R.C.
M.,
This was about the same time that I weaned my son. I used green cabbage leaves to help with the swelling and soreness of the engorgement (which happens no matter what); but the cold cabbage leaves act as a cold compact. I used a whole head of cabbage. After my last feeding, I took one leaf per side, rolled it out with a rolling pin to release the essence of the cabbage and place them inside the cups a snug-fitting bra. When they were no longer cool, I replaced with a fresh leaf.
Another key is to not remove your bra except for showers until you are no longer producing milk. For me, it was about a week as I stopped cold-turkey from exclusive breastfeeding. I also took ibuprophen in the recommended dosage on the bottle as well to help with any excessive pain.
It may be hard, and you will be tempted to let her feed to relieve the pressure; but you will have to use will-power to get through this quickly. Let your husband know what you are doing so that he does not accidentally bump you as well! ;)