I couldn't get my daughter to stop breastfeeding until 25 months old, but around 22 months I made a strong concerted effort to get her to stop. Around 20 months I decided that we would never nurse outside our home, and I recall a few meltdowns about it, but I no longer wanted to be nursing a toddler in public. She understood that boundary fairly quickly and would wait until we walked in our front door before demanding it. Then, I made it very clear that she could only nurse first thing in the morning, right before bedtime, and before afternoon nap (or after coming home from daycare on the 2 days/week she went there). Then we dropped the middle of the day session. It took a long time to drop the evening time, but I did it by saying that she could only have "a little bit" before bedtime, held my fingers up in a pinching gesture to indicate "a little bit", and made sure that she understood it before I let her on. Then, after 2 minutes on each side, I made her get off, because she could only have "a little bit." This was a good compromise, because my milk production at that time dramatically went down, so she wasn't getting much, and I was still accommodating her request, but on my terms. Then she cold a nasty cold and stopped asking for it for a couple nights (probably because she couldn't breathe and nurse at the same time), and after that, it was much easier to redirect her attention and refuse her after she had gotten by without it for a few nights. It was much harder to put time limits on her in the morning, but she gave up the morning sessions when she got the nasty cold too. She would ask for it every day for many months later, but after a few days of going without it, I found it much easier to "distract" her to some other activity. Interestingly, after we stopped with the breastfeeding, she became much more attached to an old doll of hers and to a couple other stuffed animals that she had previously shown no interest in before. I really believe she was using me for comfort before, and after we stopped breastfeeding, she learned that she could self-soothe more easily. Weaning her weighed on my mind a lot for several months, so I can relate to all your anxieties about it. I think the process has to be specific for each mother and child's personality. Cold turkey would have never worked for us, so we did it very slowly, but in a very controlled manner with me monitoring that we were never backsliding. Good luck!!