P.S.
Hi, J.,
Sometimes you just have to take it in the BUTT. He's the father as much as you are the mother. He sounds like he wants to be in his son's life. What's better? To be with your father or stuck in the DAYCARE? I suggest you work a lot harder with him for the sake of your child, and now to sound ... Well, I know you may take this the wrong way, but reading your letter from an objective standpoint, you're really making too much of it and being very controlling. Let him be involved. And just wait... There also might be a stepmom at some time. Well, I went through that and it worked out beautifully. It's all in YOUR ATTITUDE. You could be very jealous and "controlling" making the situation unbearable, or you could be glad that there is another person in your son's life to love him and help take care of him while he's with his father. I took the latter, and stepmom and I actually adore each other and she's so good with my son. It really makes it so much better if you just get along, and if it means biting your tongue, DO IT! No child wants to see their parents fighting. Just resolve to get along with "Dad." AND INCLUDE HIM IN THE DECISION MAKING. Just put yourself in his shoes. Would you want to be consulted about his daycare? Or better yet... say if he was your brother, how do you think he would be complaining about you, and the lack of decision making power he has with his own child. I'm telling you, you could have a beautiful life, lot's of help and support if you would work with him. It's either you both will be adult enough to do it on your own, or spend THOUSDANDS -- AND I MEAN THOUSANDS -- OF DOLLARS ONLY TO HAVE THE COURTS TELL YOU HOW IT'S GOING TO BE DONE.
PLEASE, YOU HAVE ALL THE CARDS TO TURN THIS SITUATION AROUND. SWALLOW HARD, AND WORK WITH HIM AND HOPEFULLY HE WILL COME AROUND AND BEING A MAN, HE TOO HAS TO BE IN CONTROL. THERE'S NO SUCH THING AS TWO CHIEFS RULING AT ONE TIME. PLEASE FOR YOUR LITTLE GUY. I LOVE MY SON'S STEPMOM AND IT WAS ONLY BECAUSE I CHANGED MY ATTITUDE.
