Hello everyone its nice to finally have a place to go when you need just the right amount of suport. Well here it goes. My hubby and I ahve been talking about having our 5th child. Most of the time we are at a go with the hole thing untill its time for the drs appt. Thats when things become a little to much. I have an IUD and Im not afraid of having it out , it just seems like a very big step and Im not sure if this is the right thing to do. I got pregnant with all my children while using birth control of some form. except the frsit one she was planned. I feel that if Im met to have another one I would have it while on bc. I know it seems that i already have the answer but my hubby is really set on having the next one. Is there anyone who might be able to give me a few words of wisdom? I do want another one but.......
Thank You to everyone that posted. Dh and I have decided to wait till next yr to have our 5th child. We have had a long talk about what would happen right now to have another one and we are agreed that with some of the health issues that out oldest son is having its best to wait and see what happens. If god wants me to ahve another one then he will find his way to make the time right. Some asked for my age and Im 28 and dh is 32. So thanks for all the advise and I know that dh will still probally give me the sad puppy look when he mentions the fact that he wants another but we will over come this and maybe this time next yr I will announce that we are pregnant.
L.
If you want another baby, go for it. I would love to have more children, but the body won't allow it. Good luck and let us all know when you get pregnant.
Hi L.,
If you really want a 5th child then you should have the IUD removed. I never used that form of birth control, but I hear if you do get pregnant with IUD they have a chance
of miscarry the baby, and can you handle that if that happens, then on the other hand if you really don't want another child tell your husband your just not reading yet, because you don't want to later resent your husband for wanted another child when your not ready,Hope this hepl.
My husband and I felt the same way. I felt if I was meant to get pregnant the pill wouldn't matter and about 7 months after I got off of it I ended up with twins. If you feel that you aren't meant to get pregnant again because it would happen while you are on bc, why wouldn't you think that if it was meant to be, it would happen while you aren't on it? I would stop taking it and see what happens. That's if you don't mind having another, if so then talk to your husband and wait a little while and re-evaluate the situation.
L.,
I am going to play devil's advocate here. I live in an area where many mom's have many kids. I am one of few who only have two. I love kids, and sometimes want another, but I think down the road. Here are things to think about.
1. If you have another, that is just longer that you and your husband will not have to yourselves, and remember, that relationship is the foundation of the family.
2. Logistics, with four, you probably have a full time job of running kids here there and everywhere. Wait until the are 12, 11, 8 7 and four, and they all have activies. On Saturdays you are going to have to choose which game you watch or which activity you go to, and that can cause some rivalry with the kids.
3. You mentioned your hubby works like crazy so that you can stay home with the kids. Don't you miss him? If you have another, that is just more time that he is going to have to work like crazy.
4. You did not mention how old you were, but, if you are older, you have to take into consideration that the older you are, the greater chance that there could be an abnormality, and if that happens, how that will affect the dynamic of your family.
I am not trying to disuade you. I am just more of a realist than many people, and I wanted to give you things to think about considering you are hesitant in the first place.
L.
if you really want another and your husband does to then GO FOR IT!! I would love to have 1 more but someone keeps telling me no :(
Im not sure what kind of wisdom your looking for here but you just gotta go with your heart.
Hello L.,
This is how I look at it If you and your husband are in total aggrement then they only thing left to do if you believe in prayer then that's what I would do pray about it and let God take control of the situation. He won't put more on you than what you can handle.....
Doesn't sound like you are quite ready. Doesn't matter how the others came, if you want to get preg get the IUD out, you know that, that's why I think you aren't ready. Give yourself sometime, you don't have to get preg right away and maybe you will change your mind and decide you don't wnat a 5th baby who knows. But I don't think you should rush into this decision.
Hi, L.. I have five kids that were all planned. I agree with some other posts that if you are hesitant then maybe you're not quite ready and maybe you should give it some time. You know your heart the best and if your husband agrees then do what you feel is the right thing for your life and your families. Best of luck to you.
J. L.
No you don't want another one...because a But would not have been stated. I have two and know how tuff it is being a Mom. Between juggling work, and my household it becomes very hard at times. I do have enjoyable moments but not all the time. Inquire why your hubby would want another one. After working crazy for four does he than become insane with five. Ask would it be fair to your four children in regards to attention and financial needs met. How about you, are you ready to start all over again. If you write down your pros and cons which list is longer. Don't mean to sound strong, just want you to soul search and know, that you know, that you know, what you want in life. Enjoy life with your four and be a blessing to them. Ask hubby to get a vasectomy. WISDOM: The power of decision is up to us (our own free will--no one could touch), God will support/respect your decision (for He is great and His Love and Mercy endures forever, nothing you do will let you fall out of His grace).
