What About My 6 Aand Half Year Old Son Lying

This link expands a bit on the reference Peg M posted. I would read these - way more valuable than what most of us are going to post about what we 'believe should work' or what we think worked with our child.

BTW - all kids lie - if you think yours don't then they're just better at it than most :)

Here's a very comprehensive article exploring the recent research about why children lie. Knowledge is power:

http://nymag.com/news/features/43893/index2.html

There is also useful information on how to handle it in a positive way:

http://www.askdrsears.com/html/6/T060100.asp (Check the link for Morals and Manners.)

My son had been lying to us about certain things that would happen at school. One example would be that during the first week of first grade, he came home with a little teddy bear eraser. When I asked what it was, he said that a friend in class gave it to him. ( afterwards I found out he took it from the teacher's stuff she had out) So, after that, I went back and talked to him about first , stealing the eraser, and then lying about how he got it. I told him that lying makes us very disappointed in him. That telling the truth is a lot better then lying. How even though he might get in trouble, he would get in BIGGER trouble for lying. He then started to cry and told us he was sorry. Disappointing us, is something my son hates to do. We also asked how he can make ammends with his teacher. He said he should return the eraser, and write her a letter. The teacher wrote us the next day, and thanked us . After that, when my son does something at school, we always tell him to look us in the eye and tell us the truth. He remembers that we will be disappointed in him if he lies, but if he tells us the truth, we can work through it. He also has not stolen anything since then. All kids lie now and again, it's part of growing and processing, and building character,etc. The important thing as parents, is to help them learn the importance of right and wrong, the difference between lying and being truthful, and respecting yourself and everyone else.

I have no advice but i want to see what others say to this too! Im in the middle of it with my 7 year old. She will not do things and tell me they are done. She takes things of mine and hides them. She is so forgetful it seems like we have checklist and more rules for everything lately.

I have a son like that and so far I have only slowed it down and here is how I did that. I told him I was taking him to Dairy Queen and went right passed it to the grocery store. When I passed it, he started saying you said we were going to DQ and I told him I LIED!!!! Then we discussed how that made him feel and why lying made me feel that way. It did slow it down a lot and most of the time he only lies about things he did wrong and is trying to cover it up. Good Luck