Very Complicated and Need Advice on Marriage/Church/Finances

Hi E.:
The Reason your husband continues to defend,this man,and remains in his control,is because,now he realizes he is caught up in this mans fraud.To cut himself out now, would mean not only financial ruin,but he will be forced to admit,that his ignorance in allowing this man to not only swindle him,but his own parents and In laws,is more humiliation than he can stand. You need to take your husband and seek the advice of an attorney right away. You also need to save your parents from financial ruin,by having them report the fraud.Your husband may suffer legal consequences,because of his involvement,but the deeper this goes,it will most certainly mean ruin for you and your children as well.You must put A stop to this,before its to late.There is no easy answer to this,but the longer it goes on the worse the outcome. You need to step up and do the right thing.J. M

Hi E., I am so sorry you are going through this. This "pastor" commited fraud. Have you gone to the police? See if you can bring charges against him. I think you are right about your hubby being brainwashed. Can you refuse to let him bring your kids to that church? He needs to let you bring your kids to your church.
Is your hubby controlling? Does he still funnel money into this church? If your husband took out the credit cards in your parents names without permission, he is also guilty of fraud. I hate to be so frank about it, I hope I am not offending you.
Please report this to the police before you or others suffer anymore!

Wow, a friend would never ask a friend to do what your old pastor has of you and your family. Your parents are responsible for that debt that is the worst thing about it. That pastor doesn't care about your family or the sheep that are following him to hell. This guy does care about using people in the name of God. Sorry to say this but I hope that guy burns in hell for taking advantage of people that way.

Your husband is brainwashed. His paster is probably telling God will provide and all that other nonsense as he runs you all into the poor house. I bet you this guy is doing other illegal things too. What a shame.

I would definitely put my foot down as far as exposing my children to this pastor who has questionable conduct. Your husband is an adult and has the right to do whatever he wishes. Your children are vulnerable to whatever this pastor says. I would have a talk with my husband and let him know that you are not comfortable associating with the "pastor" or having your children associate with him as well. Therefore, you will be taking your children to church with you every week. I would ask my husband if he would be willing to suspend ties with the pastor and if he says no, I would ask him to go to couple's counseling with a licensed therapist. If he is unwilling to do either, let him know that you will consult an attorney to bring charges against the pastor and possibly discuss legal separation/divorce proceedings. Let him know that you plan to do this with or without him, as the pastor has taken advantage of your husband and family.

The very best of luck to you.

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LAWSUIT! That's about the only way to get through to this "pastor" AND your husband. Now you can't testify against your hubby, but you sure can against the pastor. I'm still shaking my head at your parents and his parents agreeing to open credit cards in their names for this putz.... egads!

E.,
I mean this in the spirit of kindness: You really need to seek professional help from a licensed counselor. What has happened to your marriage and finances has extraordinary complications. Please find a licensed family therapist in your area.

You should also probably contact your state attorney general's office because it sounds as though you have been swindled.
I wish you the best,
M.

Sounds like a cult sad to say. I would meet with the pastor at your new church and fill him in and ask for his advice.
Pray for ýour husband that God would open his eyes and release him from this hold this person has on him. Pray that this "pastor" is exposed for the fraud he is. Ask for ýour friends and new church to cover you and your family in prayer and that God would protect you guys.

Lastly-- I would 100% not allow my children to go to any event with this church or this guy.