Right now is the best time to go and get financial aide papers and fill them out. It is early in the year so all of the money is still there and not awarded yet. The state grants are usually gone by the end of January but the federal stuff is still usually there for several more months. After that you get less money, enough to still cover school expenses like tuition, fees, books, and a few other things. If you get your paperwork in earlier you can end up getting a bit more money, enough to help with transportation and living expenses too.
If you don't qualify for financial aide due to your income being more last year you can go to the campus and talk to a FA advisor about scholarships.There are tons of them out there you just have to sit and apply for a lot of them and see what happens.
There are also loans, which I would say are not the ideal situation but if it is the only way to get through until December when the year is over and much lower income is reported then it may be what you have to do.
When I was a single mom with a child I went to school full time and loved it. I lived more stress free than any other time in my life. I lived on campus, FA covered my rent and campus housing is all bills paid, even cable, phone, and utilities. I only paid for food. I didn't need a car because walking was easy, I was on campus already.
I think anyone that wants to go to school should be able to go. There are so many other programs out there to pay for college too. Displaced homemakers, Voc-Rehab, grants from families and foundations, Federal FA, State Grants, just so many. Lots that don't have to be repaid.
Good luck in your adventure of education.
As for child care, please call your local child care licensing office, usually somewhere in the Social Services area and get a recommendation for a child care center that is certified for special needs children.
You may even qualify for some assistance in child care costs. They may even have child care on your campus. Since your kids care can be considered special needs they may be more inclined to give the assistance since it will cost more.
I know for myself I prefer to take my kids to a fully licensed child care center. Because the staff has to meet training requirements every year, they have other staff there to help if there are any issues or something is stressful, like a baby has puked and they need to go clean up. The kids are never left with the ratio's not met. I just like the idea of multiple staff being around and I know that nothing can happen to the kids when there are at least 2 teachers in the classrooms. I just prefer that setting to a home where there is only one person to manage by themselves and try to manage their home, answer the phone, cook meals, change diapers, clean up messes, etc... I know many, many women do it every day and run very competent home care businesses and the kids are wonderfully taken care of but I worry about the "What if's".