What Are the Chances of Being Pregnant

We have never and still dont use anything but the "pull out method". We have never had any slip ups unless we are "trying".

Hi Lauren,
Buy the pregnancy tests, they are so sensitive that you will know right away.

good luck!
L.

Hi, Lauren:
Honey, there is more going on between you two other than pregnancy.

You can get a diaphram, a cervical cap, iud

Never give yourself up to sex to please a man. Bad news.
Take care of your pregnancy fears, love your husband and give him all that you can give from your heart. There are many women out there that want a husband, take care of your man from your whole being.
Good luck. D.

When you say "pull out" you mean he did not "go" inside? If i am correct then you still have a chance that you are not pregnant. I have not used any form of birth control since 1997. My two children after 1997 were planned. I just wanted to say that the pull out method (family planning) can be very effective if done properly. If you know the days that you are ovulating and are careful you are fine. Before i am judged i would like to say that i don't have a choice, i am not allowed any form of birth control (with the exception of premanent) for medical reasons.

If you were planning on getting pregnant in a few months anyway i would have done it also. I just wanted you to know that you can use the pull out method if you are doing it right. I think after no birth control for about 13 years i have a right to say that. (i know i will be judged...but that is ok)

Anyway, if you are congrats!! Don't beat yourself up... i am sure the best of us have had their scares or moments!!!

Well, the reality is, any time you have sex, you can get pregnant. However, I strongly believe that things happen for a reason and a baby is always a blessing. Now, if you are not pregnant, have you considered an IUD like the Mirena or the Paraguard? I have the Mirena and even though I have mixed feelings about it, it's worth it.
I also suppose that you can test around the time your period is due.
Try not to stress about it too much, since stress can make you late. Good luck!

Dear Lauren,
symptoms: sensitive breasts, being more hungry, are some of the symptoms of being pregnant.
If you are nursing still, your chances are that you may not be pregnant. There are tests in the pharmacies that you can buy to confirm your thoughts. But, the important thing to realize is that you are sensitive to your body during this time. If you are nursing and you are anxious, your infant will know that feeling also. Your infant relies on your stability for his/her comfort and security. Your infant will know that something is wrong. If you are upset, they will feel that way also. After my first, I had so many things to do around the house that I kept myself busy. If your husband needs the reassurance of your love, you might try to show it with a pretty dress, candlelight dinner after the baby is sleeping and one of his favorite meals, don't forget the nusic and remember what brought you together.
Your husband may be experiencing anxious moments at work, or just being a dad for the first time. Bring him into the picture with everything that your infant does. There is a program called the Better Baby Institute, "How to Teach Your Baby to Read, Swim, Math, etc." It is an excellent program. If you are not pregnant and make some time, it is well worth the investment. Your 14 month old is capable of reading words 1" high. Do not go smaller than that until she is three. www.iahp.org
If you are pregnant, because the second is so close, you will probably have an easy delivery, but you will probably need more rest. Take care of yourself....love your family...it's always the little things...
I would take 5 minutes a night, sit with my husband, sometimes say a prayer, and then say 5 nice things about each other, the next night, 5 things you two need to work on, or even write them down, exchange the pieces of paper and derive a path for positve growth in a verbal relationship of understanding of feelings and compassion.

Have a beautiful season of Love,
E.

I know it is easier said than done but you need to stop freaking out about this as it "is what it is" at this point. NOTHING you can do about it. Freaking out can actually make you late and feel all the "symptoms" of PG (happened to me so I know).

In the grand scheme of things 4 months is not such a big deal. If you do end up not PG this time maybe you should ask yourself if you are even ready in 4 months. Sounds to me like you may have some unresolved issues. Maybe you should got to your GYN and get some temporary birth control and try to re-establish your marital relationship. Sex is not only about making a baby.

Lauren,
I'm chuckling reading your post, because hubby and I recently did the same exact thing. I just have this funny feeling in the back of my mind that I'm pregnant too! I'll have to check back here in a few weeks to find out if you got pregnant or not. :) If you are, congrats! Babies are such a blessing (as you know) and the 3 month difference between now and your ideal time to get pregnant is pretty small, right? :)

Best wishes,
C.
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Love the responses! Pulling out is not a method of birth control. If you were ovulationg you're chances of pregnancy are most likely high. Wait a few days, then take an at home pregnancy test. I tested positive days before my period was even due with my second son.
My daughter was concieved when I may not have even been ovulating (apparently I was) & the hubster pulled out....

I see you got alot of advice, but this is the method my husband and I use most often and we haven't had any "mistakes". I know you are very anxious, but don't take the test too early. I am pregnant and bought the test that is supposed to be 80% accurate 3 days before your missed period and it was negative when I took it that early.

VERY HIGH! You'll soon know with a test, but if you lucked out this time, don't do it again! My last two babies were with the pull out method-both during hectic times when we were having almost no no sex, and he pulled out WAY early AND I thought I wasn't fertile at that time of month anyway. He really thought the last one wasn't his, he travels so much. Having babies makes you fertile! The good news is you want one in a few months anyway, so just think, you'd be over it and back in shape faster.....since he refused to wear a condom, at least he can't give yo a guilt trip!

Relax! Of course I say this as I'm thinking I would jump out the window if I were pregnant again. Just tell yourself- If you have a baby 4 months earlier than planned, its not a big deal. Nothing you can do about it now anyway.

Lauren,

I understand you freaking out, but like someone has already said, freaking out won't help now because what is done is done. Having no plan if you want to wait will continue to put strain on your marriage.

My husband and I were in the same place after my first son and I did get pregnant when he was 11 months old. We weren't stupid and did know of many forms of birth control, but after a bad experience with the pill and more research were very comfortable with the methods we had found. We tried and have successfully waited for more than two years now using a the Marquette method of natural family planning. It is not the rhythm method or an old school method, but actually uses a fertility monitor to tell you when you are likely to get pregnant and when you are not.

I was VERY skeptical at first but it has helped me so much to learn about my cycles, realize they are so much more regular than I ever gave them credit for being and be able to make the decision not to have sex only when we knew I was fertile and we knew we didn't want to get pregnant.

Feel free to email me if you are interested, but in the meantime I hope you find something different to do. It is important for both you and your marriage:)

Wow.

I don't know anything about the pregnancy problem, what will be will be in that situation.

What I'm a little shocked about is that you'd let your marriage get rocky over this. Go to your gynecologist and there are several birth control options for you.

There is a 3 month shot. There is a foam spray that you can insert previous to having sex. There is a 3 month ring that is inserted. There are sooo many options! Go talk to your doctor! And if the difficulty is that you really just don't want to be intimate that might be something to discuss too. Could it be you still have post partum?

While your chanceds are not as high of being pregnant, I would go buy a pregnancy test. Then explain to your husband that it's time to grow up and act like an adult. Having a child is a wonderful thing - if you're phsicall, financially and emotionally ready. Since he's not the one who gets to lose his body to be pregnant for 9 months then however long you nurse, he should be thankful the only thing he has to do is wear a condom!

unfortunately,you will have to wait and see.If it is meant to be then it will be.

Lauren, the good news is that you do want to have a baby again soon, so if you end up being pregnant, it will not be the end of the world. If you were ovulating, your chances are high, I got pregnant TWICE by the pullout method, won't do it again! Good Luck and I wish you the best.