Wanting a Baby Bad

First of all if your only 26 why is there a rush to have a baby now? Plan your marriage first you have more than enough time to have children. If he is so fired wanting a baby then he will give you time and plan things out right if God has it in the plan it will happen. One you are wanting a baby so bad you can make yourself have the symptoms, Two you just had a miacarriage with in the year, girl give your body time to heal. I have to ask How long have you known this man. If your answer is less than two years you need to get to know him...explore who he is what you want out of life. The first year of marriage is hard enough without a baby maybe once married one year or two then start trying but to start before you are even married...I would have to explore things alittle more before going and planning a family with someone till we get the honeymoon over. You have till your way into your 40 to plan for a family you havn't even begun to live your life and you have two children yourself. Do you really want to jump into a marriage with child. What if life after marriage is different for you both and its not what you expected. Then not only do you hvae to deal with that but then if you and him don't work out then you just brought a baby into this world. That's not fair to the child. Get to know each other before you plan a family. Don't start a marriage with stress right off the bat.

T.

Assuming you have a 28-30 day cycle - trying 1-3 days after your period (again assuming a 5-7 day period) - would not put you in range of ovulation. But every woman is different - in a perfect world ovulation would occur on day 14 - with day 1 being the day your bleeding starts. You need to know your own cycles - are they regular, how long do they last, lenghth of time between cycles.

that being said - if you are not married to this man yet, and each already have children - I would slow down, relax and give your body time as well as your emotions. It sounds like you have been through a lot. A baby does not fix anything - so you both need to be ready for this!!!

I second Julie, you are prob not pregnant unless you tried at a later time. Although I think you should be patient and wait to try for another, if you really want to try and get pregnant and don't know your cycle, try having sex every OTHER night starting one week after you finish your period.

the only thing i can add is to educate yourself about your body! there's a great book about fertily, taking charge of your fertility, that really teaches you stuff. some catholic churches even teach fertility charting via classes. knowledge is power.

Hello E.,
I agree with the other posts, give your body time to heal, give your relationship time to grow, don't rush things. Together you have 3 children who need you now. Plus planning a wedding is hard enough,without the pressure your putting on yourself to get pregnant. Wait until after your marriage and things settle down for you and and your children(they will also be in need of ajustment time, with a new step-dad/step-mom--VERY IMPORTANT not to ignore this!!!) if it's God's plan..then you will have another child. RELAX Enjoy the children you have been blessed with. Listen, I've been there. I've been married,had 2 children and divorced, and married again, now with a step-child and I've had 3 children since we've been married, with 1 miscarriage between each child(all 3 children born AFTER I was 32yo, so you have time). Children/step-children can feel neglected,overlooked,and unwanted in a step-family environment, no mater how great they are. And adding a new baby can sometimes rock the boat for them, it can be devastating(sp?). You should not rush this. Take a step back, look at your life and your children and ask yourself "WHAT'S THE RUSH?"

God Bless
DS

I second everything everyone else has said. I just wanted to add something about your symptoms. I have had 2 miscarriages since August - one at 10 weeks and one at 5 weeks. I am trying to get pregnant. I will tell you that sometimes you mind can make you feel pregnant, if that makes any sense. Sometimes the symptoms you are feeling are just premenstral symptoms or are there for other reasons. They may be symptoms you always get with PMS, but you don't pay much attention to them when you aren't thinking about your cycle and how you're feeling as much like you do when you are trying to conceive. I hope that makes sense. :)

I had my IUC removed Nov. 1, and ever since then my body is playing tricks on me! I keep thinking I could be pregnant, but then I take a negative pregnancy test, or start my period. The mind can play tricks on you! I'm trying my best to be patient, because I want to be pregnant again so bad! Of course, you could be pregnant, but just try to be patient until you are able to know for sure. Just because it took a long time to try in the past, doesn't mean it will this time around. The more stressed you are, the harder it will be though. So try to relax, enjoy this time with your kids and planning the wedding, then hopefully you'll get to enjoy a new pregnancy and baby soon after!