Hi J.,
My name is H. B. I am a board certified lactation consultant and I also work for the WIC program for over 12 years.
First question? How do I wean?
Whatever your reason for weaning, you and your baby are entitiled to a safe, comfortable and gradual way to end your breastfeeding relationship. Weaning too quickly may cause physical and emotional problems for both you and your baby.
1. Stop 1 feeding every 2-4 days. Offer a substitute for that feeding. Snacks and activities are good substitutes.
2. Try to give yourself 2-4 weeks to complete the weaning process.
3. Avoid extreme fullness. When you drop a feeding, pump or hand express for 2-3 minutes to relieve the pressure of too much milk. "THIS WILL NOT TELL YOUR BODY TO MAKE MORE MILK. THIS WILL ONLY HELP RELIEVE ENGORGMENT AND REDUCE YOUR CHANCES OF PLUGGED DUCTS OR A BREAST INFECTION.
4. Use warm compresses before expressing milk, or stand in the shower with water running on your back to cause leaking to relieve fullness. After expressing milk, some women find it helpful to put icepacks (bag of frozen veggies) on their breasts for 2-5 minutes.
5. Wear a comfortable bra. Constricting or binding the breast only leads to medical problems.
6. Drink to thirst. Limiting your fluid intake will only increase your risk of dehydration.
7. Limit your salt intake. This will reduce water retention and swelling.
8. Be alert. Watch for symptoms of plugged ducts...sore, lumpy, hot and/or hard areas of the breast. Fever or flu like symptoms may be a sign of a breast infection. CALL FOR HELP!!!!
THINGS TO REMEMBER.....
1. Weaning is a physical and emotional time for everyone.
2. Breastfeeding is a lot more than producing milk and feeding it to your baby.
3. It is common to have mixed feelings about weaning.
4. When your baby stops breastfeeeding suddenly....This is not normal weaning. It is a nursing strike. CALL FOR HELP!!!
5. Your periods will start again during the weaning process. If they have not already returned. Please use birth control if you are not planning additions to your family.
What to feed your 1 year old?
As a parent or a care taker it is our responsibility to offer food 5-6 times a day. The job of the child is to decide, if I want to eat, and how much of it will I eat.
Stage 3 dinners. HAVE YOU TASTED THEM? HOW WOULD YOU LIKE TO EAT THAT JARRED FOOD EVERY DAY. I THINK I WOULD START PUTTING UP A FUSS TOO.
I think it is great thta she uses a sippy cup. She should have 4 oz. of 100% fruit juice daily. She should not drink more than 10 oz. in a 24 hour period. If she is drinking more, it can cause diarreah or a full stomach, leading to picky eating.
PLEASE DO NOT REINTRODUCE THE BOTTLE. AT THIS POINT IT WILL NOT BE USED AS A FEEDING TOOL BUT MORE OF A SECURITY BLANKET.
aBOUT 2 WEEKS BEFORE HER BIRTHDAY, OFFER 4 OZ. OF WHOLE MILK. If she does not have a reaction then the next day you can try 8 oz. If she doesn't want to drink the cows milk, so what? Offer her cheese, pudding, yogurt, icecream ect. It is not important that they drink cows milk. I would always offer but do not fight. Arguing only makes them worse picky eaters.
She only needs 4 servings of dairy every day.
meats: She should be getting a little of everything you are eating. WITH THE EXCEPTION OF COWS MILK TO DRINK 2 WEEKS BEFORE HER BIRTHDAY. ALSO NO HONEY. IT CAN CAUSE A FORM OF BOTULISM.
What is a serving of meat? Its about the size of a small book of wooden matches or 1/3 of a deck of cards. All the baby needs is 2 servings a day. Eggs, peanutbutter, any meat that is cut up small enough to chew.
Breads and cereal group. What is a serving of breads? 1/2 slice of bread,2-3 crackers,1 graham cracker, 1 tablespoon of ceral, pasta, rice ect. How many should we get? 5 servings a day.
Fruits and veggies: Again a serving size is about 1 tablespoon times thier age. We would like to see 5 a day. 4oz. of juice will be one serving of fruit or veggie. However anything after 4 oz. offers nothing more than sugar and water. Please limit to no more than 12 oz. total in 24 hours.
This is a very important age. They are no longer infants but haven't quite become a child. By placing small cut up pieces of food, you not only engage your child in the feeding process, but also, you reduce the risk of choking. When children feel things before they go in the mouth, less gagging. If you don't believe this ask your self this question? Does my child pick up all different types of small things all around the house? Where is the first place it goes? In the mouth, thats how they learn. It is called the pincer grasp. PLace a towel or shower curtain underneath the high chair. This will help clean up. They are not old enough to eat everything on thier own, but let them enjoy the process.
Last but not least....Anything that is round and solid (ie. block of cheese vs slice of cheese) is more chokable. PLease cut things like hotdogs and grapes into 4 pieces. Nothing should every be forbidden when it comes to food. Just everything in moderation...(once to twice a week is moderation) If we don't allow certain foods or drinks and make them forbidden become much more important once they start getting foods from friends houses. Granted you probably have years for that.
I need to go. I hope this answers your two questions. Sorry it was so long!
H. B.