What Can I Do?

My daughter is the same age and I am dealing with the exact same thing. I have heard that this to passes and the bowel movements are the hardest to learn. I'm happy that she's trying to potty at all now. Don't let it get you down. Sorry I can't give any good advice.

i have 2 girls, the oldest just turned 3 in december and the youngest is 17 mos.. with my 3 yr old. i tried that book.."toilet training in less than a day" now it took a few days not just one for her to nail it but it taught her how. the techniques they use help the child to do it by themselves and learn how and feel proud that they did it all on their own. they also have a lot of techniques on how to handle accidents when that happens as well... luckily, my daughter didnt have a pooping issue. the first time, she went in her pants.. but it was also runny, and she had never gone on the potty so i couldnt blame her for that.. but the next day she went on the potty and we made a big deal out of it and from then on she was fine. but if you can try to catch him before he goes.. like if you can tell he's trying to, or if he hides while he's doing it or something then move him to the potty and he may have no other choice then to just go.. but i know that may also not always work.. but i tried the book and it worked well.. so i would suggest that. and i found it at barnes and nobles, but i'm sure its everywhere so check it out if you can... i hope it helps!!

All I can say is persistance. You just have to keep trying. He might not be ready or he might just be hard headed. With my second child I bribed her with M&M's. She knew how to do it she was just very very hard headed. Every time she went pee pee she got 2 M&Ms and if she went poo poo she got 4. This seemed to work for her but not every kid is the same. That didnt work with my oldest. Just being wet detoured her from accidents. You just have to find what he ikes and use it against him. It can be very difficult and discouraging dont give up, good luck.

Oh and if he doesnt like his potty dont worry about that cause then you dont have to transition him later. It makes things easier on you.

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Well, with my little sister, she was scared to poop in the toilet. I don't know why, but every time she did she cried. She would try and want to go on the toilet, but when it came down to it she would not want to. Then, we started to put pull-ups on her again. We told her that when she was 3 and could go to a monisory (not the right spelling I know) she had to go to the bathroom like a big girl because the other kids there would think she was a baby. Now, I am not sure if that was the right approach, but it worked. She started using the toilet about a week later and we never had to use pull-ups on her again. Now, she did occasionally wet the bed, but we never had a problem with her pooping any where other than the toilet.

Good luck.

He will eventually do it, they are not ready for the whole thing at once. WEll, they are some that are, but most aren't. You could also buy a toilet extension for your kid. It ataches in you real toilet as an extra layer for him to sit on.
I bought mine at Burlington and my girls loves to use it. IT makes the big hole look smaller! LOL!

i too had this happen...embrassment, more comfortable, concentration, may not like when it hits the water.
try a sitz bath cup where theres no water and let him have his time, just tell him call M. when finished. he'll get it.
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oh something else.....get a little seat that goes over the big one, he might feel like he is falling IN!

It will happen on its own. Do not pressure him. You and your little one will both be discouraged. Trust me it will happen when he is ready. Children begin walking at diferent times and the same goes for potty training.

My in-laws hounded me forever about starting my 3 year olds potty training. I finally talked to my aunt (who has 4 boys) and here is her advice to me. Wait til they are three. Then they are out of the "terrible two's" and verbal enough to let you know if they are afraid, have concerns etc. After trying to start my son's potty training more than 5 different times, I gave up and decided that when he turned three we would try once again. Then the week before he turned three he had to pee and went on his little potty. And pooped there too! We had just left the potty out from his previous attempts and he just took right to it. He didn't give me any problems at all. After a few days of no daytime accidents, we tried nighttime too and he had no problems. It's been 2 months now and he's only had 3 accidents. One daytime pee accident, one daytime poo accident and one night time pee accident. The main reason it's easier to wait til they are three is because they get out of that "unreasonable willfulness" stage. Best of luck to you!Please feel free to email me if you want a more detailed version of his potty training! Jen

I don't know if it would work or not but try letting his daddy show him how he's suppose to sit down and go poopy. He likes standing up and peeing cuz his daddy does it, then daddy should show him how daddy poopies too. Or try making it fun, like giving him a reward when he goes poopy in the toilet, cuz he knows how right, he just won't. Give him a reward when he does, like a cookie or treat or something that he really likes. I'm about to go through the same thing with my youngest, but she's a girl. My oldest one almost had the same problem he knew how and where to use the potty, but we had him in pullups and knew they were like diapers, so he went in them anyway. So we just put him in regular underwear and he started using the bathroom cuz, he hated havin his underwear messy. Good luck, stay consecutive and have patience.