Wedding Veil Question...

Updated on March 31, 2011
R.D. asks from Richmond, VA
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Sorry about all the wedding questions, I'm clueless and need all the direction I can get!! I trust you ladies :)

We're having a small wedding (under 50 people), no bridesmaids or groomsmen, outside by the river... and I am going to wear a gorgeous hairpiece, but no veil.

Now I'm kind of wondering if I really do want a veil :/

Did you wear one? Why or why not? Would you do it differently if you could?

I just think my dress is busy enough, that I don't need a veil, just the hairpiece... but I'm second guessing the 'girl' in me ;)

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V.T.

answers from Dallas on

I didn't want to wear a veil, but my father really wanted me to and it was the only thing he asked for, so I wore one. I had my hair up if a fancy updo bun and had the veil put under my bun, so I really didn't notice it. I got mine at Michaels for $12.99. The one at Michaels had absolutely no detailing at all, which was good, since my dress had a lot of detail at the top. I did wear a tiara.

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K.B.

answers from Kansas City on

I'm not wearing a veil.

Main reason we are getting married outside and that's the last thing I want in my face and blowing around in the wind.

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K.B.

answers from Milwaukee on

I would suggest going somewhere and trying on veils... my soon to be sister-in-law was not going to get a veil, well when she was showing us her dress at David's Bridal she stated she was unsure about a veil. There is no harm in trying some out, well she feel in love with one, but too pricey so my mom and I are making one for her very similar to the one she feel in love with.

It really depends on the feel of your wedding and in the end what YOU want, you will not know till you start trying them on :)

I did do a veil. I did not have a trian on my dress and the dress itself was very simple. The veil I made was long with the top layer about mid chest length, bottom layer trailed about 3-4 feet behind me. It came off for some pictures and then the reception. I loved the look of the veil with my dress and hairdo.

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C.N.

answers from Baton Rouge on

I never wanted a veil - I don't like the symbolism of it.

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M.B.

answers from St. Louis on

First of all, my veil cost almost as much as my dress! Second, I got married on the beach (its windy by water) and everyone laughed at my wedding pictures because my veil was sticking straight up from the wind. I have recently seen people tuck it in the back of their dress for an outside wedding, but who wants to do that? I mean, literally, veil sticking straight up! I wouldnt have one if I had to do it again.

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R.K.

answers from New York on

Go with your instinct. Plus veils are really difficult for an outdoor wedding.

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A.F.

answers from Chicago on

You only wear the veil for the ceremony and photos usually -- almost everyone i know took it OFF for the reception. Decide how important it is to you. I wanted one, but I took it off before our reception intro. Our wedding was a 1 hr+ Catholic Mass so I wanted the formal garb...we had a formal reception as well. A lot of my friends who did not wear a veil had less formal outdoor weddings, had a less formal dress (I wore a big a-line corset back number), etc. My one sister in law though did have a BIG formal 350+ people wedding and reception and DID NOT have a veil. Even with a big ole dress...she was just not the veil type. I think it is your choice and people won't care either way -- do what makes you happy.

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L.P.

answers from Pittsburgh on

Hi R.~

You already know all about my wedding, and I wasn't going to wear a veil, but the evil ladies at David's *coerced* me into putting one on, and now I have to wear one. :/ Luckily, my cousin who got married just 2 short years ago is lending me hers, which she paid much bucks for at David's... and luckily, it's ivory, and matches my dress perfectly.

I'd say that you are the bride, wear a veil. See how those evil women have gotten into my head? No one will look at you on your wedding day, no matter what type of wedding, and say, "Damn, I can't believe the bride wore a veil on her wedding day." LOL

I would look around, though... lots of craft stores have basic veils that you could wear either with your headpiece, perhaps, or you could embellish a little, or you could wear for the ceremony, and change to just the headpiece after the ceremony... They are SOOOO much cheaper just about EVERYWHERE else other than bridal stores...

Oh, and as for the outdoor wedding/veil blowing thing, I read somewhere to paint fishing weights the color of the veil and attach them to the bottom. No one will know they are there, and they hold the veil down a bit... ;)

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L.M.

answers from Dover on

If your dress is "busy" but you want a veil, can a simple sheer veil be added to your hairpiece?

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M.L.

answers from Houston on

I'm a hairstylist and have participated in a few photo shoots.

One weddiing shoot we did was amazing. Basically, the model had her hair in a loose partial updo. A wedding veil was ripped into long strips and pinned into her loose waves... it had a beautiful cascading effect down her back without being overly veily or covering her face.

Another option right now are birdcage veils... a small clip in veil, very vintage styled and can be quite beautiful, especially when tucked into a hairpiece, which is what you are wearing. Would be perfect for your wedding since you are doing the outdoor theme.

Check out http://ruffledblog.com/ , tons of beautiful diy outdoor weddings.

Birdcage veil ideas here:
http://www.google.com/images?hl=en&q=birdcage+veil&am...

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C.F.

answers from Boston on

Out by the river it may be Windy... and you dont want your veil "messing" up the big moment ;-) LOL it might just aggravate you !

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S.B.

answers from Chicago on

I wore a veil. It was attached to a hair comb, and I had it tucked up underneath my updo, so it just fell down over my shoulders and back. It didn't go over my face at all. I also then wore a jeweled headband. I did not take it off for the reception.

It depends on the kind of veil, and the length of the veil, and of course your preference, if you wear it all night or not. Many people just wear one for the ceremony and take it off for the reception.

When you picture your perfect wedding, are you wearing a veil? If so, then go ahead and wear one. Or, go to a bridal store and try on your dress with a couple different styles of veils and see if you like the look better. For me, it didn't feel like a wedding dress until I put on my veil. If your dress is busy, they do offer some very plain veils, which would probably be better with your fancy hairpiece than something with a lot of detail.

Since your wedding is outdoors, if you decide to do a veil make sure it is weighted down so that it doesn't fly away or in your faces during the ceremony. A seamstress can sew in some weights to keep it under control.

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K.A.

answers from Grand Junction on

I had a veil but not over the face. My mother is very traditional. I think you should do what you want. Don't let others talk you into something. You will regret it later.

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A.M.

answers from Eau Claire on

I wore a veil, I wanted almost all our pictures taken outside, it was windy that day and I had to fight to keep it under control. Then at the dance ppl would come up and put thier arms around my and pull my veil. It had fancy beading on it and from everyone pulling on it some of the beading came off. I definitely could have gone without!

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E.K.

answers from Minneapolis on

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C.A.

answers from New York on

I had one. But the only thing I didn't like about it was that it was not detachable from the head piece, So I had to wear it all night cause the head piece was hooked into my hair with 10,000 bobby pins. What a pain getting it off that night. It took my husband almost a 1/2 hour to get it off. If you are having it outside I wouldn't get a veil. Just get a pretty hair piece. You will be more comfortable. Good Luck and Congrats!!!

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