Wanting Another Child

My children are 20 months apart so I think my son was around 11 months when I got pregnant with my second and I had more problems with my first and almost none with my second. So I would say you should be fine but I would speak with the doctor. I would say that you should wait a year or closer to it they say that thats how long it usually takes for you body to return to normal after pregnancy and birth. Also just because you have had Gestational Diabetes with your first in no way means you will have it with your second or any other pregnacy. A girl I work with had it very bad with her first and did not have it with her second. Every pregnancy is different and you should not expect the same with both of them. From my experience with my children being so close if I had a choice I would of spread them out (of course my seond was a complete surprise and shock to me) Now don't get me wrong I love that they are so close in age because they play so well together, most the time and they will grow up close, I hope. But the draw back is I have two in diapers and thats expensive. But I wouldn't change it now. Life is very busy but I also have 3 older children to so they help and make it easier. I say go to the doctor get the ok from them and if you and your husband really want another this soon go for it and have fun. Good luck and let us know

Hi S.,
While I can't speak to whether or not your body is ready for another pregnancy, I do agree with what others have said that there's no guarantee you'll deal with the diebetes again. In fact, I'm pretty sure with some proper nutrition, you can nearly be guaranteed to avoid it.
I could get that info for you if you're interested.
S.

S.,
Being a Mother is wonderful. I wish you all the best!

Generally I refrain from giving "advice" like this, but this one time my heart is telling me to go ahead. Ultimately it is your choice.

I have two friends that have gotten pregnant and had children before their 1st child is 18-19 months old. Both have had a lot of issues recovering and after 2 years now, STILL have health concerns. Pregnancy takes a HUGE toll on your body and although I know it may be hard to wait, the health of YOU and your next child could really suffer potentially, especially since diabetes was an issue the first time.

From being 10 years older and yes I admit...a little more adult life experience :-( I would recommend just loving your little boy and smothering him with attention for awhile ! I don't want to sound condesending, but you really are only 23 years old! You have so much time, and there is nothing like having a first baby! The second is soooo much more demanding because you have one already needing you.

If you are sick a lot or have complications or have to be on bed rest...you have a BABY that still needs you!

I only offer this in caring ! Please don't take it any other way. :~)

M.

Doctors encourage women to wait at least a year between pregnancies for the simple fact that your body just isn't ready. Pregnancy is traumatizing to the body. And even though you may think in your mind that you're ready, that doesn't necessarily mean your body is. I would first go to your OBGYN and have a check up, and tell him/her that you are planning to start trying relatively soon. Get his/her opinion on the matter before you try.

S.,

I have 3 kids right now... my oldest is 12, I was told in 2001 that I was unable to have any more kids. Then in July of 2003 I found out I was expecting, which was a huge but wonderful suprise. When my baby girl was only 6 months old I found out I was expecting again... I was happy, but scard at the sametime. You see my oldest was my baby for 10 years and my baby girl would only be my baby for a little over a year. The two younger ones are 15 months apart... they get along most of the time and aren't that hard to handle once you get the hang of it. Having 2 in diapers can be great, but hard at times. My baby girl was never a cuddler, but my boy he is always wanting to cuddle. I'm currently due on June 14th (my boy will be 2 on June 9th), and he seems to be jelouse of the baby already.

My body didn't seem to have issues with me having babies that close together... I did think that I did, but later found out that I had a bad galbladder - which was removed last year. I guess the galbladder is something that is caused by my other issues... the ones that caused the doctors to say I couldn't have anymore babies. Personnaly, I'd rather loose the bladder and keep the little ones.

You and you hubby have to decide when it's time for you to have another one... talk to your doctor and see if there are any increased risks for you and the soon to be little one. He will be able to give you more answers then any of us can. I'm a little older then you, but I was told because I am younger and pretty much healthy my body heals quicker and can take more. There were no concerns with me having the little ones close other then a faster delivery of the 2nd one... they say if you have them close together you deliver faster. In my case it was true. I delived my son only 1 1/2 hours after they broke my water... and I only pushed about 3 times. He was ready :)

I'm not sure if this helped you... I hope you find you answers and that you are able to make the decision with you hubby. All of mine with suprises - not planned, but we love them and can see ourself not having them.

Take care!
J.

well i had gestational diabetes with my 2nd child and the third i didnt it doesnt mean youll get it with all of your pregnancies,and i think you should be okay whatever the choice may be well good luck

Ask your doc if your body is ready. I would say if there was no complications from your first your body should be "good to go". My children are 17 months apart and its fun and busy! I did however wish they were a little farther apart because of diapers and such but those days are over!
Good luck
S.

S.,

Congratulations on your baby! Let your body recover a bit before you conceive again. Definitely exercise and proper diet can help with the diabetic tendency, but I would not be surprised if you get it again. I had it with both my pregnancies (pretty common when reproducing "late in life" at the ripe old age of 35 and 37 respectively), but controlled it solely through diet and exercise, and both boys were naturally delivered and normal weight (7# 2oz and 7# 4.6 oz), so it doesn't have to create difficulties for the baby or delivery.

Be well, and let us know how you fare, OK?

Best wishes,
K.

I just had our second child 3 weeks ago. Our kids are only 15 months apart. They were both c-section. I had no problems and I'm 39 yrs old. Talk with your Dr. to be sure but I say go for it.