why not call her? I think you might find that if you are more open about your problems they will have less weight. Talking to people is cathartic. Open up.

I would guess you are not putting on the happy face you think you are. It can't hurt to reach out to her. You don't need to spill your guts, but she certainly felt something for you, and you seem to need a friend. I absolutely believe there are people who are intuitive, or psychic, or whatever you want to call it. Talk to her, and tell her you are curious about what she said to you, and see where it goes.

I am a very intuitive person too. I don't call myself psychic, I just have a really good "gut" and have learned to follow it. Her motives were pure. She was probably just wanting to offer you an olive branch. You don't need to unload your problems on her, but good friends are sometimes hard to find. Take her up on a get together! When we are feeling depressed, we tend to isolate ourselves, which only feeds depression and lonliness.
Call her! You will feel much better taking some time for yourself and building a positive friendship.
God Bless!
M.

By intuitive, I think maybe she just meant that she's very capable of reading people. Happy face or not, she may realize that you're hurting right now and is reaching out to you. Follow your heart and contact her if you want to. It could be the start to a wonderful friendship. If you're nervous, perhaps get to know her better before she's your shoulder to cry on. Who knows what a new friend could do, a good friend is always a blessing.

Some people have a strong "sense" and can instinctively know when someone is going through a difficult time.

You may want to call her and begin with a thank you for showing concern and that you are just going through a difficult period. You should have an idea of the type of person you think she is and if you feel comfortable with her, talk with her. She may just be the support you're looking for and needing.

It is also up to you as to how much or how little you tell her based on your comfort level. Start slow.

You seem strong and dedicated, everyone needs support at one time or another. Just remember that EVERYONE has problems--just not all the same. Talking always helps.

I wish for you continued strength and supportive friendships.

When she says intuitive, she means she senses it. Some use it as an alternative word for psychic, but it just means she is picking up on some unnameable cues. If she is reaching out, and you need someone to talk to, why not talk to her if you feel a call to do so? If you have been acting to everyone like nothing is going on, and she suddenly called you out, it makes sense that you might have an overwhelming reaction like that. Sounds like you need to start reaching out to your friends, too. Good luck, love. I hope things get better for you, at least with some support from others.

Absolutely call her. There are people out there who are just more aware of things and can often be phenomenal listeners. The other side of the coin is that you are maybe not holding it together as well as you thought and she is just an open friend willing to help. Your own intuition appears to be saying to call her so reach out, this could be a turning point for you, not in the sense of "getting rid of" whatever problems are plaguing you but guiding you to someone who can help you cope with them better. Good luck to you and best wishes.

Hi L.
What would make you say such a thing to a friend, never mind an acquaintance? I can tell you what would make me say something like that.
I don't think it is intuitive as much as it is knowing something you might call gossip and not knowing whether you should tell it or not.
So if she puts you in a conversation you might let her know if she thinks you would want to know the gossip she has.
No one can tell you what you should do.
Listen to your heart.
God bless you and your decisions

Maybe - just maybe she has been through something similar and put a face just like yours. I think you should talk to her. What can it hurt. Sometimes people realize more that you think they do but just don't say anything because they don't understand (haven't been through it) and its easier to avoid. You don't have to lay everything out at once. Maybe she needs a release too. Test the waters and only tell her what you feel comfortable. You will be able when you are ready. You will mostly likely be able to tell if she is just a nosy busy body or completely sincere. Even if something did slip out, sometimes getting things out in the open is not so bad. Everybody has some junk, even if they won't admit it. It just makes you more normal when you admit it. I think the fact that you cried shows that you need someone to talk to (I sure did). If you don't talk to her. Really come clean with your therapist, no holding back. They have to keep things confidential and most likely they have heard the same or worse and can offer so real advise but only if you let them know what is going on. No one really can know all that you are feeling unless they have had a similar experience but sometimes we go through things so that we can listen to others. That does make us more in tune to their pain.

I agree with others that maybe you aren't hiding your problems as well as you think...some people just have connections with others, no harm in giving her a call and getting together to chat...let the friendship unfold. I wouldn't go in there telling her your every secret but maybe it would be nice to just have someone, other than a close friend to talk to. Hiding your problems is only good for a little while. Face them. Everybody's got something...I hope you can work through yours soon!

You might not be hidiing your problems as well as you thought you were.
Just be careful who you share things with.

Call her. You can talk slowly and not reveal too much. but you may just make a new friend. It cannot hurt and it may benefit you alot.

Many of us have the gift of empathy. We pick up on things, places, people, that don't feel "right". This woman picked up on your "vibes" and wants to help you. If you or someone else have been praying for help...you got it in the form of a stranger.

Call her and go out for breakfast together or lunch.

Good luck and I will be praying for you.
Nanc

Interesting question. I'm not sure what your problems are but perhaps she has or has had something similar go on in her life and feels that she knows what you are going through. For instance, if you have a problem with drinking and she is in recovery, she knows that she could lend you a hand and show you how she did it. And if this is the case, trust me, she could be very helpful to you - that's how it works. I hope the intuitive thing just meant she could tell you were going through something and that she was not hoping to perform some voodoo on you! If you know her to be fairly normal, and if your gut tells you she can be of some help to you, give her a call. You do not have to let out all your secrets but if you get together for a cup of coffee, you may realize that she does indeed have something to offer you. I do not believe in coincidences and she may be the answer for you. First things first, I would talk to my therapist about it and get his/her opinion. And be careful at first, move slowly.

Call her! She is intuitive because she can sense you are troubled even though your friends are oblivious. It may very well be because she has gone through similar. You can never have too many friends, and she in fact may become one of your best and most supportive.

Hi, I was shocked.
I think you should call her. Sometimes we just don't want to talk to our good friends about our personal life. We as Americans always want everyone thinking our lives are as good as we think thiers are. Calling this person may be just what you need. She is apparently feeling someting or she would not have know your trobled . Look at it like this: If anything else she may become another really good friend that you can talk to and we all need to get things of our chest sometimes. Not to mention friends are always nice to. Just talking and maybe getting someone elses thoughts gives us more insight on our own problems.
This person could be sent from God to help with your problem. Give her the chance to do just that. Keep an open mind to what she has to say and listen well. You may just get much satisfaction from it. Good luck in your endevor and God bless you.